Not Alone

Complete and utter joke. A few long term users, less than 10. Most of them judgemental arsehole goody-two-shoes (Batya33 is one for damn sure, do NOT engage 'it', you've been warned) who use the forum to basically write novels about how perfect they and their lives are and how lower than the lowest everyone else is. One 'unconventional' thought or statement and you are warned, two and you're banned for life. Avoid at all costs

Terrible forum. Full of holier than thou people who likely judge you when you just want help and advice. So far we all are human, no one can claim they never made a mistake but on here they will judge you faster and harder than god. At the end, you will feel even more alone. Stay away unless you want to feel even worse.

I've read ENA off and on since either 2008 or 2009, even back then there were some incredible posters who gave such wise, thoughtful and kind advice.
I've read these reviews with the 1 stars, complaining about Holly and JMan... those two have consistently been some of my favorite commentators! They are not rude, mean or bullying anyone, they simply tell it how it is, and have different styles.

JMan is eloquent, yet not too wordy, and always gets to the point of the problem. He frequently brings up a perspective that should have been obvious, but no one else thought to point out. His advice is often worth it's weight in gold. I find it fascinating anyone could ever be offended by him, however truth itself seems to be offensive these days.

And Holly is able to give the most remarkably concise comments/answers. She asks the pertinent questions, and yes, asking someone why their standards are so low is something important for them to consider. Telling them they should probably get tested, is tough but truthful. Complaints about her (and JMan) come across as frivolous or done by Snowflakes. I've seen her go out of her way to try to understand an issue many times.

Anyway, its a great site, if anything it can be too addictive unfortunately.

www.enotalone.com uses extreme censorship tools and moderators to target men that request advice from this forum. This forum is extremely racist and hostile towards men. Simple concerns a person may have with a relationship is targeted by a moderator with sensitive feelings over nothing to do with anyone. I hope they will be shut down asap!

They remove comments that have no harm or meanness. Just opinions. I don't recommend this forum. I recommend elderwisdomcircle or prayer websites for real honest help

First of all i'm so offended by the fact that it's all goody goody until you get to your problem or you just want to share an experience, I was sharing one of the most heart breaking love experiences of my life and they were helpful but then I kept going and shared some more and then all of a sudden there asking me if I have anything better than to whine and complain, and even after this one person said I was making thing's up and trolling a user named "Wiseman" i dont know the rest but that the main of the username. Then someone locked my topic's and then I asked for advice to help me stop some of my bad behavior's and they were bashing me about having to many unrealistic problems and the same user kept saying that one of my behavior's was lying and telling everyone something that wasn't true I stood up for myself and the next day IM BANNED. This community is so unhelpful with new user's like me and such hypocrites never go on this website because they're so full of crap.

This site is not for those who want someone to agree with everything they have to say. This site is for those who want honest opinions and can handle hearing the truth on why their life is going as badly as it is.
Much like many therapies, you have to be willing to hear your downfalls before you can heal and this is what a lot of the advice on Enotalone is based around. For those willing to hear harsh truths, it can heal and you can start moving in the right direction (but only if you're willing). I am reading these reviews and I don't agree with them. The main writers on this site aren't there to baby they will put a mirror up to you and sometimes a person really needs that to get out of the terrible situation they are in. I got a lot of help here when I desperately need it. I am glad they were as honest as they were because nothing else was working and I kept remaining in a very bad situation. Thank you for this site! It will help if you're willing to be open to actual advice from all sorts of different points of view.

If you're feeling down and hurting due to your personal relationship… don't come here, they will attack you under the guise of "trying to be helpful". HollyJ is one of the most toxic common users. They'll rip to shreds and make you feel like you're wrong for having a human experience. If you want to feel even more alone, come to this toxic site for support

I was posting on a year old post, when I got a warning for "posting on a year old post" I contacted kamurj, and he said that it was a rule. I looked at the rules, and there was no such thing. I told kamurj about this, and kamurj proceeded to ban me for "trolling" all I did was ask him to remove the warning. Kamju Perma banned me. This place was so helpful, but now I'm crying, because all I wanted was to talk to some strangers and be supported. Now I can't even do that. -******* out of 5 stars if I could. Used to be my favorite. Now it's not.

I was so happy to find this site where I can seek some dating advice and all I got was blaming, and rude comments and they had the audacity to stop me from commenting on my own post... buch of losers... especially Holly! Stay away from this site and it's crazy and fake "support"

Was nice to post dating views there till they removed my last comment. They lied said I was being rude. It is free speech to make comments. Our country is bent on liberal bias and censorship based on Soviet style trained big tech losers.

Now that some time has passed, I know I rated them too generously, giving the benefit of the doubt. What actually occurred was cyberbullying, though I did not realize this could happen to adults. The way they treated a depressed and vulnerable person would be considered clinically unethical by any sane counsellor or psychiatrist. This sort of treatment is what drives teenagers to self harm. If you have gone to the site and came across Wiseguy2 or whatever his name is, or other adult bullies, don't listen to anything they said. They are sociopaths. Talk to a friend and get some real support, or talk to me here :)

I posted ONE contentious post and got given 10 'points' (?) AND a permanent ban for NO REASON WHATSOEVER (pic attached) other than 'trolling'. Luckily I have actual friends and family to go to for support and advice so I'm not alone myself, but between Loveshack.org, The Diversion Forum and enotalone.com (as dreadful as each other), I wonder where those who do need a kind, supportive, non judgemental ear go to online; especially those who feel a little 'different' and / or do not want to (or can't) conform to 'social norms'. Who on Earth will finally come up with the inclusive, warm, respectful and mutually accountable chat forum everyone wants? I'd do it if I had any technical / IT skills, except I don't. Does anyone know someone who can help me set a chat forum up? (No labels, no inane videos, no 'psychology' tips, no arbitrary mod, no pics, no weight shaming, no 'learning disabilities' shaming, no 'slut' shaming, no Alphamales, no infidelity or sex talks, no 'categories - just a few random ideas from the top of my head :) )
Thanks in advance! Advice from me: stay away from this one - not worth your time!

I was curious about a situation with a man that seemed a little odd. I wanted a different perspective so I created a post in their Dating forum. Not long after I posted, one of their regulars pounced, saying I was making excuses for men and that he wasn't interested in me. I felt like they commented without reading or understanding the post. I got loads of similar comments. Like most of the other reviewers posted, lots of blaming and judging. Out of about 20 replies maybe 2 were reasonable.

After the second judgemental reply, I decided to just troll them back. I said how hot I was, and not out of shape. That really got them going. I got called arrogant and all sorts of things like I expected.

By this time I realized I can't delete my account, so I just used profanity and was super rude to a couple of them. Just like clockwork, I got banned. They deleted the post. Problem resolved.

I found if you just use another IP address and browser, you can easily get back to the site. I found no use for going back now. Just a waste of time. I found more useful info on Quora and other sites.

If you feel that members of this site have or are currently harassing you and you tell them to stop they should stop. Even if they feel justified. If they keep posting and making you feel harassed after you have asked them to stop that is cyberbullying or online harassment.

Enotalone is in NY state. If you feel that the members of this site bullied you or continue to bully you, know that Enotalone can be held responsible for facilitating bullying. They shut out and ban members who complain about these people, but the documented bullies remain.

If you or someone you know has had detrimental mental health effects from the bullying on this site then you should know that it is not ok.

Also know that while these people feel safe behind their screens many of the documented bullies live in NY state or other places in the US where there are protections against this type of onlien behavior. They are not as anon as they think. You can file a john doe suite if you suffered or if someone has harmed themselves. You may file against this forum to uncover their personal information.

I hope that this has been helpful. However, it is probably best to avoid this forumn all together.

I don't recommend this forum. This is one of the worst places to seek support and advice. I was looking for a supporting community, with some outside perspectives on my situation, but I only obtained so much negativity. Most users there blame and shame you for your situation and even your dating experiences. They talked to me like I was a bad or dumb person, unable to make the right decisions for myself: why are you falling for such people? Don't you want to be happy? They never loved you / they used you / played you / are bad people. I looked for other threads, same messages for everyone who is asking for help. They are very critical and judgmental about you or your partners, without even knowing anything about you. They always try to drag people down in their miserable life. Asking strangers who were hurt in their relationships is definitely a bad idea. Successful people don't waste their time in such forums. Never surround yourself or listen to negative people, it will never make you achieve anything. EnotAlone users are rude and negative. They will only tell you to give up (as they probably did in their own life), that your situation is bad, had no other solutions than cutting contact and giving up, and will make insulting commentaries about you. They failed in their relationships, they don't want others to succeed where they have failed. And, last point, you CAN'T DELETE your old posts or you have to PAY for this, seriously? Paying for privacy? I didn't know this, and I am so mad at the admins for this rule. I would appreciate some anonymity and privacy in a supposed anonymous forum, especially concerning so sensitive and personal topics (relationships, breakup, abuses). Having the possibility to delete old posts on Internet is very important. It should be a right, not something to pay for. Some users found my old posts (published years ago) and use these informations against me, to shame me on my past relationships. It was rude, not helpful at all. Run away from this community!

While there are a handful of posters who frequent this site that are able to deliver opinions, recommendations, and overall help in a constructive way, there is a sub-set of users who are in some sort of cohort that is dedicated to being abusive and feed off of each other to further motivate this bullying behavior. One poster that stands out is Hollyj - this individual is consistently called out on enotalone as well as other review platforms as someone who uses judgemental and abrasive behavior to alienate posters who come to the site for help or insight on what is typically a difficult or negative time in their life. This poster is obviously dreadfully unhappy in their personal life and uses this forum as an outlet for their misery. They punctuate their verbal assault with "please seek therapy!" when it is painfully clear that someone who trolls the board and become increasingly agitated when someone calls them out is in serious need to counselling. The "moderators" are either uninterested or unable to control the board and allow this person to act out. I understand the Kamurj is not a professional and simply a volunteer who has an abundance of free time to dedicate to this forum, there is a complete lack of control over the moderation.
The advice I have to anyone thinking of posting a problem or question to this forum is this – take advantage of the blocking function and immediately block Hollyj as well as anyone else who hides behind the "I just tell it like it is" disclaimer as soon as someone calls them out for their harassment. Also, please remember that these individuals who have thousands of posts (their post number is listed under their name) are not professionals – they are simply people who have limitless time to troll the forum. I would have a large amount of wariness taking advice from anyone who spends the majority of their lives in advice forums versus having an actual life to live themselves.

I wouldn't recommend this community to anyone, and agree with what the other reviewers had to say. Other than a few decent users who empathize (God bless them!), the people I've encountered are critical and judgemental, and try to project their reality and failures onto others. They don't seek to bring other people up. Rather, they shame them, try to point out their flaws, and how their reality actually is (no one is interested, they should give up, that didn't really happen). This is the kind of negative advice I was given back when I was an open book and shared vulnerabilities to people at low-end jobs and on the streets. The vultures are the ones who spend all their time dragging people down under the guise of being helpful. As others mentioned, they are cowards and bullies. Those who are happy and successful are out there enjoying life, being around friends, making things happen.

The only thing I learned is to not seek advice from unsuccessful people. That's all you'll find here. They will relate every story you have with their own failures. They ensure they're "not alone" by dragging other people down with them. If you happen to point out your successes and try to feel good about yourself, they will claim you are egotistical, only want attention, and are making up lies. Because since they are unable to succeed, no one else can. As with most toxic people, they like to reiterate each other's critical viewpoints to prove that the victim (which they are supposed to be helping) is wrong and flawed, and need to work on themselves and accept responsibility, while they project an aura of superiority over them. If you disagree of their views over yourself, they become defensive. Surely you know yourself better than a random stranger would.

Luckily, I learned from the past and dished it all right back. That pretty much shut them up (it always does when dealing with bullies), and unlike some of the other reviewers, I was never banned. Still wouldn't recommend it and am not going back.

This site is nothing but a virtual coliseum where you are thrown to the center of an arena and have to endure the beasts of judgement, victim shame and negativity. With the exception of a few people that still show some decency and compassion, most people there have unilateral, biased views, and are very hasty judging strangers based solely on the "tip of the iceberg" they are allowed to see through the stories that are posted. It gives the impression they are on the site just to externalize their frustrations. People go there because they are in a state of emotional fragility, but are stripped naked by the community and left even worse than they arrived. If you are prone to depression and have suicidal ideation, then you really need to stay away.

I don't wish the experience I had there to anyone. I don't even have words to describe how defeated I felt. In the current moment of the world, with so many people feeling vulnerable for all kinds of reasons, what this community of "supporters" do is to spread more emotional harm, and they seem not to care a bit. My advice is that you look for a more qualified group for support. Protect yourself from eNotAlone.

People come on this site looking for support and all they get is judgement. Alot of the time its unwarnted and nasty for no reason. There are some nice people on here but there are also some sad cases like jman and hollyj to name a few who have nothing nice to say about anybody and they must think they are above everyone and never put a foot wrong themselves to be able to sit in judgement of anyone else who dares open up about their personal problems looking for support. Well dont come to this site with people like this on it you will only come away feeling worse. Better off speaking to a supportive friend because alot of people on the site only want to pick fault with anything you say to use against you.
I do wonder how people like this jman has come to beleive he can sit in judgement of everybody else like he is the most integral person alive. Hes a horrible excuse for a person, doesnt have a nice word to say about anybody ever! Awful bitter little man. So judgemental. Just reading a comment on someones post and this hollyj has to dig the knife in: in one of her posts sge tells someone to Get tested! Then dum this clown, and ask yourself why your expectations are so low"

Shes so self righteous, has to make nasty little un called for comment like this at the end just to have a dig. Thats her all over. Always subtle belittling of people.

Same issues as another reviewer. I had a horrible experience on this so called support forum. I went there for support around abuse and confused and conflicted feelings in my marriage. What I got I in reply from members was victim blaming and victim shaming mean responses. "You're just playing victim!" " you're looking for attention!" When I am in fact an abuse victim in my marriage seeking help in the abuse section of the forum. Well screw all of you miserable people! I am beaten up enough by many people in life and I certainly don't need that kind of response! I also had a run in with this Hollyj member. She was one of the ones who had said I was playing victim. Then when I protested and reacted to these mean comments by calling people out? A mod banned ME for "trolling". I was there for real help and certainly was not "trolling". $#*! all of you and go to hell. Please shut this site down!

I think that this site is cyberbullying at it's finest, only it's the platinum members that give "advice" that will bully you. A bunch of nasty people who in my opinion give terrible nasty advice. I'm not even sure of their qualifications other than being bitter and wanting to take it out on vulnerable people who stumble into this site. I would be interested to learn the qualifications of these platinum advice givers. Especially look out for hollyj the no life 17K post member who I felt harassed by. She trolled my post then turned around and called me a troll when I did nothing at all but make a post. I felt ganged up on but a bunch of trashy people for writing one post about my situation. She wouldn't get off of my post after I asked her to a few times. Thin-skinned awful people, not anyone I would want advice from.

I don't care if Arman the owner responds to this. Your site stinks and it's full of a bunch of bullies this site should be removed from the internet entirely.

It's an outlet for censorship and dictatorial rules.

If you are vulnerable and are looking for breakup advice do not go here it might be detrimental to your mental health.

Cyberbullying is illegal in our schools and should not be encouraged on sites like this. You don't know who is asking questions and how vulnerable they are. Those platinum members need to get a life and be banned for life from the site.

P.S. The site will not let you delete an account or post either. They won't even do it for you. If you need to delete a post and with it your account. Break one of their many rules. Send one of the platinum members that harrassed you a message. I told HollyJ she was a harassing troll in a message and bang I was banned for life for myself being a troll somehow. Your account and posts will be gone instantly.

I've circulated this website a few times because its supported by Tapatalk so participating is easier on mobile devices.

However, some of the moderators or older users can be extremely nasty. Someone mentioned HollyJ and I can say I've had a terrible experience with her.

I really want that forum removed from the internet because it attracts a lot of vulnerable people and brings them right into the arms of bitter anonymous users looking to put in their 2 cents in a mean way... its boarderline cyberbullying and I'm curious if anyone has inflicted harm on themselves because of the lack of compassion in a place where people are being vulnerable seeking help. I've been harassed in my inbox. For example, I posted about an ex and one of the users decided to PM me and harass me, accuse me of being weak and everything under the sun.

I also want to say that the overall website system is crappy as well. The mods will ban accounts for no reason. They'll lock accounts for no reason. I'm assuming these serial posters are mods and they have the ability to block users because if there's a thread they're not interested in responding to/they don't know how to, they'll lock the thread or block the user.

It's really a circus filled with really nasty unqualified individuals. I would reccomend LipstickAlley, it's a younger crowd but way more compassionate.