John M.

I have used this site for years. In my "settings", I have always chosen the privacy option that is supposed to allow only other site members to view my profile. My personal info is not supposed to be used for OkCupid's advertising purposes.

However, I have just discovered that when someone Googles my user name, one of my photos comes up, and with it, a paragraph from my profile appears. This is one of the methods OkCupid uses to advertise its site.

What is it about "private" that OkCupid doesn't understand?

The biggest complaint I have about this site is not really about the site at all. Instead, my complaint is about the women who post profiles.

I wish I had statistics about the percentage of women who write that they "love to laugh" and "don't want drama". There are many, many other cliches used as well. But in short, the primary message that most women on this site seem to want to convey is that they are seeking only good times and have no patience for a real relationship. Why would anyone want to date these immature, hedonistic, and spoiled women? Even more significant, why would anyone want to marry these women who appear to be only interested in fun and nothing else?

This could be a decent site, if only members would provide more detail about themselves, and avoid all the dating-site cliches like the ones I mentioned above. And members should exercise great caution to avoid sounding like children in search of nothing but good times.