LoveShack.org

MY experince of https://www.loveshack.org is one of worst site ever made. They kept banned from there website that i did nothing wrong. I always one that i got attracked and cyberbullying for being a learning disabties women. They always kept banned me for each ac$#*! that i tried make a ac$#*! They are one that being rude and shut down the site. Shouldn't be legal anymore. Is shouldn't be open to all wesbiste. Let it die and be dead. I did nothing wrong. I was one that got cyberbullying from user.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=S6vlu1FRaic&time_continue=339

The woman on the video reminds me of some of the women who frequent that site. Heres an excerpt: The guy Im dating better give me his Facebook or else Im dumping him. If he doesnt give me his Facebook then hes probably hiding something. Hes a liar and a cheat. No wonder youre single. Here are the facts: You're old, and getting older, your competition is much younger, hotter and is sweet, has more personality and education than you and not a pain in the $#*! like you. Youre at Loveshack criticizing men for going after younger women hah. Better stock up on cat food es. Its gonna be a very, very long winter.

Loveshack tells you why. Look at all of the middle-aged and older couples on here, who dont know what theyre doing. Even when older posters are giving relationship advice, its flawed.

As a young woman, heres the message that I want to give to young posters who join Loveshack.

Why would you want to trust a bunch of old divorcees, who brag about banging 24-year old women? Why would you trust posters, who cant even type and spell properly? Chances are that you are more educated and informed than the baby boomers on there. Why would you trust people, who dont take responsibility for their failed relationships? Its sad when the original poster will make their ex look crazy, when they are part of the problem.

People are happy that this forum is back, because it enables their dysfunction and insecurity. Youre better off sharing your problems elsewhere. These people arent qualified to help you. This isnt the best relationship forum out there. Its not worth a young persons time.

This site was very helpful in 2013 when I faced my first heartbreak and needed advice, comfort and empathy that I could not find in real life. I did learn a lot about relationships, society and humanity. There were times when people were rude and harmful to those who were seeking out help. Many posters just wanted to be heard rather than help people, or wanted to provide 'tough love' when it was not in order. There were a lot of anti-feminists on there who use the word 'feminist' as an insult. The 'like' button was probably a bad thing. You give some advice and receive 0 likes, and the popular cool kid gives exactly the same advice 3 pages later with 10 likes. It is true about people ganging up on others, and if you stand up to the bullies then they will come after you. I like the spin-off site and found it so good and supportive but didn't realise they were just laughing behind my back. Heaven forbid your political opinions differ, or you challenge someone else's views. Most of the facts of life and relationships seem to be social, not brute facts. For many posters, there is no grey - just their own truth. I am sad that it is gone but I had enough of it anyway. Reading about problems all the time starts to get you down. Hard to let go of the site as it was the last chapter of that relationship I am still clinging to.

I've had good times on LS, "met" a few lovely people there, and have had several posters talk to me privately to tell me that I helped them. That, to me, is one of the best feelings in the world - knowing that you made a positive difference in someone else's life.

Unfortunately, for much of the last few years there, I've had a similar feeling while posting there that I did while living in a country that was run by a dictatorship who controlled the media and internet, where you had to watch every word you say otherwise you would be hauled in for questioning and jailed without trial. Having been on several other forums at the same time, I will say that I have never quite encountered such a draconian "enforcement" of rules. That was not the case several years ago, but really ramped up circa 2014 or so.

Yes, of course, there are other forums. I am surprised that anyone would be surprised by this. It's a free world (for most of us) and adults can do as they please. Posting on one forum does not mean you are not allowed to post on other forums. If the mere existence of "another forum" suffices to "pull posters away from LS", perhaps one might want to consider that they are having a better experience in the "other forum" than they are/were at LS, for a variety of reasons.

Anyway, RIP LS, and I hope the owner is doing okay. It's certainly not his fault, what LS became.

I have been off an on this site since 2006. I wish I could have archived my posts. I will especially miss seeing the ongoing diary of LostintheWild. Her story is something I have become fully invested in over the years. I hope she has a happy ending. I also hope LS'ers migrate elsewhere. The closest thing I can find is enotalone ---

(UPDATE: DO NOT USE ENOTALONE. The moderators here are worse than anything Loveshack has ever seen. Apparently I had made an account in 2007 and posted twice, which I didn't remember, so therefore made a new one. The new account said I was banned for multiple accounts. So I tried again. Again banned. Contacted Admin and he was a COMPLETE JERK telling me that I'm not reading what he's saying and I am banned forever. So ridiculous. So much for a "support system".

I don't know where Loveshackers go from here, but I'm sorry I ever suggested this terrible site.

About 15 years for a relationship website isn't bad going. Now is just the right time to bow out, imo. Not sure all the stories were 100% kosher, but it was super entertaining. Most of the regulars were a bit egomaniac, some acted that they owned the place despite giving pretty poor advice sometimes, the mods were irrational at times but there were some people in genuine distress who really needed that outside perspective that was missing from their life. The 'tough love' was a bit over the top at times too; plenty of regulars seriously lacked empathy or care; they were just there to make themselves feel better or laugh at other people's expenses.

A lot of the regulars migrated to that other invite-only site (Diversion Forum, still very active) and tried to poach LS members they found 'worthy' to join them by sending them invites via pms on LS and had to swear to keep their forum a secret once they joined. I am reliably told they have a very active section dedicated to trash-talking LS posters or trying to find their personal data or name behind their backs, while still giving advice to them on LS.

The anonymity of some of the posters was defo compromised without their consent because of it so in legal terms, LS being taken down must be a positive.

It's a shame that the web forum has gone down and seems to be remaining down, as a long time poster and lurker there I miss it and also miss the connection I had with the posters there.
Moderation was tops and they did what they could do with what they were given as tools to moderate with.
As someone in the know I can say have no idea the tough items they had to deal with on a day by day basis and when you are dealing what some would say 10 year old children who think they can take out their anger on others. Each of those people would take up moderation time and many times not in mins but in hours and as many posters have already mentioned, moderation was voluntary and a gift to the owner of LoveShack
I think it's disgusting that an adult would take out their hate and anger toward another person in the review process of a website instead of just reviewing the website.
William is one of the reasons that LoveShack was still around, when faced with a group of haters who did nothing more on Loveshack than cause trouble for ALL of moderation and other posters he took the appropriate action and took out the trash, at least that is how I saw it or witnessed it happening.
I posted on LoveShack for the better part of 12/13 years and think it was stellar.
BTW, I had and have a rich full life with a full time job and family so the idea that someone has no life to have to post there is just nuts and goes to show more undeserved bitterness bestowed upon the posters there.

Hopefully we haven't seen the last of LoveShack and will one day be back to posting there.

Loveshack is no more. Perhaps all the negative reviews here killed it?

I liked some of the more philosophical and political discussions, and enjoyed engaging with people I didn't always agree with. That's where a site like LS can excel - in more general discussions about relationships, life and philosophy. I think people seeking advice tailored to their specific situation often ended up regretting putting their very personal stuff out there.

Was never a fan of Carhill/William. Various regulars gave him the nickname of "Carbundy" after he went through a phase of using pictures of Ted Bundy for his avatar. Every so often, I'd see a post from him where he'd express a wish to see the herd of humanity thinned out by some great plague or atrocity. Well, he certainly thinned out the herd on LS... and I'm not surprised to see that the site has finally died a death.

It's a shame it's completely disappeared though. Back in the day, before WillCarbundy took over and started banning anybody who swore, said anything remotely sarcastic or ventured a fraction outside the strict parameters he applied to discussions, some pretty great conversations and the odd bit of fun drama happened on that forum. Posters on it became real life friends, some even got married... so it's sad that it ended on such a low note.

I was a member for some years until it crashed or died for good in late march 2018.

I was quite enthusiastic first, the forum then seemed like a mostly good community. Some pretty blunt and direct posters -- if you said something out of the line or plain dumb, but no worse than other forums on the internet.

I was also moderated fairly often, I was put in the cooler a couple times for profanity though never aimed at anyone, then I learned about the very strict policy of William and Robert to never use cuss words. All good, so far. I was barely moderated for the last year I was there.

Some genuine and insightful members contributed over the years, others were bullies, probably unhappy with their own lives and ten of thousands posts on an obscure vBulletin forum that was probably going to die someday, since PAUL (Founder) abandonned the ship many years back anyway and never seemed to care much about his own site anymore.

Not going to further bash William or Robert, they did a good job at getting rid of trolls, spammers. I don't know how or why the site died, but it's a closed chapter for me, even if it's back someday.

I stumbled on the Loveshack forums around 2011, and the info from others' life experience and advice there helped me to relearn relationship behavior and analyzation, leading me through a lot of difficult personal self-examination and eventually to a very healthy relationship:)

Of the several relationship forums I read and contributed to, this one was the most active and wide-ranging. I didn't agree with everyone's thoughts, but the majority of posters were obviously contemplative adults, which I really appreciated.

It was of course a narrow view into human psychology, but a valuable one for me. It was so much more interesting and productive to spend minutes or hours there during a week than Facebook, and I now I miss it as part of my life.

Features I especially liked were the 'like' button for each post which provided encouraging feedback and a reference if you weren't sure advice was worthwhile that others did or didn't think it was worthwhile, the easily navigable main menu, and the many separate topic boards. There were rarely any spam messages left up more than a few minutes - only real questions and real replies, and a few lonely or trollish posters (who are still real people, not advertising bots). It was quite rare to go a day without a thread being replied to many times - and typically several new threads were begun each day. A very active board :)

I have been a long time member of LS. Almost a decade. I joined with a simple question and stayed there for 9 years. For the most part I had a decent experience. That is until a new batch of Moderators were hired and showed themselves as agenda driven SJW wannabes... which would be ok if they actually did their jobs and moderate troll instead of people getting solid real world advice. Discourse and spirited conversation has been replaced by political correctness on steroids. Even innocuous posts are subject to editing by these fools. I also noticed that those who were "Supporting Members" (aka people who actually are dumb enough to shell out money to get ad free posting) were given Carte Blanche to basically demean anyone at anytime, while a guy who has been there almost a decade like me were given short shrift with my posts being edited and or deleted due to the entirely subjective whims of the moderators. Finally after almost 10 years of giving rock solid and objective advice, the capricious and arbitrary nature of the moderation drove me away never to return. So lets review:

If you want a place where placation and blowing smoke up the dresses of people who need help, and want to become a Supporting member and pay for the privilege to toe a line of SJW groupthink, then Loveshack is the place for you. If you want to provide valuable objective advice to those in need of it, just start your own website.

The moderators killed that site.