Secret Benefits

Lots of users and many contacts. All of whom seem to have ADD and so never reply past their initial contact. It's almost as if they're contacting you to get you to spend your credits (it's 10 credits to reply to a message or initiate contact)
My biggest complaint however is that site administrators will edit your profile info if they don't like the tone. They even removed text from my profile because I said I didn't smoke and didn't want to match with those who do.

There are a few individuals on SB that are genuine and looking for a SD, but the large majority are fake accounts, created by, I presume, the parent company to entice guys to spend their money messaging the non-existent ladies. These messages never get read by anyone. Don't waste your time or money on Secret Benefits.

I'm a man, 40s. The website has weak support services. I tried to message them to buy credits for more than a week in vain. You can't buy credits except for bitcoins and through their support system. Without credits, you do nothing as a man. I don't think a dating site with weak support to be a safe place for people. You can get a problem without any response from their side. This is riskful. I don't advise people to go there.

I joined Secret Benefits in August 2018 and promptly forgot about it for four months. Meanwhile my inbox filled up with messages from women who "admired" my profile on the site. I assumed they were fake and ignored them. Then around Christmas I decided to try contacting some local women. I found I had to buy credits as it cost 10 credits to respond to a message from a woman or to send a first message. At the time it was about US$1 per credit, though it was a lot cheaper to buy 1000 credits. In fact when you sign up the site encourages you to buy 1000s of credits and take a scatter gun approach i. E. contact dozens of women in your area in the hope that one or two might bite. I had no shortage of messages from women. Unfortunately the most decent woman I met lives in Belgium (I'm in London). We've never met and probably never will but we keep in touch daily by WA and she's a good friend. However, I was hoping for more than that from SB so I carried on looking. So far I've had dates with one woman out of about 50 chats - 4 dates in all, two in bars and two in a hotel room. I'll say no more except those dates cost a lot more than a typical London escort would have cost. A few tips for the unwary: the majority of women on SB absolutely do not want a sexual relationship. Many are looking for a monthly allowance or high priced pay per meet in return for letting you wine and dine them once or twice a month. Others want you to invest in a business start up. Others want you to pay for their university tuition fees, rent, clothes, holidays, etc and in return they offer "friendship" or "someone to talk to" in very public places like concerts, restaurants and shopping malls. Some will give you a sob story and ask for money up front - concert tickets that are selling out fast is a common one, or rent because the landlord is hammering on the door right now is another one. The lady I met 4 times asked me for £200 for clothes last week. For old times' sake I sent her the money by PayPal. The money left my account a week ago and she's still insisting it hasn't reached her, obviously hoping I'll resend. That's the kind of woman you're likely to meet on SB.

I see mixed reviews on this site. My experience is that I set up shop talked to a bunch met a few with no issues and just like a review below it sudden stopped working. I no longer got likes or messages when no activity nothing. Then when I asked someone else I talk to from the site they said my profile isn't active. I contacted customer service several times over the course of a week and a half and I've gotten no reply. I even made a couple more accounts which the pictures are still waiting approvals days later and still no customer service response. Kind of shady if you ask me

This site is pretty simple to use, if only it had serious prospects that are actually wanting to connect. The site spams your inbox with what appears to be bots or AI messages from women that are interested. "Disclaimer: I am not the greatest PUA to ever live and I am also no Don Juan, but I am descent at starting a conversation and building rapport with women."

Now back to the site, You have to pay for conversations and pay for private photos through a credit system that you buy which is not cheap. You then receive more unsolicited conversations that you must pay for to unlock. Usually within two to three exchanges, you realize that this is not a human interaction and not a serious interaction. The conversation starts out generically and when you ask or require in depth responses or responses that require more than a yes or no answer, end of the Ruze.

Don't be fooled by the profiles, because even if the profiles tell you what it wants and you are providing exactly that, you find that conversation and setting in person meet ups are flaky. This is where some other reviews have disclosed that it appears when you are lucky enough to get into a real interaction with a woman, she may be on the payroll for the site. Which means, she's only there to waste your time.

I really wanted this site to be what it claimed to be, but after a couple of months, I cannot in good conscious give it a good review. I'm not sure how things work for women who sign up, but men be ware. My advice is focus on your hobbies and meet someone live while doing what you love instead of wasting time and money here.

Hope this helps someone and good luck!

So I have had several experiences / conversations thus far from the site. And the girls on the site seem to be the full spectrum from outright pay to play to women looking for a boyfriend. From the three in person experiences, I am 0-3 thus far. One girl didn't even show up for the date citing "she didnt think the set date was serious" when in fact we had confirmed date / time / place two days earlier? And the date set at a very nice restaurant I might add... That is what it is and not much more I can say. The 2nd lady was a model/beautician/salesperson who did show up for the date. It was a nice time, fun, good conversation, nice girl. But this person, clearly well trained in how to look her best, decided to stop home after work and dress further down from her assumed business casual work sales attire. So she shows up to a nice steakhouse in sneakers, ripped jeans, a sweatshirt, and baseball cap, with minimal if any makeup on. Yes I said Baseball cap... Well she has Filet Mignon taste with a Burger King appearance. Should I be offended or feel disrespected? I mean, if your aim is to be treated like a Barbie Doll, step one would be to look like and carry yourself like one... correct? Arm candy if that's what you want to be needs to look sweet... As a man, if I show up to the date substantially better dressed than the girl, well, that's an issue... The 3rd meeting was a nice girl, straight conversation, just not for me. I gave the site 3 stars because thus far nothing that has gone wrong on those 3 dates is their fault... but hard to recommend the site if the quality of people are no shows / please don't embarrass me dates... Ot hard to recommend if most women dont answer e-mail. That being said, I am seeing alot of potentially fake accounts. Accounts where the pics posted are very attractive, they write to me to entice me to spend credits to write back. When I write back, nobody there... I'm keeping a record of all the activities and who does what because something tells me that while there are certainly real people on the site, I'm relatively sure the site is also sponsoring fake activity for financial gain. Update: Nothing new and same stuff others are experiencing. No replies, etc. And with the premis of the site, I really don't believe any of these other reviews citing "found the one", etc, etc.

I joined a few weeks ago and at first it was really interesting but it did force me to verify while I was in the middle of an allergic reaction so I hate my video. There are not many verified guys, I have been stood up twice and no one really replies to messages.

I have received messages from potential sugar babies. But, about 90% of the women have written a 5-10 word note (or less) that shows zero thought and I, as a male subscriber, have to buy credits to initiate each conversation if I'm interested. When I've replied with a thoughtful response expressing interest I've almost never heard back from the potential sugar baby. I can't figure out why they send messages, put you on their list of preferred partners, and then don't reply. This has happened to me EVERY time. It gives the impression that the girls are fakes enlisted to interest you just enough to get you to reply (which uses credits) and then ignore you to move on to the next guy. That may or may not be the case, but this has happened to me whether the girls are "verified" accounts or not. The site representatives say this is not deliberate deception and rightly point out that they have no control over the behavior of their users, but it appears to be a pattern. Maybe it's just that the place is populated by vapid women with short attention spans who really have no interest in becoming a sugar baby or, I think most likely, they think they want to be one and sign up because the idea seems exciting but then decide they aren't really interested or they're scared and they move along. In any case, so far it has not been worth the time or money to me. Your mileage may vary. I will say that the customer service people have been responsive and helpful.

So far bad experience i have been waiting to get verified and still no email or anything i was really excited for this site

I was attracted to the site as I am a married man looking for some fun on the side. One would think with "Secret" in the name, this would be the ideal site for this situation. I bought credits and reached out to about 12 women. Not a single response. The women are very good looking and the photos do seem real. So either the profiles are fake or this is not the site if you are are looking for a relationship outside a marriage.

I've tried it two different times about a year apart. And haven't ever received a response whether I initiated it or a woman did. Sure get lots of messages but there's nothing there. Don't waste ur money. On upside the customer support team was amazing. Refunded my purchase and gave me free credits.

So far I've met with 4 guy since I joined 3-4 months ago. They all want daily attention and consistent dialogue every day, and some want intimacy. They seem to think that the SB "benefits" consists of free food, unlimited sex and a free trip to a romantic hotel with a pool. None of those are beneficial to me.

They want you to spend your coins that's it! Women reach out to you, then you respond never to hear from them again. Please listen, and heed warning. Don't waste your money!

I joined this service about a month ago and have yet to have a date or reach one of my matches by the phone number they've given me. I'm no don juan mind you but I'm not that bad looking and am in shape and ama nice guy but I've either had the girl drop out after sending me an initial brief message and after I've responded, or they give me a few brief responses and then stop texting me or when I think everything is fine and they give me their phone number, I call it and get voicemail. When I ask them they say they just have texting or their phone is broken or they refer me to an outside messaging service or they are traumatized by previous abusive boyfriends. So why are you actively on the site then? I'm starting to believe what some previous reviewers said that there may be a few real girls on here but the majority are bots or staff just replying to burn thru your credits. There's been too many dead ends since I've joined. I've had much better luck with regular escort sites returning calls and meeting even though I'd like more meaningful connections. I'm really starting to get pissed.

This site looks like a complete Fake. Seems like it exist only to get you to scribe and waste your credits. Don't waste your Money on this site.

Update (July 30th 2019) - The customer service of this site is actually great. I was really surprised that they not only refund my money for the credits I bought but they also give me much more credits for site to come back. This site is NOT a scam site. This is actually real site trying to get into this type of dating. This site trying to get launch, getting for men's and women's' into the site. They are not here to scam you. They are trying to get into business. I had upgrade them from one star to 2 star review. Still new, still not great, but they are trying and they have potential to be a good site.

A friend recommended this to me but I don't feel comfortable with this kind of thing. I signed up and thought it was kind of weird that I had to verify my picture, I never saw a dating site do that before. It was confusing and my picture wasn't accepted for some reason I didn't understand.

I met a guy off this site who looked nothing like his pictures and was a total slob. After dinner he invited me back to his place and I noped right out of there.

Been on the site for two weeks, there may be very few legit girls on the site I think met 1, but the rest are total BS. (funny a reverse of the site signature LOL) I had some fun with it, and I just couldn't give my money away as a donation to help these girls out even if had I wanted to not even expecting anything in return, but after 2 cancelled dates and a no show with girls dropping of the network after agreeing to meet up or disappearing completely after I reply to their message, I am very skeptical and bit pissed that I waste this much time. Ok Herb, screw me once, shame on you-- you need to fix this s%1t. I'm done with BS of SB

Well a few ladies were there to "be there" I'm thinking. To help grow the site. I was scammed three times in different way. Be careful and think with the rite head!
I can't stress this enough... make sure she's 18!

This place tell the women how much to ask per meeting. They tell them to ask $400
I have countered with $200 and have met a couple of women. Like others have said I think that there are site generated profiles that message you to get you to use your credits. The response rate is very low.

I don't live in a big town, but I was expecting more women to choose from. Not enough women in my area.

Like many other in this review forum my experience was: join, decide to pay some $$ for credits, received almost daily messages from women, then go to respond to the ones I actually find attractive and nothing but silence. I had an exchange with one 24yo beauty - who wrote me first - then after responding with "Hi, you are gorgeous! I'd love to be your sugar daddy - how can I spoil you? " etc. then after weeks of nothing, the girl not online for 3+ weeks, and similar experience with other top-tier attractive women, I had had it with SB. I decided that indeed something fishy is gong on on that site. I believe SB pays for model type 18-25yo women to create these fake profiles. I wrote to her asking to meet one more time just to prove that she's actually on the site looking for someone/sugar daddy as I had decided that the entire site was a scam. She THEN responds with "I'm real - see my verification video?" She did have a verification video - but what does that prove? The funny thing is the video didn't even really match the photos. Anyway - I've decided this:

Either the SB site pays some # of truly beautiful young women to join/create the videos but none of them are there to meet you - or - the site does carry out some of this pernicious behavior and I was just unlucky enough to not contact the beautiful "real" ones. Either way - at least for the model-type women the site is a scam. I finally told SB my opinion and that I wanted a refund for my remaining credits for me to leave, At first SB would not refund. Then I took a couple of photos from one of the model types and plugged them into images.google.com. And voila! I had evidence of a totally fake profile. Remember - images.google.com is your friend. I then wrote SB claiming the site is a scam - here's some proof! Within hours they are refunding my credits and I'm off the site.

Doesn't work. Same complaints as others. I respond to a message, don't get a response and the Er Er person doesn't even read my response. Spoke with customer service. They were very accommodating. Very quick response from them. I'm pleased.