Ashley Madison

Nothing but a money scam. All the profiles are fake or scammers. Spent $50 bucks for 5 messages and they were all fakes and scams. DON'T USE THIS SITE!

SCAM! SCAM! SCAM! When I first signed up I was getting so many attractive woman make me there favorite or wink at me so I decided to buy some credits to talk with them, 6 woman after having 1 message with them deleted there profile 2 woman tried to scam me for money 4 other woman asked for email and number all send me a couple messages and vanish and now after I have purchased credits a few times I look in my email and now I am getting zero winks or favorite's from woman DO NOT WASTE YOUR TIME OR MONEY SCAM! SCAM! SCAM!

I'm not sure there are any real people on the site. And if there are any real people, and you're an older guy, you've got "0" shot of hooking up. Men, don't waste your money!

This so called "Have an Affair" Web Site is, in my opinion a complete fraud! Women get to use this site for free while men pay through the nose for next to nothing.

They have a dumb $#*! wink system that "lets" you wink at a female with a message like "Please check out my profile to see if you might be interested in connecting with me. If you are interested, 'wink' me back and I will initiate contact!".

You get to send this message for free while the female gets to reply with this gem, "Thanks for contacting me but I only have time to respond to full messages."

How inappropriate. Now if you want to get her attention you have to spend 5 of your credits. This has happened to me a lot! When you do spend your credits, 90 % of the time you never even get a response from these women who are supposed to be looking to have an affair.

On top of this some only want "cyber sex" while others want you to "get safe sex verified at a 3rd party site at even more cost" and then they disappear and others still seem to be plants of Ashley Madison who send you messages to motivate you to buy credits and then you never hear from them afterwards either.

Out of over 150 women I have tried to make contact with I got to meet only one and that was for a coffee but at least we became friends.

Other than for that, Ashley Madison is in my opinion a waste of time and money and I think a money maker for AM and possibly a fraud.

Is the site a scam? Yes. Is it real? Yes. AM will try to scam money off you, but there are very real women out there as well. I have joined twice each time for likely less than two weeks. It does have a slimy, loser vibe to it which is what turned me off. That said, I did meet women. In person. Both times.

Quick tips to anyone who wants to use the site:
Have a profile that makes you interesting (and skip the stupid check boxes)
Be articulate and confident in messages
Make sure you sound like you are fun (in life and bed)
And be honest

Think about it. She is out here because her husband is a dud and she is looking for a stud. And by stud I do not mean that you have a serious stiffy because it has been a long time since you have been laid. You need to be a stud in life. Master of your space. That space can be very small, but be confident of who you are in that space. Women dig confidence (not to be confused with arrogance or generally obtuse).

BTW, for people complaining about on going credit card charges - you gave AM your credit card numbers? WTF? Go get a prepaid debit card like any sane person.

I paid $270 for an account and got nothing for it.
I counted all 50 out of 50 profiles I initiated with were all bad.
It cost $4 for each contact and got nothing.

Bought $70 worth of credits as a first purchase. Not a single connection made, pointless message exchanges with people on a site, half of wich probably are not even real.

We've all read the news articles about guys who "went undercover" at Ashley Madison looking to score. See one here: http://lifestyle.ca.msn.com/love-sex-relationships/i-went-undercover-on-ashley-madison I havent read those in a while, but if I recall each guy spent at least $300. If you want to score, you can get a hooker for that price. Just saying. And without months of waiting. Ashley Madison is exactly as the majority people here describe it: a scam. But if you need to find out for y ourself, here is some advice for newcomers.

1) You must sign up for full membership. It will cost you $40 on the low end. This is the only true way to test the waters. It's a gamble. If you spend $300, youre just putting more chips on the table. Doesn't mean youre going to win.

2) Never accept a "collect message". This is a scam.

3) Always UNCLICK the Send as Priority tab or your message will cost you double the price.

4) Do add plenty of headshot photos to your private gallery, send winks with private key. Notice how one or two will respond immediately, even though they are off line. Write to them, get charged your 10 cents or so, and watch how they never respond back.

5) Do not waste time in chat. Its a credit suck.

6) Spend your credits wisely. When they run out, you will be bombarded with winks and new photo requests. Then, delete the account.

And no, Adult Friend Finder is no better. It's all cam girls.

If you want to find a $#*! buddy, go to Backpage or go to a strip club, wave $300 in her face, and she'll be your $#*! buddy. Good luck.

Here is my overall opinion from 2+ off an on years on this site. Although I should note that I was off it for over a year when I met someone I like. Bottom line-- It does have legit women. But its a very small fraction compared to the number of men. If you put in enough effort, or get extremely lucky, you will probably find someone on here. But you will have to deal through lots of blow off messages, weirdo chicks/guys, porn stars, and flakes. To sum up my success. I would say I have probably sent around 100 messages out while on this site. Of those 100, I probably got some for of response on about 20. So that's about 1 in 5 messages where I get response. Of those 20, probably 5 were people who were call girls or porn stars directing me to their site. Of the remaining 15, probably 5 were girls who sent 1 or 2 emails/messages then vanished. Of the remaning 10, roughly 5 of them I spent sometime talking to on my own email/messenger but they even disappeared after a little while, or they were not my type. So of the remaming 5 I got to know 3 of them well, online with a lot of sexy talk-- but we never met for one reason or another. One of the other 2 I met in person, hooked up, but that was it. The other one I met and we fell and love and were together for a year until it had to end. So does the site work, sure maybe it does. But be prepared for a lot of work unless you get lucky. And for the record, I am only 35, I am good looking and in good shape. Not some old unattractive man. Just my two cents.

I used this site a few years ago and the ratio of men: women was something like 20:1, but since the site was hacked it appears that the ratio is now closer to 50:1. What is worse, the women who are using the site now seem to mostly have been attracted by media reports and want to just chat and look at photos of men without actually meeting. That is, of course, unless they happen to find someone unbelievably good looking on there, in which case they might be tempted. But generally there just don't seem to be enough genuine women on there any more to make the site worth joining. The two genuine women with whom I spoke most recently on the site complained that they log on and they are receiving 50+ messages per day, an impossible number to read, and so they tend to delete most or all and only read a couple. Pretty poor odds for the guys... UPDATE: Well after perservering and chatting with more women I have been on a couple of dates and discovered that there are even more men on the site than I previously thought, so it might be closer to 100:1 men: women! It seems that there simply aren't enough women to go around. One lady that I met for a coffee (she had been on the site for less than 24 hours) had already lined up another five dates for the week and her inbox was completely overflowing with messages. A great site for women but pretty rubbish for men. Oh, and quite a lot of the women seem to want payment in either cash or gifts! Most recently I chatted with a local lady who will have sex in exchange for a new pair of shoes. The more expensive the shoes, the more of her she will, er, open up for you...

After much deliberation I decided to try AshleyMadison.com again. Being one of those who had their details posted online, this took a lot of thought but in the end, I think enough time has passed and in theory, theyll now be more secure than ever (its like how after a plane crash the airline with the problems is the safest to travel on). Anyway, my wife doesnt follow the news much and doesnt seem to suspect im up to anything so its not like what happened really screwed my life up in any way. Ive been using NoStringsAffair.com since the AM issues and its going so well that I figure, why not get back to AM and double my chances. These two together, if AM keeps working as hard to win me back, could be an epic combination. The women on both are mostly real and understand the need for discretion in fact in a lot of cases they are more paranoid than I am about meeting up! So overall im glad I came back to the site for another go, if theyre smart theyll find a way to turn a negative into a positive. If not, ill stick with NoStringsAffair and porn!

You don't need to pay money to see what the site is all about. Just sign up as a woman, it's all free. Some functionality is broken though because it's actually not made for women to use. I created several fake profiles in different cities with pics of attractive women I found on the web. I put no effort into my profile at all, just posted some pics. I got hundreds of propositions, about a third of which came with $#*! pics. There is chat functionality but it's absolutely hideous. Message functionality is also garbage. It's like some high schooler threw together a simple plaintext message and chat system for his friends, it's that unsophisticated. The site overall looks like it was made in the late 90s. Anyway, if I did respond to the men, many seemed to be overjoyed to get any response at all. A few even said that they signed up for a paying membership just to chat with me. One told me that I had completely reinvigorated his outlook on life (after two short message exchanges). It was terribly sad. As someone who has been on the internet for 20 years and has seen a lot of god-awful websites, my impression of AM is that it is the most pathetic e-commerce site ever created. The only reason that it can actually continue to exist is because there are so many perfectly intelligent men who can't help but think with their $#*!s as soon as they are presented with what they think is a truly discreet sexual encounter. The owners of those $#*!s tend to be easily separated from their money.