"THE platform gives Users the opportunity to explore their fantasies and to interact with others." from their email. Sure the kids in legal wanted to cover themselves. Others can be scammers, employees and and.1 % of women that surf with only Validation on their mind. I BET THERE ARE MORE THAN A FEW MEN WHO MIGHT LIVE IN SMALL KANSAS TOWN AND PRETEND TO BE AN LA STUD.

I joined with 2 profiles. I have been on 5 months in the S. CA area. One paid $9 and the other has yet to pay. The no pay one still gets winks and collect messages nearly every time he winks at a woman, I should ad his profile is highly racist and suggest you let him give you a shower of PEE. He has winked at a two local woman 18 times and received a collect message back each time. The other paying one does not get such things and doesn't get any winks and almost no messages. The paying one has had 30-40 women saved as favorites. There is a feature to notify you when a FAVORITE COMES ON. About 2 of these women have come 3-8 times in the 5 months. I see many overweight women (profiles shows 5'2 180 lbs, but several are midgets too 4'8 and 80-90 lbs. Obviously, the workers making profiles dont' understand US measurements.
Understand there is a TREMENDOUS amount of men. I might have heard about somebody putting profile that got 180 men --most within the area. It sounds a lot like what GAwer wrote about in 2016 (99% women only used the site one time. And MEN MEN MEN. WOW...so many that person had to shut down.
A lot of these men are simply delusional and don't mind getting ripped off. A few, probably enjoy "interacting" with something, as they have no intention to meet either.
ONE HUGE ISSUE. I found several celebrities on here and they wouldn't' take those profiles down after being reported. I saw Tila Tequila, Danica McKellar, Arianna Giovanni and a few Italian models. They take some of them down now. Tila and Arianna were reported multiple times before they went away after 3 weeks or more. Maybe they just left on their own. They found a hot man. LOL
Seen people mentioning nostringsaffair. That site couldn't fool a 6yr old. No pic posted and I got a dozen emails from women with pics and all over the US. I don't think they have a legit FEMALE profile on it. Those mentions are bad advertisements by people with the mind of 6 yr old. There are some men who believe the vice president ran a sex parlor inside a pizza place, so they might go for it

This application charged me 85$ to message people, and they weren't even living near me. The money isn't the issue. The complete robbery of performance can't be denied. What a pathetic joke. I paid $#*!ing 85$ to say hi to a girl that reported she didn't pay anything… company will fail without approximate deduction recalcitrant. Good thing I'm ridiculously loaded and money is no option hahahahhahahahhahahahahahhahahahahahshah!… wait, for Ashley madison it's a big $#*!ing option! Lololoololilolo

I like many of Men fell for AshleyMadison website.
First, you must know that you will be paying around $5 FOR EVERY SINGLE MESSAGE YOU TYPE. So this is not a membership type. You buy "credits" to keep texting and receiving text from other parties.

The majority of the Ladies are Bots... yeah Digital Robots, virtual ladies created by the owners of the website that will text you and and keep making you questions only to make you text back and that way you spend your purchased credit$$. On top of that... there are the Real Scammers. They won't last for long... but long enough for you to have texted them and spend your credits before their username is deleted by the Staff. So it is YOUR LO$$$.
This website also runs some Scammy practices. Read below:
When you run out of credits, not only you can't text to the people you have initiated a conversation. YOU WON'T BE ABLE TO READ THEIR TEXTS to you. You will receive a notification that that contact has messaged you. But in order to read the message, YOU WILL NEED TO PURCHASE MORE CREDITS.

First, they offer you a first time discount on credits purchase. You go ahead and select your plan and go ahead with payment. It is only ON THE VERY LAST STEP when they charge you a "one time fee" for "Mobile App" of $29.99.

Second, when you run out of credits, your only option is to buy package of credits. Not as you need. The cheapest package of credits cost $89

Third, When you start messaging to people, by default you are using "Expedite message" option which cost almost double of the credits per message. As someone new to this site, you will learn this the hard way.

So If you want to meet up with REAL people. THIS WEBSITE IS A SCAM for that.

Fourth, The chat is very restrictive. You can't send pictures, You can't See when was the last time your contacts logged in, you don't know if they have read your texts, you don't know what time of the day each text was sent/received. This information is very important and needed specially when hanging out on a chat.
So for me... $90 lasted only 45 mins and I was able to contact less than 15 ladies. Only 3 of them turned out to be real... but by when they replied to my initial messages I was out of credits and in order to be able to continue the conversations I would need to buy another credit package BUT THIS TIME FOR THE REGULAR PRICE of $90.

THIS IS NO ROCKET SCIENCE. AVOID THIS WEBSITE. AVOID. AVOID. AVOID.

AdultFriendFinder.com has proven to be the best available option and also is the largest in the world.

On one hand I'm angry that I got ripped off, on the other I'm somewhat impressed at how sound of a scam they are running with this site. They truly run a tight ship, every base is covered from advertising, search engine study, fake reviews, web design, fake female profiles... they sell the illusion perfectly without slipping on 1 detail all the way up until the moment you pull the trigger and spend $50+ to dip your feet in the water and begin messaging, then the cracks begin forming in their deceptive racket... but at that point The job is done so why would they care. I'm not by any means a stupid man, Ive never paid for a dating website until ashleymadison.com because I can usually easily detect the deception at play and I don't like being taken a fool but in a moment of weakness I let go of my good sense and forked over $75 of my honest-earned money to the crooks who run this dishonest site. What makes this site incredibly believable is the attention to detail that other scam hookup sites just don't take the time or don't have the resources to do, it begins with advertising... they do an incredible job creating the image of a legitimate, mainstream commonly used and trustworthy website that is well established as the go-to spot for extramarital hook ups. Beyond the lengths they go to create this image they back it up with fake review websites like other Fraudulent dating sites do except they take it even further with very extensive search engine study and even taking to sites like reddit, Quora, askmen and even YouTube to manipulate the information Available to prospective users($$$). Trust me, they have a lockdown on what information is available on the web because they know it will make or break their scam. So once you're convinced the site might actually produce results and you create a free profile you will be very impressed with the abundance of females in your area... plenty of game to be had and the profiles seem totally believable for my area, all are vastly unique and realistic looking, no set patterns or otherwise alarming clues... it seems as random as the real world would actually produce, but don't get excited they are indeed FAKE PROFILES being manipulated by presumably offsite contractors. After a few days of your free membership you will indeed send a few winks and favorite a few users (because that's the only interaction you can have without buying credits) and you will probably see a couple messages in your inbox aside from the generic auto-generated messages that are clearly designed to make you think you have a personal message from a user when in fact you don't. At this point their scam is working perfectly, you will think you have found the platform you've been searching for and your guard will be completely down... only one thing left to do, buy some credits and get to messaging... or so was my case, so despite the steep cost of credits I unfortunately chose to do their gift card exchange payment method and exchanged a $75 gift card for 145 credits. My understanding from what convoluted info is on the website was that an initial contact message took 5 credits and user response messages did not cost you any credits, so with that in mind 145 credits would go quite a ways and that seemed realistic for $75... in reality every message you send to a new person wether they message first or not will cost you 9 credits and every single message after that will cost 5, they very cleverly have a premium message feature if you aren't careful to avoid while sending will hit you for 14 credits. Within the first 2 hours of buying credits I was already down to less than 100... I read 4 measly messages and sent 3... what a complete rip off, that was the point I realized I've been swindled but continued using the site anyway since I had already forked out the money and at that point I hadn't messaged enough to realize that 99% of the female profiles were actually fake... and that is where the site's effort and attention to detail really fool you, the profiles seem very very real, there is no possible way to distinguish fake from real on this site. The people off-network who are creating and operating these phony female profiles are true professionals, they know how to create a very authentic and realistic facade. The only real thing that gives them away are their behavior patterns, you can be in contact with several vastly different profiles but their behaviors will be the same, also in some cases you can notice the same phrases being used coincidentally often in profile descriptions but it takes time to pick up on those little clues and that will be well after you handed your money over. Trust me guys, I'm not just some butt-hurt user who is mad because I couldn't get any attention from women, I'm telling you 100% it's a scam, that's a fact. I know it's hard to believe because they do such a great job selling their legitimacy and I know they are exactly what you're looking for but it's just A fact... fraud. Don't hand over your money to these crooks who are getting filthy rich by fraudulently exploiting vulnerable men... and getting away with it Scott free. Which really brings into question, if such a large and lucrative website can get away with obvious fraud, who else is getting away with it? I understand the moral/social inference associated with an affair website but regardless of if the users are filthy pigs or not, fraud is fraud... someone somewhere is making millions of dollars Under false pretenses and it's allowed to happen. Seriously, it's textbook fraud with millions of victims who were coerced into a dishonest transaction and yet nobody cares because of the assumed moral deviation of the victims.

So let me tell you my story.

I have been married over 42 years at this point in time, love my wife, but decided I wanted a bit more excitement. My first stepping out was about 15 years ago when I was close to retiring. I met a gal online. I signed up, had a fling with her for 15 years. We met infrequently over the years to hike and have sex outdoors. Then 2 years ago I met a young college gal online who wanted money for college. We met a couple times, I gave her a bit of money and we kissed once in a park. I never saw her after that cause I felt like she just wanted my money. I knew a young gal who liked the outdoors and tried to get her to go backpacking with me. That trip fell through when my wife found out about my plans hiking with her. Inviting her not only hurt my wife, it also hurt a friendship I had with my hiking buddy who was going on that trip and didn't know I had also invited a woman. He wanted it to be just he and I. I lost his respect. I also met a girl online a few years ago and carried on a friendship with her for 2 years. I backpacked with her on one occasion. While no sex was involved, this encounter was also hurtful to my wife because I was having a relationship with a woman outside our marriage, even it it wasn't sexual, and I lied to my wife saying I was hiking alone. Most recently I tried to arrange a trip with a gal 40 years my junior, to another city. I was willing to pay her airfare & entertainment. I asked if we could sleep together. Then she asked for more money. I never thought that paying for someone to meet me like this is probably prostitution and since I don't know the person at all, I suppose it would also be possible that someone else could be controlling her and taking any money from her from an encounter like this. Certainly not a good situation.

Eventually my wife knew something was up and I was found out about my long term affair and the other gals. Yes, I am still married because I care very much for my wife and want this never to happen again. She is a much better person than I. Was it worth the excitement? No its was not. I should have talked to my wife and opened up communications channels better than I did and had that exciting time with her. So I am working on opening up with her more than I did in the past, hoping every day that she will accept me back. My wife made me get tested for STDs. Turns out having that sexual affair caused genital warts.

I have always been a very independent person. From the time I was a young kid, I did my own thing. Getting married I did not realize how important it was to share everything, including my deepest thoughts about everything with the one person I promised to share everything with. But my independence was a problem. I did not realize, I just didn't understand that independence is not a one size fits all process. And I also did not understand that in a marriage there is give and take from everyone. Not everyone is as independent as I am. That doesn't make them wrong, me right, and in a marriage, both people have valid thoughts and should be heard. I was too selfish to consider my wife's feelings and how my choices would impact her.

Why would I do this? To regain my youth? Because I was only thinking of me? For a thrill? To escape the stresses of life? Probably all of those. I certainly enjoy life and want to enjoy life for the rest of my life. And yes, doing this was certainly not thinking of my wife's desires and plans for life. I got sidetracked and am glad my wife is as smart as she was to know how to look and find out what I was trying to hide from her. I am grateful that I was discovered, though I feel awful and foolish, because I was headed down a very dangerous and destructive path. I am fortunate that my wife is helping me. She is angry and extremely hurt, but I will work hard on getting back on track and think of her, and only her. It's terrible that having to hurt my wife so deeply was the way for me to get my wakeup call. I should have listened to my wife when she reached out to me and I shouldn't have been so arrogant to ignore her and do my own thing.

I found AM has targeted right weakness of men, polygamy nature. We probably get bored with our partner and fantasize to sleep with someone else's wife. There are several things you need to keep in mind before you even consider signing up.
- Only men pay for using the site. Isnt it unfair in the world where everything is equal? That also probably tells a lot on how AM operates. May be majority of women dont wish to have a secret relationship at all. To attract whoever is left out, they have possibly made it for free.
- Now that we accept men are supposed to get ripped off, how are they screening the women? To test that I made a fake profile and was utterly shocked to see the number of men who sent proposal to meet me. I should say some men are really desperate for sex, and no wonder why the flesh market thrives so well. A few had sent me naked pictures of themselves. If you are one of them, go and take it down. You dont know when AM will get hacked and how your picture could make your family heartbroken.
- Women ratio is very very less. I infact really liked three women profiles and sent them my message. It costed me like 5c+5c for each message. By default AM enables something called priority message, which is nothing but a flag that gets shown on the other side(my fake women profile showed me how it all looks from the other side) If you use credit card, they also upfront load you with 19.99 for things you dont want. A cleverly thought way to rip men off. Coming back to the messages I sent, these women probably got tens of messages from people like me. It also means I have to reach out to many to get proper response from atleast one. You do get response for say wink message(free message), however all responses are standard one a women can choose. When she does, you get collect message which you cannot read without being paid AM member. Again con job.
- Many women I saw were either escorts, came on the site for checking how it would be or completely fake ones like the other one I created. Now when you send those priority messages hoping to get laid, how do you know its not one of the profiles a man has created just to have fun? Think about it folks.

I need not have written detailed review here. However the fake profile I created thought me a lot how it looks from the other side. I was hoping to get response from a women and expecting atleast I could chat with her. After I saw the other side, I came and removed my man's profile. Its a fake service designed to loot men. Feel free to waste your money there or instead take your spouse to a nice dinner. May be we have to work on rekindeling our relationship with a partner we trust instead of reinventing the wheel all over again and get conned and hurt in the process.

Hi Guys
Tagline should be "life is short. Have an affair. But expect a huge reality check. Your aren't that disarable!"
I have been a member for about 6 weeks and met several women, 2 in person. Now this is easier if you are willing to have a woman overweight and 40 plus. The hotter ones are much much harder to get. I can give you some golden rules to follow.
1. Your Profile - Keep it simple, witty and free from cliches. Remember you are dealing with women who generally looking for affection, romance then sexy in that order. You need to stress your not all about sex.
2. Your photo - simple face shot. Keep in mind girls always play 2 to 3 levels above their level. So if you are overweight or not that handsome, you got no chance. If you are serious about this hit the gym, get a haircut, grow a beard what ever you need to do. I made a plan to hit the gym 3 months prior to joining. Ask yourself are you serious about this?
3. Profiles to target. This is the best piece of advice I can give you. Target profiles without photos. That's right. Without photos. These profiles get far less messages from guys, are more likely to look at your profile and actually be real! You need to be selective. Don't use winks. They are useless. Some of these women get 250 messages a day and 500 winks. Be selective and target 3/4 women at a time. Use the priority messages. That way your message is on top of those 250. Also send when she is online only. Otherwise your priority message will be bumped down the list by other priority messages. Also grant access to private photos to her. It lets you know when priority message has been opened. Follow up with a priority message.
4. The message. Do not copy and paste. Again. Do not copy and paste. You need to read the profile, be smart and custom message every time. That's the best chance of getting noticed. Sometimes best to write the message, wait 10 minutes and double check. Then you discover the tone or wording was wrong in the first draft in the first draft. Poems and stuff work good. Glean what you can from her profile and try to connect.
5. Respond quickly. As soon as you get a response, respond in a cool charming manner. Free from desperation. Use the priority message. Realise that if one of these women actually contact you, you need to put a lot of time in before they will sleep with you. That means actually being honest and talking for a few days or weeks before meeting.
6. Get a kik account. Allows you to chat like texting but evidence free. You can actually delete and re install the kik app and it remembers all your conversations.
Best of luck guys. You need to put in the work. But it can be a lot of fun. Especially when you can connect with one of them.

First off, I am an unusual case because of my age, late 70's. So my experience may be special to this. I cannot say.

When I began on AM I was contacted by several women a day. All were polite, some were beauties. All were decades younger than me and when challenged about the age thing, they said it did not matter. They all wanted meet ups with me. Some asked that I go through a verification process that would assure them that I was legitimate and provide them a way to backtrack to me if I turned out to be threatening or actually abused them. Sounded reasonable to me. I discovered that those who requested that I validate myself were willing to guide me through the process. The process required that I identify myself and supply a credit card. I attempted this process with three women. Each woman asked me to validate through a web site of her choosing. The web sites were all different and each woman would accept a validation only from the web site that she chose. The validation that I might receive with one woman would be refused by the other women. I did obtain a validation with one woman with whom I have had no further contact. The woman who insisted that I use the Ashley Madison validation process, worked with me for quite a while but I never succeeded in obtaining the sought after validation even though I attempted it many times. Each time I supplied a credit card, it would be rejected. When I contacted customer service for the credit card company I invariably learned that no request for payment had been made, so the credit card companies were not blocking my card. Indeed the cards continued to work everywhere else after they were turned down during the attempted validation. Ashley Madison customer service suggested offered alternative links to me and I tried these but my credit cards were always turned down regardless of the link supplied by Ashley Madison. Finally Ashley Madison offered to provide a work around. I could send $300 to a place in the Philippines using money gram. The validation would be provided and a card would be issued to me providing proof of validation. A return of the $300 was promised but no explanation was provided of the route through which the reimbursement would be made. I was expected simply to take everything on faith. I balked at this and things soon became ugly. I received at least two threatening messages from Ashley Madison customer service saying claiming that I was not agreeing to obtain a validation and that my account would be charged every month for my failure to complete the validation process. The first threat was that I would be charged $200 per month and the second threat was that I would be charged $300. I promptly canceled my account with Ashley Madison.

I was subjected to another type of scam also. In this I would be contacted by a self-described professional women who claimed not to care about our age difference. The woman was just looking for a man who would demonstrate a caring behavior and share love with her. After several days of texting back and forth the woman would ask for money to help with her expenses. This happened twice. Both women described themselves as working for charitable causes in Africa. Both women were quite attractive, one was a knock-out. I had read accounts of internet dating scams that involved requests for money, so when I received such a request I immediately bowed out.

Perhaps I was contacted by an honest woman on Ashley Madison and simply failed to discover her. Who knows. For sure, I wasted a lot of time thinking I was communicating with honest women before I found out otherwise.

I feel like my review of this site is well overdue, as I have been using this site off and on for almost five years. I have no reason to fabricate information or be misleading as I am giving my honest review of this site.
I started on the site while I was separated after a failed marriage and I have now been divorced for three years. I really don't know if there's an advantage for men being single or identifying as "attached." It depends on the woman. Some married women will not mess with single men and the only reasons I can figure is either because they want to find someone who has an equal amount to lose or maybe its because they think the single guy might get clingy. Or perhaps they think the single guy may blackmail them and threaten to tell the husband if things go wrong, (which kind of goes back to the equal amount to lose)? On the other hand, some married women prefer a single man because he will typically have more time available and likely have his own place.
The site does work and there are legit women on there who are looking for sex and companionship. Guys -- don't be pushy and expect sex five minutes after meeting a woman. Also, from what women have told me, they are sick of the pictures of your penis.
In my personal experience a lot of single women will say theyre not looking for a relationship but they can get clingy and push for a relationship. I would be skeptical and cautious when contacting single women. A lot of the single women profiles are fake or theyre seeking a sugar daddy. Unless you have tons of disposable income and/or dont give a damn - avoid those seeking a sugar daddy. I would recommend you be very cautious of two to three New profiles that you see in which all of the women are very similar in height and weight. Usually this is a sign that they are fake! AM relies on you to use your credits to attempt contact with these fake profiles. It makes sense you burn through your credits, hear back from a few potential connections, (which are likely fake) and then youre out of credits and buying more. Brilliant business concept! Moreover, very obviously stay away from the profiles in which their profile name is a coded way to deliver their email address. Guaranteed fake!
Now for the information some of you reading this may be anticipating. In five years off and on this site I have met and had sex with more than 20 women. Im not bragging and Im not exaggerating. Most have been married or in a relationship but some have been single as well. There have been some that I have met that never led to anything and I have been stood up by women as well. Another question some of you reading this review may wish to know what I have spent on this site. I have always bought credits at $79 for 200. You have to be really careful when checking out because they will automatically mark and charge you for extra BS so be sure you look everything over thoroughly before clicking that button to finalize your purchase of credits. Okay, so I have bought credits five times and that comes out to $395 total spent on the site. Sounds like a lot, but it has gotten me what the site promised. Sure, there have been psychos, scams and dishonest women on the site, but my overall experience on the site has been good. Like I said in the beginning this site works but it takes time, commitment and some money. But you will eventually get laid.

I've been married just over 11 yrs and I love my husband and our 2 kids. The problem with marriage, especially when you have a high sex drive, is that the passion inevitably fades after some time. When kids come along, it gets tougher to keep that excitement and mutual passion or attraction going. They get a bit older and you are able to put them into their own room but the heat between you and your husband has already long gone. For me, I felt I had 2 choices the first being leave him for somebody else and rediscover that sexiness again. The second was find another way to meet my needs outside the home in a way that would be discreet and not hurt my family (the internet is perfect for this and sites like AM and nostringsaffair.com exist for women like me to prevent us having to look for an affair closer to home, where the risk of getting caught is so much higher). I certainly never once considered the option of being a nice little stepford wife, sorry but this isnt the 1960s and im a modern red blooded woman! Option 2 was always the best choice because I love my family very much and I do hope that one day ill get things back to normal with my husband, but he is stuck in a rut just now (he lost his job in late May) and its effecting him in so many negative ways. Anyway, i've been using such websites to keep things secret (I use my work macbook which my husband doesnt know the password for and would NEVER think of checking up on me anyway). I like chatting with guys, doing the odd webcam chat when I get the chance and yes, I admit I have met men in person... I know it doesnt make me mum of the year but it does mean I stay with my family because I can get that excitement that I need without having to split up my family. I work away a lot and so I get plenty of chances but have only done it a few times and always with different men to make sure I dont get into trouble by falling for anyone (not that I would, I always make it clear it will be a one time thing and leave my emotions at home. It's purely about pleasure and exitement for me, that's what I need, not a new partner). I am very selective and would advise any married women to be very careful in who they choose to meet some men are lazy with boring profiles all sending copy and paste intro messages, others are creative, funny, interesting and patient. I find that if you get with the second type then you can trust them more and after a few drinks you usually can tell if you want to take things further. So... if you are like me and need that little something else in your life for whatever reason then i'd say you could do a lot worse to your family and yourself than joining a site like this. You dont even need to meet the guys until you feel ready, but just having the message chats can be a life (and marriage) saver. Dont feel ashamed, take it from me you are not alone!:-)