Secret BenefitsReviews 443

"First off, (ahem, revealer), I'm sure I'm not as young as some other women on the site, so I may not be your typical gal here. Although I feel good, I think I look good, and no guys have complained yet, hahaha. My last date was about a week ago. He was like 12 years older than me. One of those that just did not vibe from the start (I actually made up an excuse that I didn't feel good and left). That was my first and only bad date from this site, so I think they are deserving of some recognition for that.
I'm actually doing a better job lately in vetting out the guys that aren't for me. My goal here is to find a life partner that can support and will hopefully give me a great reason to quit my 9 to 5. I feel like this site will give me the best chance to find such a partner so I'm keeping my hopes up high. I would recommend this site to others, but I don't want the competition lol!"

First of all %80 of users on the site are men so think about that. Second it is one of the most expensive sites out there. You have to pay at a minimum $3.00 per person to message. Strangely enough tons of women message you but you can't read the messages or respond until you pay. After you pay and respond to the messages you never get a response back again. It's obviously a scam to get you to pay more money. For the price of 10 messages you can pay a flat monthly fee on another site which gives you unlimited messaging. Also the search and filter functions are better on other sites. Don't waste your money.

I'd be using the site as a woman for the last week. I've got a ton of a messages, admirers, matches. Out of nowhere I got a notification that my account was limited and I needed to verify myself with a video. No problem, submitted a video. Verification is only suppose to take 24-48 hours and now it's been 120. I'm livid. I had a few dates set up through the site and I can't even message them back because the stupid site won't verify me. I've messaged support at least 4 times with no response. This issue is killing my chances of meeting anyone and ruining any chance I did have with the men I was talking to. Completely unacceptable and $#*!ty customer service.

Kind of a slow start since joining. After some trial and error, I've learned it's best to ask for a 'chemistry meeting' in a safe place in public. I usually suggest meeting at a cafe or nearby park to get a feel for each other. Just don't be too surprised if they sometimes want to call the shots as to where as long as it's in an area where other people are around. Better safe than sorry. Didn't have an issue myself but you never know. I feel for me that a big tip for success is to show up looking my best. Like make an effort to look good (not too much fragrance unless you know what he likes), wear something appropriate for the time and place but not too revealing. Just keep it classy, you know? Turn on the charm, and play it cool along his energy lines so he feels comfortable and wants to see me again. Usually after that he should be hooked and up to meeting again. Plenty of men on the site, at least in my area, so don't get put out if things don't start happening for you right away. Took me a few weeks to get my first real date but things have really picked up for me since then and I have no problem finding dates when I'm in the mood now.

I joined Secret Benefits in August 2018 and promptly forgot about it for four months. Meanwhile my inbox filled up with messages from women who "admired" my profile on the site. I assumed they were fake and ignored them. Then around Christmas I decided to try contacting some local women. I found I had to buy credits as it cost 10 credits to respond to a message from a woman or to send a first message. At the time it was about US$1 per credit, though it was a lot cheaper to buy 1000 credits. In fact when you sign up the site encourages you to buy 1000s of credits and take a scatter gun approach i. E. contact dozens of women in your area in the hope that one or two might bite. I had no shortage of messages from women. Unfortunately the most decent woman I met lives in Belgium (I'm in London). We've never met and probably never will but we keep in touch daily by WA and she's a good friend. However, I was hoping for more than that from SB so I carried on looking. So far I've had dates with one woman out of about 50 chats - 4 dates in all, two in bars and two in a hotel room. I'll say no more except those dates cost a lot more than a typical London escort would have cost. A few tips for the unwary: the majority of women on SB absolutely do not want a sexual relationship. Many are looking for a monthly allowance or high priced pay per meet in return for letting you wine and dine them once or twice a month. Others want you to invest in a business start up. Others want you to pay for their university tuition fees, rent, clothes, holidays, etc and in return they offer "friendship" or "someone to talk to" in very public places like concerts, restaurants and shopping malls. Some will give you a sob story and ask for money up front - concert tickets that are selling out fast is a common one, or rent because the landlord is hammering on the door right now is another one. The lady I met 4 times asked me for £200 for clothes last week. For old times' sake I sent her the money by PayPal. The money left my account a week ago and she's still insisting it hasn't reached her, obviously hoping I'll resend. That's the kind of woman you're likely to meet on SB.

Most of the reviews on here are too Rosey and smell like total B.S.to me.
I signed up and bought the 100 credit package even though I was a bit skeptical.
The girls on here are mostly very attractive and they will message you first and then you have to buy "credits " from the website to "unlock" the message and be able to read it. Once a message is unlocked all future correspondence in the future with that girl is free and unlimited.
It ends up costing $6 or $7 to unlock a message and so far only 1 of the girls has responded back to me. So it's pretty obvious that the website owner pays people to sit behind a computer and post new profiles of hot girls & then has the "hot girls" reach out to all the guys by picqing their curiosity with a message from them. Meanwhile the guy's credit balance is lowered by 10 credits each time ( about $6 or $7)

Great for college students like me that want to meet generous men. I've always had a thing for older guys especially after being around so many immature boys on campus, so Secretbenefits.com has been a great solution for me. I've gone to some of the nicest restaurants in town and the men have always generously paid for the night out. I've recommended to a couple of my friends as well and they're having good luck too. The only bummer part is they don't have an app, but other than that it's a great place to meet nice guys.

There are a few similar dating sites like Secret Benefits. So far, I've tried Seeking, Established Men, and Secret Benefits. My feelings on them are kinda mixed. EM was ok but not much to choose from in my area, SA was definitely busier but it seemed like a lot of bots and old profiles, SB has been a happy medium for me. Not as many profiles as SA but more recent signups and responses to my messages. The men I've met in person have been nice to me and for the most part look like their pics. I hope this comparison helps those looking.

There are plenty of hotties in my area. Site has been running smoothly. I was happy that it was left up to me as far as what personal info I wanted to share about myself and I wasn't required to go through a lengthy sign-up process. I've been seeing a couple of young ladies on the regular on a very casual basis. I also get contacted by women every week which allows me to be picky and select the best of the bunch. Would recommend.

There are a few things I really like this dating site for:

It's free for me to use! An obvious reason to like anything.
It's fast and easy to use. It's a no-nonsense service.
They seem to be getting lots of new profiles every time I look, so I'm not getting bored yet.
I'm meeting cool guys. They have, for the most part, been who they say they are and have treated me very well.
There are a couple of things I'm not crazy about:
They don't have a mobile app. I heard it's coming, so hopefully that happens soon.
Guys have told me they have to pay to open a conversation with me, so I think that's why several guys that I've been interested in haven't written me back. Although, that might also mean they're cheapos, and dutch treat ain't my thing.
All around a great dating website worth the time in checking out!