Ashley Madison

Despite its notoriety, this site will mostly disappoint those who spend the money to join. Yes, there are a few real women on the site and it's possible to strike up a conversation with a few of them, but overall it's a huge waste of time and, frankly, a scam. You quickly start to see certain patterns in the "matches" that they send you several times per week that clue you in to the fact that the site is flooded with bogus profiles that AshleyMadison generates (the site makes money by charging men to send messages to women, so the more messages they can sucker you into sending, the better for their bottom line). To make matters worse, the site is a sausage fest, so it's difficult to grab the attention of the few real women on the site because they have to wade through scores of crude messages and $#*! pics every day (this tidbit comes courtesy of the couple of actual women I met on the site). Because the customers are all married guys trying to have an affair we keep our mouths shut, but really some AG should be prosecuting AshleyMadison for fraud or some lawyer should be pushing through an easy class action lawsuit.

Ashley Madison may have been a great site at one point, but today, in 2023 it's one of the biggest dating scam sites on the internet. Based on my own experience and the research I've read, most of the female profiles on Ashley Madison are as fake as a $3 bill. There probably are a few legit profiles as their are with all personals and dating sites, but with AM there are tons of profiles that are only looking for Sugar Daddys, Cash Cows and yes, even Paid Encounters.

Oh how we dream of the days of Craigslist Personals. At least there, you could clearly identify the scammers and ho's, but with AM, men have to pay to contact women and if the person you contacted was a fake profile, scammer, prostitute or sugar baby, they will not reimburse you for the credits you spent contacting that person. And, they will hound you every time you log in to buy more credits. To say AM is beyond horrible is beyond a huge understatement. Stay away from it like you'd stay away from the plague. It's absolutely worthless.

Please come back Craigslist Personals!

I joined this site and was charged 87.00 18.99 for mobile app that I did not want or need but it's no choice I sent 4 messages 4 and I was then asked to purchase more credits A COMPLETE SCAM RIPOFF

I used this site some time ago and it was functional. My last experience was abysmal. Granted of course the there may just be a lack of interest, but no matter how much effort you put into contacting messages, the number of people that in response even look at a profile is close to zero, not counting obvious fakes (25 years old from japan being rely interested in you as a mid 40s old male in the US type stuff). After a while I noticed that the site blatantly misrepresents who is active on line. At 6 in the morning you may find 11 woman near by that were active in the last 48hours based on the search option, none are online. OK. Makes sense. If you switch to show anybody beyond the 48h limitation you get 86 members. Surprisingly, 53 of the additional 75 members that just popped up. Are also listed as currently online. In fact they are always listed online and never respond to any messages. They are aware of it, and do nothing about it. Why would they, it creates a pool of probably not even fake but long since inactive members that are presented as active by a a "glitch" in the app. Switched to friend finder x. Far better experience. I created a screen shot of the above issue with a more narrow range, but identical settings one minute apart, except I selected either "last 48h login" or "anytime. Results for the latter do not fit the screen and most are listed as "currently online".

Total rip-off. A gazillion fake female profiles and watch your credits tumble out of control in every way imaginable without getting anywhere. Basically like a slot machine taking your money with no payoff whatsoever. Once your credits get low you will receive a nebulous one word message from a beautiful woman whom you will never hear from again after it sucks more credits out of your bank to reply.

TOTAL WASTE OF TIME. Be WARNED. TOTAL MONEY-MKING RIP-OFF. Hopefully incredible bad karma, atrocious bad luck and disaster to ALL involved in the running of this site, may a thousand voodoo curses descend on you and plague your life with endless misery.

@Merryn P. http://www.sitejabber.com/reviews/www.ashleymadison.com#137
You sound like a nagging, bitter, harpy. No wonder your husband cheated on you.
I hope you lie awake at night wondering, if only for a fraction of a second that maybe it was you. Maybe you couldn't keep him satisfied and that's why he went into the arms of another. Maybe you were boring in bed.
The holidays are coming up and I hope and pray it's your children's first Christmas without
Their father. I hope this is your first Christmas as a single mom. I hope you enjoy raising them alone knowing your chances of finding someone willing to shoulder the burden of another man's kids will probably mean that you'll die alone and unloved.

That being said Ashley Madison is a total scam. Anyone here telling how they found someone and had an amazing time is either lying or just lucky. Micro-currency instead of a monthly subscription was enough to make me never pay. Just lurk in your free status for a week and you'll see how bogus the site is.

For a married woman like me to use this site I guess its obvious ive already lost my faith in the Hollywood movie versions of what a marriage should be like. But once you join a site like Ashley Madison or one of the other ones like NoStringsAffair.com as a woman, no matter what yur reasons are, any shred of respect you had for the institution of marriage goes right out of the window! I get propositioned several times daily on Ashley Madison from guys within my local area I cant believe how many men are cheating (or trying to cheat). It really is scary how packed full of married men the site is. Dont get me wrong, im not saying im whiter than white im on these sites for a reason and do enjoy the flirting and the attention of course, its just an eye-opener. Ive only met one guy so far (it wasnt on AM) and although it was a bit nervy and awkward at first he understood how important it was to keep everything secret and under the radar, so I ended up having a really great night in the end. Im excited to do it again finding a guy isnt the problem, knowing you can trust them not to start stalking you is though! So my advice is to always chat for a couple of weeks first and then use common sense (or female intuition, which is even better of course!). But be prepared to lose your faith and interest in monogamy before you start.

THIS SITE IS SIMPLY A CHEAT! 4 TO 6 PEOPLE, IN WHICHEVER OFFICE THEY OPERATE FROM, READ EVERYTHING THAT COMES THROUGH AND ANSWER SELECTIVELY, USUALLY VERY BRIEFLY WITH STUPIDS REPLIES SUCH AS, "HOW ARE YOU?", "WILL BE IN TOUCH SOON" AND SO ON, THEN NOTHING ELSE EVER HAPPENS. I HAVE HAD THE CHANCE TO CHECK THESE PEOPLE OUT AND MUST SAY THEY ARE DEFINITLY THE BIGGEST THIEVES ON LINE. THEY GET THEIR WOMEN PROFILE FROM SOME OUTSOURCE AGENCY, THE WOMEN IN THE PICTURES ARE NOT THE ONES WHO ANSWER TO ANYONE, THIS IS DONE RANDOMLY BUT EXTREMELY UNTIMELY FROM THOSE IDIOTS IN OFFICE!
STAY AWAY FROM THIS SITE UNLESS YOU WANT TO BE RIPPED OFF AND STRUNG ALONG FOR EVER AND EVER.

Cant say whether its a scam or not but totally not for me and feel ripped off.

Really thought about it before I signed up and eventually gave it a try. So I just created a profile and didn't buy any credits for at least a week. Just observing I was receiving on average about 3-4 hits a day with a variety of ladies showing interest. But you cant see their message unless you buy credits.

Now with 10+ women waiting in the wings what man could resist.

Well this fool couldn't so I bought the basic package, after whats $89. Its been a week and everything totally stopped the day I bought credits how coincidental was that.

In my opinion and as one reviewer said if your in shape and look better than average then you have a chance but average will not do it and if your in that bracket save your pennies boys. Like most things in life its just another get rich on peoples hope scam.

$89 out of pocket and I still have 85 credits left who wants them happy to pass them on for free.

Good luck and don't say you weren't warned.

I wish there was a lower rating. This site is FULL of fake ads. I would be surprised if any women actually joined this site. Don't waste a dime on this crap. No truth to any of it whatsoever.

Worst dating site EVER. First, the cost! Way too high. Fools you with feeling that it will be different and exclusive. No … just ridiculous. You have to buy credits to communicate or "favorite". Every interaction of any kind deletes your credit balance. Fully 80% of women have no clear public picture, they hide a vanilla picture behind a private firewall which you guessed it, you have to spend credits to request to see. Half of those requests are denied, even when profile contacted you first, but of course your credits are gone and not returned. This site is billed as "Life Is Short, Have An Affair". None of that happening. Should be "Life Is Short, So We Will Rinse You Of Money".

If/When you finally get something beyond "Hi", you will be asked to move off the site to either your email, text, or some scam filled messaging site. You'll wait days for any message until you start getting bombarded with requests to communicate. As your credits dwindle, the messages get fewer and fewer until you almost run out, then you are bombarded again to get you to fling some more money down the toilet.

As with every dating site, the Chinese are posting all the Asian women fake profiles and you'll be led down a fun path that always ends in a request to invest in cryptocurrency.

I really can't describe what a rip-off this site is. STAY AWAY

Ashley Madison, like other dating websites, give women all the power in initiating dialogue. There is a massive problem with that. That's not their role. They have no SKILL in that area. Pursuing and initiating is MEN'S job. It's how we got here as a species. WE are the hunters. WE are the ones that pursue. We spend our ENTIRE LIVES working on our swag, personality and charm. Women on the other hand, never HAVE to work on their ‘getting' skills because THEIR getting skill is their beauty. They never HAVE to work on ‘picking up guys' because that's not their existence. So then. What happens when you reverse our nature roles that have been embedded into our DNA (on a virtual format to boot) and give the creatures that don't know how to initiate. The power of to initiate? Exactly what you'd expect. It sucks. Women lack the skills to take the initiative because it's not in their nature to do that! They don't know how! And if they are being honest, they don't WANT to be in charge of the process. Women don't want to win, they want a winner.
All that to say, I just wish these dating sites would consider the numbers. That there are more women born than men on average and there are far more women available than eligible bachelors. High quality men ARE the rare commodity. And the fact that WE are the ones that have to pay to play on these sites is completely $#*!-backwards and mind-boggling. If anyone should be paying to play on these dating sites. It should be women.
-That is all, cheers

It takes ages and I was about to give up after I spent many hours a week trying to find a woman for discreet encounters. But it worked for me. The woman I finally met told me why it takes for ages. She said that she gets at least 50-100 messages a day from men and after a while simply gets tired of them. She only reads a few, those which seem to be interesting for her, and deletes the rest.

Same story on Saphrina.com, although it was a little more stress-free. I spent probably a few hours a week and it took over two weeks until I finally ended up meeting a women in a hotel room. That woman comfirmed the same story my AM date told me.

What I learned from using affair websites: You must be polite, even if you get no reponse. Both women I met told me that they never answer initially and they never use their affair website each and every day. Most important rule: Don't be rude and never send nasty pictures or anything like that.

It is some hard work as you have to sort through some inactive profiles and scam contacts but keep trying and you will finally meet someone. There are women on there!