I am a cougar on this site and quite attractive so I get a lot of winks and message. I have met a few men and they were real, a am I. I am not out for anyone's money and I don't have a videocam (video-scam). There are real people on here. Not to sound mean but it may be that some of the cubs aren't getting a lot of responses because not many women find them attractive. Also your profile may be too brief. And keep in mind a lot of cougars on here think they will meet the love of their lives so they want to read a profile that includes romance and the possibility of commitment.
I think their expectations are unrealistic since this is more of a sex site than a dating site, however I have heard a number of men tell me this seems to be the case with a lot of women here.