LoveShack.orgReviews 91

The annoying mod language police will question any post they don't like. Even when your comment is helpful and well intended. Avoid loveshack if possible. Super strict nuts

I felt considerably annoyed and somewhat emotionally worse after seeing the replies that I received from my post.

Time and time again most of the people on this site will invalidate your feelings or experiences. If you can't take the advice they give you they see it as your fault or that you're lying.

A lot of the people on this site are bitter, unlikable, unsocialized elderly people who purposely try to make you feel worse. It is black and white with them.

I know that I'm being a little vague but that's the basic run down on this site. Nothing more, nothing less. The idea of the site is great, but the users and trolls that it brings along with it hinders it's potential. I don't see this site being up for much longer.

My experience with the mods left a bitter taste. They clearly don't share similar values and their replies are rude and condescending...it seems they like to trigger a response instead provide advice

:Loveshack, sadly looks finished. Posts are weeks or months old, little new. So people went to other sites, I guess. Where? I am a very longtime member. I enjoyed reading and commenting, but then the mods began deleting, banning members for reasons unknown. Three women who had interesting things to say were gone, then it went downhill. The mods will not even permit discussion of the forum, a strange group. Under other leadership, it would flourish again. Yes, it is pro-women feminist and a complaining male might get hit hard. I was always misinterpreted,. Infidelity is criticized. Social forums are usually liberalish PC and this is the same.
I am disappointed.

I came to Loveshack seeking some solace and comfort after a tough breakup, which I received, primarily from the cadre of middle-aged women who post there regularly. I will always appreciate that. However, once I became a regular poster, it became clear that on a forum offering dating advice, certain types of advice oriented toward men were against the prevailing feminist groupthink. Any advice to be more confident and assertive with women was often met with retorts that my advice was "PUA games" etc. The idea being that men who are not confident with women should remain that way and hope a woman comes along who finds that adorable.

What eventually got me banned was my inability to get along with the SJWs who infested the political forums, with the mods fully in their corner.

I'm glad I got banned, as I was wasting a lot of time posting there. But there are some good and compassionate people there.

There are a group of women on there that give very cruel responses to women who have been cheated on. These women have post histories of 22,000+ on LoveShack so I suspect they work for LoveShack and are on there to trigger and gain an audience. They gang up and bully. They were/are probably mistresses as they take the side of the mistresses. Not a supportive place.

MEAN people.

When a mistress is on there complaining about her MM lover, these women are so supportive. It HAS to be a set up to trigger people.

Don't post your problems because you will feel worse and even MORE frustrated. The board is full of either paid responders who purposefully trigger or pure trolls who post thousands of responses and have been members for years and years.

I needed a place to vent as I am currently cheating on my wife (long story) and I received nothing but support and kindness. LS is by far the fairest dating advice website. Where else can you find like-minded people who understand that sometimes, when you're not getting from the wife, it's completely fine to find it elsewhere. I owe these members my sanity. I'm keeping the mistress on sight with very clever backstories. Those who know will know, ie my wife is crazy, she had a lover first, I'm so sad in my marriage, she doesn't understand me like you do, she got too comfortable and put on too much weight, etc. LS is great at getting tips that way.

If I could, I would give more. It's so comfortable it feels like home.

MY experince of https://www.loveshack.org is one of worst site ever made. They kept banned from there website that i did nothing wrong. I always one that i got attracked and cyberbullying for being a learning disabties women. They always kept banned me for each ac$#*! that i tried make a ac$#*! They are one that being rude and shut down the site. Shouldn't be legal anymore. Is shouldn't be open to all wesbiste. Let it die and be dead. I did nothing wrong. I was one that got cyberbullying from user.

The above describes my experience in a nutshell. While I commend the vigilance and attentiveness employed in maintaining the site, favoritism seems to run rampant, and if you're a sporadic poster, not one of moderators' valued members, they will flag you and silence you like it's no one's business. An established poster can unapologetically reply with a "LOL wut" to your message, but if you 'reply in kind', you will be deemed hostile and argumentative. The reasons as such given will be vague, applied arbitrarily, and your requests for elaborating will fall into a non-acknowledged trashbin.

Established members can also run free with a one-size-fits all approach on any issues from a post with barely any acknowledgement that they have read the finer points, and if someone challenges the notion using language as 'flagrant' as "yeah, right...", that someone will be silenced.

Do not recommend unless you have very thick skin, enjoy seeing people with legitimate issues thrown to the virtual mob, or your discussion style is basic with a healthy dose of fake moralising.

Maybe I'm looking at it through rose tinted glasses, but my memories of this from years ago were of a lively community with various interesting, annoying, fun characters making each other laugh, making each other angry and generally entertaining and annoying each other in the way that real people do when they're not afraid of their own shadows.

If you're a regular from those previous times who's self isolating after testing positive for covid, returning to this community will be a really depressing experience. That community seems to be long gone. I don't know who's running what's left of Loveshack, but I'd imagine them being the sort of well intentioned but drab, humorless authoritarians who earnestly believe they're accomplishing something positive as they suck the life and fun out of everything.

Hi all!

I don't usually go out of my way to write negative reviews of inter-relationship advice fora online but I will make an exception for this one.

Absolutely dreadful.

The moderation is either AWOL or incapable of making quick, un-biased decisions (you can tell by the way everyone knows everyone else by name). The regulars are fine mostly - it's the constant, unchecked stream of newcomers who post dramatic one-off posts never to be seen again - I guess they know what to expect!

Anyway. I left off my own accord and have asked for all my posts / threads to be deleted and / or hidden (not entirely clear on the policy on this, tbh) - they agreed (unusual for them) so at least there is that going for them.

I created an account almost 2 weeks ago because I have a situation.

The situation is that, I am a convicted felon and I met a woman who is a Criminal Defense Attorney. I did my due diligence and found out that a lawyer would not lose her law license if she dates a convicted felon.

I went on this site and asked how should I disclose my felony conviction to this woman and I received so many troll users with insincere posts, especially the user normal person. They kept telling me to leave her alone, blah blah blah. When I gave them a piece of my mind, I would get warnings from the moderation team to be respectful. They eventually locked my thread and I just deactivated my account.

Here is what I got attached from the moderation team.

Most of the time, if you post anything that doesn't fit the liberal narrative, it will be deleted and your account will be suspended, no matter how civil and polite you are. Only libertarian and conservative leaning posts get deleted while progressives can insult anyone they disagree with impunity. They must have hired rejects from Facebook and Twitter because it is the same kind of mindset.
Don't waste your time posting there.

I wanted to find a forum where I could discuss relationship issues with others in a safe, friendly and supportive environment. This is how it is advertised. While there were some members who were supportive and helpful, and some challenging, but not threatening, it quickly descended into a hatefest against me, including some quite serious defamations and libels that were not being tackled by the mods, and may even have been perpetrated by them. For example, my admission that I find a 24-year-old woman attractive was turned into suggestion that I was creepy and a paedophile. This is the level it descended to.

Many people who frequent sites such as these are emotionally vulnerable, and while it may be gratifying to demolish them in public, it is really quite harmful, in violation of their own terms of use, and probably verging on the criminal. I dread to think how many suicides these people are sparking off by their nasty comments.

I had deactivated my account and asked for all my records and the thread I initiated to be deleted from their server. Whether it will be or not remains to be seen. My guess is that they will crosslink the vile things said about me across social media, and I could face a Twitter storm of hate in due course, which is perhaps what these people enjoy doing to others.

Avoid this forum like the plague!

Not sure why there are no positive reviews since 2018, but there are so many trolls and haters that they had to create a forum for them to chew on.
There are still relationship and whatever other forums but they do not get the traffic that the 'Proselytization & Warmongering' forums have. Sometimes wonder if the DOJ shut them down in 2018 as a hate group.
The site does have an easy to use ignore feature so it's possible to block out the sexist, racist, homophobic, Islamophobic, antisemitic rants so prevalent there.
Unfortunately the advice on the other threads is generally along the same vein as the old timers and trolls prefer.

What started out as a relatively positive experience was quickly soured by mods who arbitrarily delete posts and issue "Friendly Reminders", which are essentially a soft ban that requires the person's posts to be approved by a moderator for a specified number of days, without any explanation as to why or what the "violation" was. When you observe the moderator edits to other posts it is clear that they regularly edit and delete posts they personally disagree with. I discussed this issue with several long-time members of the site who confirmed that it is a chronic issue that they have experienced varying levels of frustration with over the years.

I expressed concerns about the site being a place of censorship when Paul, the owner, made an announcement that they were removing one of the reaction options and those concerns were actualized by the site's moderators.

Additionally, there is a fringe group of very jaded women who attack and discredit the advice that some men, like myself and others, gave to other men when it comes to dating. Advising members of my own gender on how to be more confident, build chemistry, and make more meaningful connections with women is bashed and discredited as "Pick Up Artist" advice by this particular group of women. One such woman said that inviting a woman out to dinner for a first date instead of the default "coffee date" was nothing more than a manipulative "technique" to pressure women into dates they felt obligated to go on with the purpose of getting them drunk and taking advantage of them. Unbelievable.

There is also a considerable Groupthink phenomenon running rampant on LS. It is the blind leading the blind on that site, with people giving terrible advice that doesn't work and only perpetuates the same dating woes that lead to them giving the terrible advice in the first place. One such person said that 80% of her first dates - primarily to coffee shops - never lead to a second date, which is why she went on coffee dates in the first place and also why she said she "doesn't bother to build chemistry". It was circular reasoning at its finest, but people liked the advice, agreed with it, and bashed the advice that actually works or that exposed the flaws in that kind of thinking. These are people who have little to no interest in actual personal growth or self-improvement and clearly just want to stay stuck and justify their own flawed ways of doing things that repeatedly lead to failure so that they can continue to set themselves up for more of it.

Taken collectively, this is one of the worst forums of any kind that I've ever participated on and I won't be returning.

Terrible site. This place condones affairs and thinks any woman with a child has a free pass to sleep with married men. Stay far away from this site if you care about your relationship.