Plenty of FishReviews 2,010

I would say I had a somewhat different experience than what I am reading here.

Did POF for six months in 2014. I was 49 (male). I had good pics but far from a male model. I have a good job but far from wealthy. I live in a small city (60K pop) with 200k metro.

I found it quite easy to get into conversations. In fact I could hardly engage in a text conversation with all of the women who offered their numbers. Also getting a meeting in person was not difficult. Easily could have met 3 a week if I had the energy.

My approach was to start with a light first message. I always referenced something in the woman's profile (no-one likes a form letter). Also I generally kept the convo light until they clearly signaled they wanted to meet.

Now were these women people I wanted to date? Sadly no. They were nice enough, but not attractive (to me). Actually the process was tiring.

I went back on last night just to see if it was similar. 30 minutes I was offered a phone number. I am guessing not much has change.

As a non-paying member, this is the site that gives the least free features out of all the dating sites. They'll show you photos of members, and you can indicate if you're interested. But, lol, they will send you a notification saying, "(This member) wants to meet you. All excited, you click on the link, and there's a blurred out photo. You can somewhat make out where they are from, so you do a search. But you will never find a profile with their name. They will never show up in your matches. So, are they real? Or you're playing a hard hardball, POF? "Oh, you both want to meet? No, we will only allow you to connect if you give us $$. POF." Have ya ever gone fishin? Ya sit there ALL day, catch nothin', and think "Well, that was a waste of time?". Get ready for a lot of thinkin'.

DO NOT join this site if you are a man as there must be 200+ guys to every woman and unless you look like James Bond you will be ignored regardless of what kind of woman you message.
I will be honest and say there are not many decent females on the site but ALL of them think they are a great catch and will normally have a HUGE list of what boxes you must tick before you can send them mail, it is bordering on ridiculous there is way they could be so picky and OTT if they weren't getting tons of messages everyday. Plain Janes cant be picky unless they are on POF

The majority of women are either teachers who have no social life, people with low intelligence and the IQ of a slug or women that say that they are independent and cant understand why are 34 they haven't got a man!
They all love travelling and going on road trips even if they dont drive which always makes me laugh.

What you have is a bunch of plain jane/chunky women all wanting a guy on his white horse to rescue them and give them a life of luxury.

I did send one message but her profile was so long to read fully so I just sent a Hi how are you doing this Wednesday? But apparently her profile contained a keyword which you must say when you messaged her so she knew you had read all her profile, I kid you not, and because I didn't mention this word she abused me then blocked me. This is how I know there are way too many men on this site otherwise how could they get away with being so rude and nasty to a potential partner?

The photos aren't just of the women, they also like for some unknown reason like to put up photos of cakes, paintings and pics of their pets kissing their dogs

I wouldn't recommend signing up to this site but its worth browsing just to see how online dating has made women out of touch with reality. Rename the site Chunkies with attitude

Never seen such many rude plain trampy unintelligent women in my life. This site is vile and the women everything you wouldn't want from a decent partner. No wonder nobody wants them. Rude aggressive untouchable pigs

The first profile i saw said if you only say hi how are you then I'll delete you. What kind of way is that to talk to people you're wanting to date?

You need to tick about 20 boxes before they'll even consider a reply to you. I. Wouldn't mind if they were nice pleasant and attractive but 99% are aggressive deluded and unattractive. Total waste of time and effort even setting up a profile if you're a man.

I honestly don't know how they have the cheek to be how they are. If the internet wasn't around these lot would be single forever yet act like princesses online

Don't feed their egos by messaging them. If enough men stopped sending these vulgar beasts messages maybe their behaviour would improve

PS what's with all the fake reviews that only written to mention justfit like the one below?

Let me educate the men on here who are upset that they can't find a decent woman. From a woman point of view the women you are messaging probably have trust issues for one. As a woman who only been on POF for less than a year, I was sexually assaulted and I have had what appeared to be a pimp trying to get me to meet up with him, even sent me a very degrading message. All men who messaged me wanted my phone number right away and when I first signed up and didn't know any better I would give my number which leaded to the men wanting to come to my place and wanted to sleep with me, so I stopped giving out my number and expressed just wanting to chat and getting to know people first, which leaded to men not talking to me anymore. There are many stories of women being sexually assaulted by men on POF, so there's the answer to why many of you men can't find a woman who's so willing. Then there's also your married men or men who have girlfriends who want to just text you. I had a guy get so mad at me for calling him that he made me feel like sh*t. Many are Construction workers who only have time to text, but not talk, so be aware ladies. I also had a few run ins with what I believe were pimps. Although I am still on POF I don't see myself being on there much longer. I rather be safe than sorry. Guys, don't blame most of us women, blame the men who are the real ones making it hard for you by being dishonest and even going as far as assaulting women. I even heard stories of women being full blown raped.

What I learned from POF, if a guy is truly interested in getting to know you, he will respect you not wanting to give out your personal information right away. He wouldn't mind video chatting or meeting up in a public place. Don't be so quick to go to his place or invite him to yours, or even give him your number. This site is a huge risk. I'm sure there are some nice guys, but that's if you can make it through the crazy ones first.

I gave this site two stars out of generosity. I should give them one. As you can see there are plenty of one star reviews for this site and that should tell you something. You have to do a lot of searching before you finally meet a match if in fact that ever happens. A lot of writing and reading and nothing develops. Even when you are matched with someone that is supposedly compatible nothing happens. I still have a profile on there but I have lost almost all hope. I go on there from time to time for maybe a minute or two and am done. A lot of fish but nothing biting. You are probably better off going somewhere to meet people than this online crap.

While not a paying member, I have been using this site for a couple of months and have met some nice guys.
There are some who write and immediately want my phone number/email address. I insist on staying on the site for initial communications. Some never write back after that. If they're that impatient, no great loss. Others do not read my profile (in spite of the fact that I attempt, patiently, to direct them to it), and insist on asking me questions that are answered on my profile, or they say they've read it and have ignored the important parts. Sometimes I just give up on those guys (I'm thinking, "What, you have a Master's/PhD?"). And then there are those who say something like, "Ask me anything", and they don't answer when you ask, even twice.
I've also seen two or three profiles (probably with phony pictures) that say exactly the same thing, word-for-word! They say they have "No pets", but write glowingly about their dog, Max!
There are lots of guys on there who are from other countries, and some don't say what they mean (or the opposite!). They are so difficult to understand or communicate with that I generally try to steer clear of them, without being rude.
I still have hopes of meeting some really nice guys I've been corresponding with/talking with on the phone, and others as well. Sometimes schedules just don't mesh! And even as a non-paying member, I found that I can write to those who
"fave" me, by clicking on the tabs and their pictures/screen names. Sometimes they even show a picture of someone who "wants to meet" me (click on the number of views at the top of the page), and if they're new, I can find them on "New Users" and click to see their profile.
If you join, happy fishing! Maybe you'll find me!

I am finding too many frauds lying about general information and fake profiles. I can figure it out pretty fast so not sure what the fake profiles are trying to do. Very disappointing and aggravating! I'm in south florida and trying to find a decent man close to my age. I am 49 but considered really good looking and in-shape since I eat pretty healthy and workout. So can't find men with enough common interests and also good looking to me and in-shape with good personality. I'm shocked how people in general don't take care of themselves where the weather is beautiful. And, yes, plenty of weirdos on here... Should be called POW.

I'm a good looking guy. I wouldn't call myself athletic, but I do exercise, eat right and take care of myself. So I signed up for POF.com to try for some summer dating. I go through all their nonsense and start searching. It didn't matter how wide I threw my net. When I searched for body type "skinny", "athletic", or even "average", I came up with goose eggs - zero! So let's try "a few extra pounds". OK got something. Taking a look, these gals are all fatties being flattering about their obesity. I'm pretty sure everyone's taking about 10-20 years off their age too. And whew - the picky descriptions about exactly what kinda guys these ladies are looking for! Sorry, I'm going up to strangers in the supermarket and asking for phone numbers before I talk up any of these demanding old fatties online!

What an absolute haggle of trout's on here. Nasty rude aggressive and picky. They all think they're entitlement to the best

Take a look at the headlines.
Are you the one I'm looking for?
Make me laugh
Why should I pick you?

The women should get tickets on themselves.
Check the professions for a laugh. Being amazing. Being Me. Being a princess. Stay At Home Mum (since when has that been a profession?)

They stick their tongues out in the photos. Make outlandish demands from men and are basically the dregs nobody else wants

I actually got messaged first by a woman but all she did was talk about herself and asked nothing about me. I sent a message but got told it was too generic. Yes I'm going to spend a hour composing a message you'll ignore anyway

It seems they have either mental issues, are immature, don't like men, are just on the site messing about or seem to think they are some kind of goddess expecting the perfect man to rock up to their pathetic profile and message them.

Don't know if it's the culture of the day or the internet that's caused it but the vast majority of woman on here have a real chip on their shoulders and even when they're average at best they want some tall dark handsome man and won't compromise

Good riddance I'd sooner be single

Stay away from Bill Lee who lives in Mesquite. He was nice the first month then he flipped his crazy switch. He messed up alot and always tries to turn it around on you. Lied alot about where he was so he could be with his ex Sabrina. He says he's in a band but all he is the bands gofer. Gets their drinks and gets them dates & they're all married. He says he's a teacher. He's not licensed or certified to be a teacher. He works at a day care. He likes calling women bad nasty names when you call him out. Never ever go to his trailer house! Bathroom is nasty and his house smells like cat piss. His couch and bed have bed bugs... nasty. He once pulled down my 2 year old grandsons underwear while he was walking by and thought it was funny. He's crazy, nasty, and not right in the head.