LoveShack.org

The annoying mod language police will question any post they don't like. Even when your comment is helpful and well intended. Avoid loveshack if possible. Super strict nuts

I felt considerably annoyed and somewhat emotionally worse after seeing the replies that I received from my post.

Time and time again most of the people on this site will invalidate your feelings or experiences. If you can't take the advice they give you they see it as your fault or that you're lying.

A lot of the people on this site are bitter, unlikable, unsocialized elderly people who purposely try to make you feel worse. It is black and white with them.

I know that I'm being a little vague but that's the basic run down on this site. Nothing more, nothing less. The idea of the site is great, but the users and trolls that it brings along with it hinders it's potential. I don't see this site being up for much longer.

Most of the time, if you post anything that doesn't fit the liberal narrative, it will be deleted and your account will be suspended, no matter how civil and polite you are. Only libertarian and conservative leaning posts get deleted while progressives can insult anyone they disagree with impunity. They must have hired rejects from Facebook and Twitter because it is the same kind of mindset.
Don't waste your time posting there.

:Loveshack, sadly looks finished. Posts are weeks or months old, little new. So people went to other sites, I guess. Where? I am a very longtime member. I enjoyed reading and commenting, but then the mods began deleting, banning members for reasons unknown. Three women who had interesting things to say were gone, then it went downhill. The mods will not even permit discussion of the forum, a strange group. Under other leadership, it would flourish again. Yes, it is pro-women feminist and a complaining male might get hit hard. I was always misinterpreted,. Infidelity is criticized. Social forums are usually liberalish PC and this is the same.
I am disappointed.

Hi all!

I don't usually go out of my way to write negative reviews of inter-relationship advice fora online but I will make an exception for this one.

Absolutely dreadful.

The moderation is either AWOL or incapable of making quick, un-biased decisions (you can tell by the way everyone knows everyone else by name). The regulars are fine mostly - it's the constant, unchecked stream of newcomers who post dramatic one-off posts never to be seen again - I guess they know what to expect!

Anyway. I left off my own accord and have asked for all my posts / threads to be deleted and / or hidden (not entirely clear on the policy on this, tbh) - they agreed (unusual for them) so at least there is that going for them.

I needed a place to vent as I am currently cheating on my wife (long story) and I received nothing but support and kindness. LS is by far the fairest dating advice website. Where else can you find like-minded people who understand that sometimes, when you're not getting from the wife, it's completely fine to find it elsewhere. I owe these members my sanity. I'm keeping the mistress on sight with very clever backstories. Those who know will know, ie my wife is crazy, she had a lover first, I'm so sad in my marriage, she doesn't understand me like you do, she got too comfortable and put on too much weight, etc. LS is great at getting tips that way.

If I could, I would give more. It's so comfortable it feels like home.

There are a group of women on there that give very cruel responses to women who have been cheated on. These women have post histories of 22,000+ on LoveShack so I suspect they work for LoveShack and are on there to trigger and gain an audience. They gang up and bully. They were/are probably mistresses as they take the side of the mistresses. Not a supportive place.

MEAN people.

When a mistress is on there complaining about her MM lover, these women are so supportive. It HAS to be a set up to trigger people.

Don't post your problems because you will feel worse and even MORE frustrated. The board is full of either paid responders who purposefully trigger or pure trolls who post thousands of responses and have been members for years and years.

I created an account almost 2 weeks ago because I have a situation.

The situation is that, I am a convicted felon and I met a woman who is a Criminal Defense Attorney. I did my due diligence and found out that a lawyer would not lose her law license if she dates a convicted felon.

I went on this site and asked how should I disclose my felony conviction to this woman and I received so many troll users with insincere posts, especially the user normal person. They kept telling me to leave her alone, blah blah blah. When I gave them a piece of my mind, I would get warnings from the moderation team to be respectful. They eventually locked my thread and I just deactivated my account.

Here is what I got attached from the moderation team.

My experience with the mods left a bitter taste. They clearly don't share similar values and their replies are rude and condescending...it seems they like to trigger a response instead provide advice

Maybe I'm looking at it through rose tinted glasses, but my memories of this from years ago were of a lively community with various interesting, annoying, fun characters making each other laugh, making each other angry and generally entertaining and annoying each other in the way that real people do when they're not afraid of their own shadows.

If you're a regular from those previous times who's self isolating after testing positive for covid, returning to this community will be a really depressing experience. That community seems to be long gone. I don't know who's running what's left of Loveshack, but I'd imagine them being the sort of well intentioned but drab, humorless authoritarians who earnestly believe they're accomplishing something positive as they suck the life and fun out of everything.

I came to Loveshack seeking some solace and comfort after a tough breakup, which I received, primarily from the cadre of middle-aged women who post there regularly. I will always appreciate that. However, once I became a regular poster, it became clear that on a forum offering dating advice, certain types of advice oriented toward men were against the prevailing feminist groupthink. Any advice to be more confident and assertive with women was often met with retorts that my advice was "PUA games" etc. The idea being that men who are not confident with women should remain that way and hope a woman comes along who finds that adorable.

What eventually got me banned was my inability to get along with the SJWs who infested the political forums, with the mods fully in their corner.

I'm glad I got banned, as I was wasting a lot of time posting there. But there are some good and compassionate people there.

Not sure why there are no positive reviews since 2018, but there are so many trolls and haters that they had to create a forum for them to chew on.
There are still relationship and whatever other forums but they do not get the traffic that the 'Proselytization & Warmongering' forums have. Sometimes wonder if the DOJ shut them down in 2018 as a hate group.
The site does have an easy to use ignore feature so it's possible to block out the sexist, racist, homophobic, Islamophobic, antisemitic rants so prevalent there.
Unfortunately the advice on the other threads is generally along the same vein as the old timers and trolls prefer.

Good grief, Loveshack had been around for so long - what? 15 years? More? There were some incredibly insightful posts in certain forums. Study in human nature if you hung around long enough to see the patterns and repeat circumstances.

Yeah, it got bogged down in repetition, and sometimes the moderation seemed arbitrary. But not really. The moderators had a thankless job. Can't imagine what they got out of it, but I always respected the herculean effort. There was a vision of sorts.

I was so shocked at what Paul P. Said about the invite-only forum pulling LS members away. So that's where they went! This all now feels like middle school. Real life is better, but it's still disappointing.

And compromising the anonymity of members? That's scary, but how? I'm a bit skeptical about that.