Ashley Madison

As someone who has been on AM for 8-9 years I can say emphatically that 90-95% of women's profiles are totally fake. During those 8-9 years I think I have meet 3 or 4 real women. The rest seem to be a mix of (what I suspect is) profiles created by AM staffers to get men to send messages (for which you are charged). They may respond, but always with non-committal questions - just to keep you messaging and burning through the credits you are paying for. These all follow a standard format, they may or may not have a picture, and profile descriptions usually say something basic like "Just here to have fun," or alternatively, something a woman would never actually really say, like "Just 69 me." Use your head and you can see these are not real.

Others I think may be third-party individuals looking to scam users. They usually have more detailed greetings but use profile pics from catalog or Instagram models, and any man with a working brain knows a woman that gorgeous will NEVER be looking on AM, so don't waste your time there. I did follow with one once just out of curiosity, and he/she tried to sound friendly at first, but always claimed to be out of the country on business (but had family or a residence close to me) but was making money hand over fist with some relative's investing advice. Obviously trying to lead me on to sending money somewhere.

In short, don't waste your time. AM sucks (your money) while offering no real service in return.

What the hell is it about the fear of getting caught and doing $#*! you aint supposed to be doin? Chicks dig that $#*! for real man. Thats the only reason I can figure as to why they join these sites! They be bored at home or suspectin there boo is getting some action with a work colleague and end up on sites like this and nostringsaffair to make themselves all hot and horny again, lovin the attention that guys like me cant help givin! And the fact im married (second time surprise suprise) makes it just as forbidden and so even extra hotter for me! Love this $#*!. Sure - a lot of the time its just chat or swappin sex pics but ive met with enough married chicks to know that this $#*! be for real if you use good sites, simple as that.

I agree with many others here and will also say what a revolting and low class act, it doesn't matter if your not happy, you make it work or you leave. Don't think for one second you won't be found out, all cheaters are found out its just a matter of time. I've been married for a long time now to a man who like me believes in complete honestly and nothing less, we don't even feel the need to look at others, were still very much in love, are best friends and gave a fantastic and exciting sex life, with each other. If you such a low life that you have to go behind your woman's back or such a whore that you can't keep your legs shut then you deserve all you get because in the end all you will have is loneliness, my husband and I laugh at the commercial for this site when it comes on and others like it because it's just so pathetic it's funny, I feel amazingly blessed seeing what trash is out there, that I found a man who actually loves and respects me, who is strong enough to have the control where he controls himself and doesn't allow animalistic desires to control him, a weak man is controlled by what's in his pants, not the kind of guy any woman needs so good luck to them.

After the site got hacked in 2016, it went to garbage. There are more bots now and it's like 7 credits to send one message and most users never respond.

I had always been suspicious of my husband who would never answer direct questions about other women. He told me repeatedly that I was paranoid and that he'd never crossed the line. I tried to believe him but kept having recurring dreams where I'd catch him in the act and my dream self would slap him in the face.

After hours of trying to convince myself not to break into his e-mail, I caved in. His user name and password were saved on our computer, daring me to know what was going on. When I got into his inbox I felt like a bank robber, violating every rule of common decency.

I discovered multiple e-mail trails between my husband and women from affair dating sites (the ones he's been using were ashleymadison.com and nostringsaffairs.com). He had invited one of them to go out hours after he told me that doesn't cheat on me. They had been flirtatious for a month.

My world fell apart. I was utterly distraught. He was my world – my friend, my only lover – and he has completely betrayed and hurt me to a degree beyond my comprehension.

You people cheating behind your spouse's back are noting more than sinners that will burn in Hell for turing their back on God and The Bible!
Stay away of these sites!

I joined and found that to meet anyone, you need a security pass... explained to me by a prospective partner who i believe was a website stooge. When you apply for a security pass, which costs $10, you have to complete a 3 stage verification process. At each stage you give your cc details, and are signed up to an affiliated site, plus 2 free sites which revert to full time membership. This happens 3 times with the promise of a refund at the end. Bullcrap... When I asked for a $65.36 refund for being signed up unknowingly, I argued for 3 days with about 12 email requests. Eventually I was told I would get a refund, but enter your card for a refund and you are signed up to more sites and your CC is rejected... bank error.
So I have filed for fraudulent activity and have had to cancel my CC... STAY AWAY THESE guys ARE SCAMMERS, DISHONEST and TRICKSTERS...

I am 45 years old. I was expecting to meet women my age for a fling. Almost all profile views and messages I get are from 20 yo gorgeous women nowhere near where I live who are all ready to meet me. How can we meet so far away? No idea. Why on earth would a woman want to jump in the sack with a 45 yo stranger across the country when they are good looking enough to find a younger guy right down the street? Because the girls are not real. Most women I messaged around my age has their profile mysteriously disappear in a few weeks with No response. I got only a couple responses from women all together and they wanted my private pic only which shows exactly how I look as public pic. It's a total scam. I got my money stolen.
UPDATE: I changed my profile to remove the auto buy of new points. Starting that day my profile views dropped to virtually zero and all unsolicited incoming messages stopped. Now there is a lot less women to contact (use points). The first day I had messages about every couple minutes with an incomplete profile. I have a well crafted profile now and nothing. Hmmm.

I am not saying that Ashley Madison and Saphrina are the best adultery websites available but they worked for me :) Had five dates through both sites and all of them turned into some action :) Actually, all of my latest AP's were found on Ashley Madison or Saphrina. I understand why some guys complain though but if you learn how to spot fake profiles, how to do some basic screening and watch for how messages are written you will be fine :)

Two stars because the site is most all fake profiles or people trying to get money. 100% of the so called women interested in me wanted me to put my personal information and credit card number on another site. Either that or wanted me to buy them a gift cards. No one chatted on video but they kept asking for my phone number to text me. Then they said go to their link and give out all my personal information. Obviously they think men are $#*!ed. The site is not a viable hook-up site. Have the women pay at least something and ban prostitution from it and it might work. I have been told that no woman has sex for free. I disagree. 10% of young men who look good without a shirt get laid on Tinder. The rest foot the bill by paying for the service. So 90% of guys pay for the top 10% on Tinder. No chance of getting sex without paying on AM for guys. Prostitution is illegal in most places in the USA and degenerate police are always looking to entrap lonely men so it's men that face the most danger on these sites. I have come to the conclusion that the only way to meet women is in real life. The Internet sucks for 90% of guys. The site is absurdly expensive with no results. Don't waste your money guys. You could have a few really good dinners at a crowded sports bar for the price of just one month of nothing at AM.

Those bandits charged my account improperly and so far didn't even answer me. What to expect from wrore house pimps/managers/owners?

CHARGE ME BACK, PIMPS! CROOKS! THIEVES!

I'M GONNA REVIEW YOU IN EVERY SINGLE SPACE I CAN!

BANDITS! PIMPS! CROOKS!

Beware of Ashley Madison...
I only had contacts with 5 or 6 women over 4 years.
AM is full of fake accounts that will waste your money!
AM now pays females to create profiles that look real, with nice photos, in order to entice you to contact them! Those photo will either not show a face, or if they do, they will only show conservative photos.
If you wink or add a "woman" to your favotrites, ignore any replies that look like:
"I'm sorry but I don't have time to reply to winks. Send me a full message".
That is a typical "spend 5 credits you dumbass and you will never hear back from me".
One such "woman" did reply to me but was laconic and criptic.
When I asked her how much she is making, she replied: "enough and I enjoy seeing how men are making fools of themselves".
To find "real" women, add a long message to your profile and ask to wink you in a very particualr way... not just the stansard wink.
Those who work for AM never bother to read your profile!

I tried this site after reading it cleaned up its fake act. From the start, all I received were automated messages designed for me to use more and more credits. As I was winding down my balance of credits, I experienced a rise in interest! Once my credits were gone, the system blocked me out of the messages I had already purchased, until of course I buy more... That got me thinking about how women experience the site, given that most (if not all) do not pay anything. I called the toll free number and spoke to an agent who confirmed that guest woman have more access than guest men! That is, women who do not pay can read and respond to messages, but men under similar circumstances get no access. This seems discriminatory and illegal. Look, it is not about being cheap, its all about integrity and honesty. There are a lot of intimacy seeking men putting their faith in a system that is clearly a scam. We cannot expect the average man to know all of this, so AM gets away with the predatory treatment of men.

As a (real!) woman, I had my profile up up on AM for about 1 month recently. I met 8 men in person after weeding out several at least a hundred of profiles that had messaged me--I let the men initiate and message me 1st. I'm selective and only wanted to met men with my criteria of being fit, good looking, approx. My age, etc. So anyone who wrote a nice unique message to me I did respond to each saying thanks but I'm not interested. Yes, so shallow but that's AM. After a few messages on AM, I give each my email or they give me their emails (not to waste their expensive credit). After meeting each for a quick drink after work, either I felt the chemistry and we kissed as we ended our 1st meeting or they left on their own without anything more but a hug. I took down my profile as I've met a few that I'd like to continue on with. So no need to keep looking as it's draining and definitely time consuming to just go through messages and profiles. Oh note, early when I started my profile was flagged by AM as a possilble fake as it looked like someone (or many?) reported me as I didn't respond to them. One guy kept sending me like several, several messages going off on me as fake, etc. I was going to report him but he beat me to it! I had to prove I lived in my city and I actually sent them my drivers license. Yes I did. The feedback from the guys I've met are that they've met some other real women too on AM and had some luck so it's not all fake women's profiles. And all the guys I've met have real professional jobs, etc. so nothing weird.

It is a terrible shame that they have so many fake profiles that are set up just to keep the man spending money on messages that go nowhere. In 1 case I know very well of, a "woman's" profile was told that the messages would stop if she was not willing to take their contact to a free chat site. The "woman" then directed the man, a very close friend of mine, to a "profile verification site" which wanted his credit card details and a hefty monthly fee but on further investigation my friend found the profile verification site to be a bogus scam.
I have been on Ashley Madison's "Friends with Benefits" site for more than 2 months and can not yet say I have found a single genuine profile.
This is very disappointing because I am certain there are many profiles that are genuine but you just can't be sure. I think the best way to know is to, from the very first, ask the other party to chat with you on a free chat app of their choice. I can not see any reason for them not to be willing to do this if they are genuine.