Jim K.

This is the only decent dating site I have found. And I have tried Match. Zoosk. Plenty of fish. Christian mingle. Eharmony. Elite Singles. And on and on. This is the only site where the women are actually looking to meet a decent guy and respond accordingly. So if you are a scum bag, lying loser guy please stay off and don't ruin it, like you have done to the other sites, freakimg out decent women with nasty indiscretions. If you are a woman, either wealthy looking for a good guy or a woman looking for a successful guy, this is the place. As for the guys... keep it classy on here and hopefully the women will continue to respond and create opportunities to meet and hopefully have a real relationship. Good luck.

OK so here it is... I have been on many sites and there are pluses and minuses. I started at Match and went back as many do... However, here are the major drawbacks as I see them.

1) The women are spoiled on there. Meaning there are so many guys on the site that the women get buried in requests and they become so picky that they are mainly looking for reasons to NOT meet you instead of reasons why you might be worthwhile. I had one woman admit that to me.

2) Many of the women are unrealistic. Many women seem to think because of all the attention they get that they are more amazing then they are and probably pick the wrong guys to actually meet (smooth players) and then get disenfranchised and become impossible to connect with.

3) Many of the women lie... I have heard the men do too. I put the truth on my profile... about my age and my photos were very accurate but I can tell you the 70% of the women I met did not look nearly as good as their photos. A huge number lie about their age as well and I hear the men do too.

I get the lying about your age thing because it eliminates you out of a search group and everyone wants the youngest best looking person they can find but it is very unproductive and wastes a lot of time.

4) Also after a year I kept seeing the same women in my search parameters and I have either met them or they blew me off by then. LOL

5) One more thing, there is a way you can hide your profile where only women you contact can see your profile... There is an extra charge for this but it is well worth it, otherwise you get constant emails from women outside anything you are interested in... if you just want attention it is fine but it also wastes a lot of time.

Notes:

Put on your bullet proof emotional vest and don't take anything too personal. It is the coldest hard core situation... at first I felt bad not answering emails and felt badly when mine were ignored... DON'T! It is a DOG EAT DOG world on Match.com

Match needs to put some sort of verification processes in place regarding appearance and background.

All in all I think there are too many guys chasing too few women on the site.

I have been on eharmony for about 9 months and they are terrible. They take no account of criteria like physical appearance or even race. I mean seriously who thinks you can keep sending me people I don't even find attractive? They keep sending me matches that are not matches.