Seeking ArrangementsReviews 391

So a friend of mine said I always dated the traditional way and got nothing in return. Try Seeking arrangement says the friend! Most of the men on here are either cheaters or old saggy $$&$ trying to get a piece of something younger. A week ago, thought finally met a gentleman? He turned out to be a cheap bipolar creep too! First date he was a full sweet heart. By the second? He was cheaper! Told me he'd take me for a coffee? Instead he sat down so I'd pay. No prob! Just a coffee right? I'm broke but not that broke. Then he flipped out at me nagging that I'm not allowed to leave even a lipstick behind. That's just invading his space? I said I didn't and if he saw anything of mine throw in the trash...

This website isn't a place for the well-established to find company of younger women. It's a place where cheap men want to get freebies by the young, naive and desperate!

I'm from India and believe there are some basic differences with the site compared to what people in the US might find. I've been a member off and on since 2014. Met 25 women (most were just a `ice-breaker over a drink' had a relationship with 2 and am in touch with a couple of more. The quality of people on the site has worsened and succeeding requires patience. I do not think its worth the time and money any more.

The cost of living in India is a lot less than the West, so we perceive the fee to be a lot higher than it seems in the West. The number of women are also far lower (a US city with a million people has far more SB's than an Indian city 10 times the size. Men outnumber women by a big margin. Under 10% of the men are paid members (research of my previous SB) as price is a barrier.

40% of the SB profiles are non serious - girls put up a profile and stop logging in after a couple of days. 25% are escorts. Many of the others have unrealistic allowance expectations or are unsure about wanting to be on the site. It would require writing to at least 10 people to meet with 2 potential SB's and have a 2nd date with one. Its difficult to write to those 10 people, if there are barely 2-3 seemingly serious profiles appearing each month - even in the large city I live in. So even a SD with experience of the site and not really looking for sex on a date, would have to pay $200 to have a chance of meeting one SB.

I opened 2 accounts, one regular and the other is premium.On the premium one it shows a lot more profiles as being active... like last online an hour ago or 4 hours ago or online.And the regular account shows the same profile that was marked as online on premium as last active 2 months ago. Somebody is online on premium and you immediately log into a regular account and you have same profile active 12 hours ago. I am a in Europe so this kind of arrangement isn't so popular and there aren't that many profiles to begin with. But something is off, because if I click on 100 profiles and only 1 clicks back, that's strange.

There are numerous red flags on this site:

1/ Most profile pics appear airbrushed, or as stock photos, and have text seemingly written by impersonators who speak English as a second language (i. E. subtle grammatical errors and/or similarly themed text from one profile to another).

2/ You will be contacted by people/profiles on different continents (usually before purchasing the service in order to falsely pique your curiosity and get your hopes up). Their messages will usually be 1-2 sentences of complements, formulaically written, and with nothing substantive.

3/ Most females ask for money, but explicitly state they have no intention of ever meeting up.

4/ The majority of female profiles are under 30 years old (which is pretty convenient when you're preying mostly on horny, desperate men).

5/ Most profiles aren't written as other normal dating sites are written. For example, these profiles usually don't mention anything about specific current events, hobbies, or mass entertainment/western culture. Instead female seekingarrangment profiles usually just talk about money, achieving an otherwise unsustainable lifestyle, being showered with luxury goods, and having you provide it to them with "no strings attached". See point 3.

6/ Very few of the pictures of the women have any normal detail in them such as being taken in public places such as parks or restaurants or near other landmarks, very few photos include groups of friends, family, pets, or have any brand name products in the background usually (normally you'd expect to see some "real life" products or scenarios in pictures of real profiles).

Basically, in my opinion, seekingarrangement is this decade's version of a Nigerian email scam, or, boiler room stock broker. For the most part it's a fraud.

My advice would be to not buy the service.

NaïveI think the problem most women have on this site, is that they are too money hungry. Yes there are fakes on this site, but it is painfully obvious who is fake and who is not please use common sense. Men on this site may be looking for sex / prostitution but if you are smart enough you will not give in. I actually found the love of my life on this site oddly enough, we have been together for seven months and we actually both love each other. Our relationship started off as platonic but we soon just started dating like normal people :) there is some good on this site. Please stop making quick, money hungry decisions and talk to these men, find out what they care about, face time them for hours before meeting. When finally meeting only meet in a public space, and don't have sex unless they are tested for STDs and you trust them. Stop being naïve and dumb and use your head!

Beware young ladies. If you are serious about joining this site please become familiar with the following terms: sociopath, NPD, borderline, bipolar, gaslighting, all forms of abuse (mental, emotional, physical, financial. The type of men that are on this site usually fall into one of these categories. Think about it... he is on this site because he is incapable of having meaningful/healthy/loving relationships with well adjusted individuals. He has failed on all levels due to a personality disorder. So then he resorts to paying young & trusting women in hopes they will put up with the abuse. YES IT'S ABUSE. My advice comes from 2 years experience being on the site and 2 successful arrangements (not found on the site). I found my mentor in the real world and he was a GOOD man, not the fakes, abusers, and scammers on SA. He offered help because he truly cared about the person inside, not because he was looking to use me up and run away. My advice to you... weed out the fakers by agreeing to meet for a nego amount... do not meet for nothing... you will totally be used up emotionally & will be a waste of time. Not to mention these creeps usually want to get laid on a first date for a couple hundred measly $$. Second, DO NOT give these men your real name, phone number, or place where you live/work. These men have been known to start smear campaigns and then stalk you later on. Also these men will google you and get all your personal info and use it against you later (a NPD tactic). Thirdly, don't nego an arrangement on the first date... usually they have NO intention of giving you a allowance and never will. Think about it ladies, if he can get sex for 200-300 why is he going to agree to give you 4k a month? He's just selling you a pipedream to keep you around. Yes, these arrangements do exist but in my research 90% of men on SA are predators looking to manipulate and take advantage of good human beings. Ladies, be smart and don't fall for the lies. Protect yourself. Also even after what you think was a great first date... the games will soon begin.

I joined in March and have had a number of successful arrangements so I'm really happy. The word "arrangement" is really important because I'm looking for FWB not SD/SB and there are maybe only 5-10% of ladies looking for this. So I have to be patient sifting through the prostitutes, escorts and fake profiles (probably by men wanting to know how to talk with women...) but it's worth it and I am extremely selective! BTW I don't consider myself to be a Sugar Daddy because:
1. I don't do monthly allowances
2. I avoid doing pay per meets
I will however arrange and pay for a weekend away but without giving money, I'm a gentleman and I think it's chivalrous to pick up the tab. Here's food for thought: if the husband is the only wage earner in a couple then he is the one that picks up the tab for holidays and entertainment, so is there a lot of difference?

There are a small number of self-sufficient career ladies on the website who don't want money, they just want to be pampered, spoilt a bit and feel special with someone who respects them. Spend a nice time with someone nice where there's a real connection. It takes patience to find them, but it is possible! They, like me, just don't want or have the time for a regular relationship which is why SA works for me whereas traditional dating websites are a waste of time for me.
I only gave 4 stars because the website isn't perfect and bugs from time to time. But SA is the only website where I've found REAL FWB relationships, so I'm ok to pay my dues even if it's expensive because it works for what I'm looking for. If it's not working for you, then think carefully about what you're doing and what you're looking for!

I've been on and off this site for 5 years now and I've had 2 long term relationships with some wonderful women. Each relationship lasted years. I'm not everyone's type and I have read a false report of myself! Saying I have HPV, lmao. I've never had an STD in my life and I guess this lady Jen R was having a bad day or maybe we didnt agree on allowance so she bad mouthed me, but overall the site is the same as most sites, some good people, some bad, if you weed through the fakes and escorts you can meet some great ladies.
To Jen R, who ever you are, sorry if we disagreed or I somehow angered you but no need to slander me with nonsensical claims. Best of luck to you

I had two profiles on there. One was well written and accurate and represented the real me: a young 39 year old who's 6'0 tall, fit, with a net worth of 5 million. I emailed women like I would on any dating site. I read their profiles, was respectful, and probably 50% of the emails I sent out were responded to. I met with 6-7 women though was asked out by many more bit whom I said no to. On dates I would never discuss an allowance until I felt comfortable and trusted the person... usually on the 3rd date.

My other profile was experimental and fake. It was of an old guy who was 59 who was fat, bald, and ugly. Fake profile guy simply emailed women saying he would pay them an "x" amount per month. 99 percent of women responded. Even though this fake profile had less net worth and was of an old guy every girl responded. Fake profile guy spelled miserably and referred to women as babes or hotties. Some girls who made a date with me on my real profile would even cancel for the fake guy just because he was direct in offering money. Idiots.

I ultimately then tried to figure out how low of an allowance would women on there tolerate despite being old, fat, ugly, bald, and rude. I came up with 3000. Even funnier was how the women would call this guy handsome or sexy.

I'm done with the site. Only 1% of the women on there are normal. The rest are just looking for the highest bidder. I empirically proved it. I did meet two women who never responded to the fake profile, even though the offer was 7500 a month. I ultimately came to respect them and had a low key, fun dating experience with those two that lasted for nearly a year each.

If you're discerning and apply the appropriate level of caution, then it's possible to make a mutually beneficial arrangement on this website.

A lot of it depends on your location, as I've found some cities to have better prospects (more women) on this site than others.

If you're reasonably attractive for your age, have the means, and aren't a giant pervert or a jackass, then it's pretty easy to meet up with young women and go on what feels like an actual date (that includes romance).

While there are some pros, gold diggers, and scanmers on this site, they are usually easy enough to spot and avoid. On the other hand, in major metro areas and college towns, there are plenty of smart, beautiful young women who are looking for maturity and some financial stability in their lives.

Don't expect to find true love here easily or at all. The very nature of negotiated dating sets up an unspoken barrier that precludes a natural relationship. So called "Sugar Dating" requires somewhat of a thick skin and a lot of emotional maturity to navigate.

This is by far the grossest, ridiculous site I've ever been apart of. I've been a member of the site for a year now and the guys that hit me up on there are rude, arrogant perverts. This site should be ILLEGAL, men don't want sugar babbies they want prostitutes. I've never met one man off that site who wanted to take me on a vacation with him... or spoil me buy me dinner, take me on his boat... none of that bull$#*! they rant about in their 'about mes' all they want is sex! But then call girls prostitutes because they need financial help. It's just so $#*! backwards. I recently got 'suspended' because I reported a guy who admitted he was jacking off to my photos and told the site manager (who I'm convinced is a pervert himself) that they need to take care of this problem and need to better monitor men on there. So I'm sure to take care of that problem they got rid of me. Anyways! Just stay away from this site ladies... if you want a good sugar daddy who is sweet go to a bar! Or a really nice restaurant. Don't get me wrong though there are some really good men on there but it's like finding a needle in a hay stack honestly! Good luck!

OMG! Ladies stay off this site! Whatever you do don't make any arrangements with these crazy $#*! men who are a bunch of liars and scammers. Had the worst experiences with three guys. One wrote me a bunch of fake checks and I had to pay a huge fee because of the checks being bounced. The other guy was just rude, controlling and pushy. The last one was to demanding and crazy. He really didn't know how to treat a women. Ladies the only thing you can do is help yourself and be successful and make money on your own terms. They think we are broke and worthless little do they know is that we or in school pursuing degrees, opening business,
Working or whatever that case maybe, they don't realize that we can give to $#*!s about them but not their money because obviously we are just using ugly, old, and unattractive bastatds,

So if I am a 26 year old pharmacist who is from a rich family and owns 4 succesful drug stores. Looking for a girl who doesn't want me to remember 360 special days a year... I don't like flings or one night stands. Just want a clean girl who would go out with me on dates have fun and sleep with me... Wtf do I do lol.
I am not looking for an escort or a married woman just a girl who needs some money to help with school. Or whatever.
I am not a scammer or a rapist and I can Oxford to pay very well for this agreement how the fuk do I do that lol

I used the site 4 years ago, and it was pretty good. I was able to find someone within a month and we were together about 1.5 years. I joined again about 3 months ago, and the site is a complete disaster now. There are a large number of escorts on the site that are pretending to be SBs. You will spend a significant amount of time messaging women, and when it comes to to discuss meeting, they will disappear. Also, if you are "fortunate" enough to schedule a meeting, about half of them won't show up. There are also a large number of scammers and rinsers on the site (let alone women wanting money for a platonic or online relationship). If you report them, the site does nothing. I highly recommend against the site.

It sound like the positive reviews are all fakes too...
This site is horrible.
I joined it for a few months only to find it all these women are prostitutes with criminal records, mental illnesses, many are into taking dope and alcoholics and some are smokers which is not my type of women at all. Most are dreamers in wishing they meet their rich men and spend money and having a good time.
Most are average to below average looking women that are brainless. Most use a ton of makeup and still look ugly...

Last Thursday I had 140 inbox messages from sugar babies wanting to connect. (I'm real, not a company shill. I'm also not terribly handsome or wealthy.)

Put effort into developing an excellent and honest profile and you'll be rewarded. Demonstrate to the women that you live an amazing life (without overtly bragging) and they'll want a part of it.

SA has literally transformed my life because I use it to affirm and push my own success move it forward. I've also used it to transform the lives of some amazing young women because that's something I enjoy doing. In a nutshell, whatever effort you put into SA relationships, you'll get exactly that back.

Best,

- M