OkCupid

So, the fact was that I tried out loads of dating websites last four years and OK Cupid was one of such, it's usability was 'A' okay (user friendly) but my complain is that based on it's history on the list of top dating site, OKCupid had the potential to be the best of the best, it's progressive progression is so slow to the point that it's less to be desired after using the platform for a long period of time. But on a scale of 1 - 10 I'll still rate OKCupid a hard 6.

The email address and password I've used for years suddenly denies me access to "my account." I've had enough.

Please cancel my account under Kurt Austermann, Medford, Oregon.

OKCupid has a nice interface and the questions it asks are a good way to get to know someone. The people (at least in my experience) seem real. I've used it in the past, been on loads of dates and met my last long-term relationship from there.

Having recently become single, I decided to try it out again. Unfortunately, they have changed the site in such a way that only messages from people who have 'matched' will be seen. Basic dating site maths means this enormously reduces the chances of meeting someone you get on with, and your messages aren't likely to even reach the inbox of the intended recipient. At the same time, if someone has messaged you, you won't see it unless you've seen and swiped right on their profile beforehand. You might have been sent a dozen messages and not know about any of them.

A really nice site, spoiled by a weird attempt to kill off connections between people. It's still possible to eventually match with people by spending hours swiping away like a drone, but remember that there are many times more men than women on here, so the chances that you'll even be shown to a woman as a possible match if you're male are pretty low (assuming it randomises users when showing them on the match screen).

The changes have significantly reduced the popularity of the site, but I suspect they were done as someone's pet project and they're too stubborn to reverse things.

I'm now having more luck elsewhere, hopefully they'll see sense and change it back.

I went on this site after my son found a nice woman who he's now been with for three years.

In the year I've been on the site I've had several coffee dates but only got past a one or two date situation once and we saw each other for three months before deciding it wasn't working for us.

Everyone I've met has been nice and looked like their pictures or better. A few encounters never got past the messaging stage but for the most part they were OK experiences. You will get messages from obvious scammers but all you have to do is block them.

After a year I see many of the same faces so after having decided they won't work for me it narrows the field down considerably and I lose interest for awhile.

I have a woman friend on OKCupid and as I had suspected it's a whole different type of experience for a woman. She showed me the types of messages she's received and it seems for every guy who seems sincere there are 10 smarmy or downright creepy guys. I can't believe how douchey some of those guys are.

My son is very happy though and I think he and his girlfriend will probably get married.

An update: I met a woman on okcupid about 5 months ago and things are going great between us. I think this one may last.

This site has a lot going for it.

A) it's free -- can't beat that
B) it has a high percentage of queer folks, something other sites don't
C) they send you emails recommending matches, if you don't have time to search

On the downside

A) the searching aspect is really cumbersome. I find that clicking "Browse Matches" just shows the same old people I've seen for like a decade. (I've been on it a while.) But the trick is to click on the lower right hand corner, where it shows you a few new people. (Hard to explain, but you'll see when you use it.)

B) It tends to attract bisexuals and poly people, which may be a plus for some, but isn't for me

C) Some of the people on it are crazy, but that's true wherever you go

D) You can't see which people liked you without paying a fee, though sending and receiving messages is free

E) their profiles ask some stupid questions and their matching system is messed up

F) I find that months will go by before I see anyone new and interesting on this site

Overall, though, it's better than any other site I've used. Match, HowaboutWe and JDate included. Still, I think they could do better.

I think, hands down, ok cupid is the best free site... and coming close to the best site overall. It has thousands of questions and tests... the more you answer, the closer it can match you (so it claims) though some of the matches are baffling. It also forms a personality profile on you based on your question answers and test results. There also seem to be a wider variety of people on this site than most.

UNFORTUNATELY, match.com bought ok cupid a couple of years ago. And they've slowly been removing functionality from the site ever since. Dumbing it down, removing useful features... by stealth. For instance, you cannot locate profiles without pictures now if you do a search. Before it was a checkable option. They've removed the Forum and Blog component entirely... where many members were complaining about the recent changes. Now they no longer show you when your 'favourites' are on line... a useful feature.

Perhaps these features will return one day... with a price tag on them. But, from a commercial point of view, it doesn't make much sense for match.com to maintain a free site they own... that is a much better dating site than their pay site. It's only going to get worse.

You've been warned.

I can only claim three days experience but in that time I wasted many hours answering almost 2000 questions only to have my entire profile vanish.

Next day I tried to log in and it said "account deleted"

Today I created another account because I wanted to use the forum to find help. You can read problems others had in the forum but you cannot post unless you log in. When you do log in you cannot access the forum... it just redirects you back to the home page. Basically you cannot complain about problems.

10 minutes after creating the account ( no info in profile yet) I went back to log in and it said "account deleted"?

Now several hours I can again log in to the test account but my primary account still says "deleted".

These are classic signs when a company like this is in trouble and about to close its doors, technical problems go unresolved, forums and blogs are disabled for comment, support emails go unanswered.

I won't waste those hours again. If they fix the problem and I can finally access my account again and have not lost that work I will give it a try. But if they lost everything then I give up.

A site like this, hype aside, is useless if it does not function and they won't fix it.

UPDATE: 1/6/14

Well now that I created a new account in order to try to gain access to forums to complain, that account was also deleted. Bottom line, these people refuse to let anyone complain about anything. If you do you will not get any response or support, they will simply delete your account without any warning or explanation.

I had utilized OKCupid before between 2012 to around 2019. I was able to land a number of quasi successful relationships. Years later, when I was in a place in which I felt online dating was called for again, I decided to return to OKCupid, especially after reading on one news site that compared dating apps, and noted that a strength of OKCupid was the large database of participants. I pulled the trigger and set up my profile. I was very surprised by the number of likes that I had received, especially compared to other dating apps I had tried. I received 80 within a 24 hour period! I should have been more suspicious than I was. Thinking that I did not want to miss out on an opportunity, I decided to do something that I did not originally plan, that is to purchase a premium service. I went with the mid-tier 3 month for just under $90. When the transaction was complete and I could see who actually supplied those likes, I IMMEDIATELY regretted my decision and felt like I had blown close to $100. Only two of the likes came from my home state. The vast majority of them came from Kenya, Uganda, Philippines, and Thailand. I had even applied a 25 mile limit in my preference section. What's worse is that I had emailed OKCupid customer service to address my displeasure of this interface design, and voiced that I thought there was some deception involved in getting their customers to go premium, but after several days, they have not even bothered to respond. On top of that, the selection of local singles/participants is quite limited. Avoid OKCupid at all cost.

This site is free to swipe through a deck and it has good filter options. Don't pay to see likes. Likes is an accumulation of people who liked you, even if you didnt hit like on them. So in short, if someone liked you and you swiped left, they are still counted in the 99+ of likes you see waiting. This is in addition to the new persons who like you that you have not yet seen plus the ones you swiped right on. So yes folks you CAN see likes. You will see them eventually in the mixed stack. The match makes you chat with the person long enough. I have only encountered a limited stack maybe once or twice. They will tell you come back in 24hrs to swipe again. The deck also restarts if you have gone through all possible matches. You have the optiom to change your location on there, it then allows you to browse matches in any country. If you are rich and able to travel then that's a great way to meet your connection on an international level. If you have limited options don't bother. For me, men always asked if I were in their country. When I said no, they would immediately stop talking. People on their dislike distance. But some great guys were on there. Scammers lurk too so beware of bad grammar and cliche 3 worded summaries. The real ones will sit and write out a good summary to introduce themselves because they genuinely want to meet someone. Happy searching! May you find the love I have yet to find in life. We all deserve a great love.

I have used this site for years. It is free and that is good. However, there are a lot of players and scammers on Okcupid. You really have to sort through the people. It seems worse if you change settings to "interested in men/women anywhere" Many times they will gang up on you. One will ask a question and it's strange how another will come on the site and immediately question you on same question. Sometimes they will act like they know what you told another person. And they really don't carry on a conversation that much or they have a lot of strange grammar. Most all of them are really good looking and it seems instantaneously they are wanting to chat like they have you on radar... but they just want information and usually disappear. Most of the time they want to get off the site and want you to give them your number, email or hangout address which I refrain.

Okcupid does have a bunch of personality tests and quizzes which I think is really cool. When they are trying to match you up with someone, you get matched by a certain percent according to the questions you both have answered.

Make you fill out a whole profile with pic and then you can't see likes, messages or matches unless you buy a subscription