I first joined bbw. Date, and that was a horrible experience, people like you then never respond to you? So many fake accounts with alternative agendas? I then tried largefriends.com a little better but pretty much the same crap. Keep in mind this sites do cost less and have no contracts like eHarmony does. EHarmony, on the other hand does appear to be more legitimate. Although I'm not sure about their point system. I'm an overweight male, and they match me up according to points, so naturally I get passed up a lot :(. Again it still seems like the most legitimate dating site. It's expensive, and they require contracts, I was able to land a sweet deal at 18 per month for 12 months. My advice is join for free and sit back and wait a few days as there discount offers begin to tumble in to get you to sign up. I have been able to communicate with 2 people and both are real :).