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I was on this website and was talking to a couple of really nice guys when I got a really nasty message from one guy.My reply was as nasty as his but he had me banned.I haven't been able to create a new account or stay on without any issues with new names.I haven't used foul language, pictures or anything.I guess I should've just had that one guy banned in the first place but to make a long story short, don't use this website.They'll ban you for anything ANYTHING anyone tells you or asks them to.I guess I'll just stay single for another 10 -30 years lol
I can't even begin to describe how much I hate this site. I tried multiple times on here, deleting and remaking a profile. I have finally given up and here is why. This site is not for serious people trying to find a serious relationship. First of all, the majority of the people on this site are disgusting, ignorant, trash. And when you think you've stumbled upon a decent looking guy who seems to be normal, has a good job, and seems to have the same interests as you, one of a few things happen: they don't respond to your messages, they do respond but its only to insult you, they respond but only to ask you if you'll suck their d*ck, and finally they respond and end up being a completely fake profile. Then they claim that the matches and top prospects are people who are similar to you and what you're looking for and you have a higher % chance at finding love with one of these guys. This is complete and utter bull$#*!. There is NO possible way for them to really be able to determine quality matches personalized to you without requiring further questioning and analysis of who you are and what you look for. Yes, they have chemistry tests and a needs assessment test both of which are extremely long and neither of which is required to be done by users. So how can they possibly claim that they are determining the best matches for you when the basic profile questions hardly explain who you are and what you are looking for. Next, as far as the "UPGRADED" membership plans they offer, it is completely ludicrous that they charge people to "upgrade" because they only offer about 3 other additional features when you upgrade. Now I was never stupid enough to upgrade, but when I re-created a profile at my last attempt with this site, it somehow was giving me these upgraded features and saying that I was an upgraded user. Here is what an "upgrade" gets you: you can see if your messages were read or not, you can see who clicked YES in the meet me, and you can see when a user was last online. THAT'S IT! That is literally all you get when you pay to have an upgraded membership. Total complete bull$#*!. I didn't have high expectations to begin with seeing as how this is essentially a free dating site, but what I experienced horrible. I got messages from ghetto and trashy people who don't have jobs, an education, or even know how to form a proper sentence when messaging someone. I got replies from men that I thought seemed like someone I would be interested that were unbelievably mean and uncalled for. Instead of simply ignoring me or responding saying they weren't interested, they would call me names and say horrible things to me and tell me I was way out of my league. Now a lot of you will read this and think "oh this girl must be fat, ugly, and desperate. I can assure you, I am none of those things. I am simply someone who leads a busy life and doesn't think that picking up men in a bar is a good way to meet a decent guy. I would go to meet someone and when I showed up, they were someone TOTALLY different and had used someone else's images. I am not the kind of person who reviews things or complains even when I really don't like something, but this site is just complete and total bull$#*!. They market themselves as a dating site and talk about ways to find real love and relationships but offer no real compatibly testing. Not only that, they have nothing on their site about contacting them or their customer service. That right there shows me that they know how $#*!ty their site is and they could care less.
So ladies, if you are someone who is really looking to meet a decent man and maybe find a relationship, PLEASE do yourself a favor and DO NOT waste your time on this site. But hey, if all you're looking for is sex and are one of the trashy women i've heard are on this site then by all means knock yourself out. And yes, i've been told by guys on this site that most of the women who contact them are disgusting and offer themselves up like whores. So if thats the kind of women you are, a women who clearly doesn't respect herself in ANY way, or you're the kind of man who wants a women like that, then maybe this site is for you. But as for us normal and decent men and women, do yourself a favor and just pay for a respectable dating site that has genuine capabilities for matching you with decent and normal people and the reputation to back it up.
As far as match making goes pof doesn't know how to bait a hook. The "meet me" feature is just a picture show. It has not led to a single conversation. Their matches for me are not even close to my preferences. And those few contacts from the men on this site are from the unwashed unshaven unemployed miscreants looking for a quick hook up.
What I am most upset about is how they help themselves to your bank account with an auto renew that you can't turn off. There is no way to contact the company after the fact to make a complaint or get a refund. It took me 3 tries to delete my account because they would redirect me during the deletion process and ask a question then tell you you can only delete your account when you are signed in. I had to sign in 3 times and I am still not sure if my account information has really been deleted. I wouldn't recommend this site to anyone. Buyer beware.
One of the worst sites, wast of time. Full of jobbliss, broke, liers. To many women just use it as a way to get attention. Showing clevage shots to get peoples compliments and people to view them there profile. Witch are usually the ones that $#*! and complain when people message them about sex. Same woman are on there year after year. Just doesn't bet any worse. Don't wast your time.
Don't waste your time lads. The women on here have elevated themselves so far above what they actually are, they think of themselves as goddesses. Problem is, in the main, they are all so bloody god damn average and not worth the effort they want you to put in. I'm off it for good. Lets find someone in real life that's not up their own a*se xxx
This month and maybe longer has started charging people to see who likes them. For years I used it before because it was free. They are starting to charge certain age groups, socio-demographics, ect......the whole reason I used them for years was because they were the best FREE online dating service.....now...just deleted my account and will sign up with one of the other 12 other "free" online dating sites.....cya POF!
There's nothing on this site that I wouldn't find in real life. I admit most guys are shallow or liars, some are just nasty or already have a woman. Great site for cheaters, but not for good people like me. Still trying though, because meeting people in real life takes too long.
I went through jerks, pervs, one ok relationship and a few more jerks before finding a man that I talk to for a week, met dated a week fell in love and less than 6 months of dating got engaged! I am happily in love with this man just as we both gave POF one last chance. It takes failed relationships but so does relationships not found online.
I can't blame POF, but I was on for about 1 week and was contacted by a male that seem like a dream come true. Out of curiosity I searched the web for anything that may be out there for him. Totally frustrated, I put in his listed occupation and a scam site came up that had the exact wording this man used. I have since been hit by 5 more scammers. They end up asking for money. POF was one of the top dating sites used by male and female scammers. What sucks, is you have to be a member on these sites to report them. I reported him to POF and did not get a response. The women scammers are under stopscammers.com. I find, men want trophies on their arms and sex, no regard for the female's needs. But I can't blame POF, we just need to use caution putting ourselves out there. Oh I'm still out there, just a lot wiser.
I wanted to place an ad on this site. I submitted my ad and paid the money. They emailed me back saying that my ad was not accepted and would not refund my money. They told me that is their policy. That's called theft in my books. Don't pay these guys a dime for advertising or membership.
Nothing but a scam, no one ever replies and you have to pay to find out who wants to meet you. I wanted to find a girl to talk to that would allow a gentlemen as my self to show them how a lady should be treated, and not treated like a sex object by many men as many do. I just want to find me a lady that I can talk to and will give me a chance to show her that not all men just want to hit it and quit it but actually want to know them and build something special together. On POF that will not happen apparently!
Here a lot of guys were pro gun and country like. Well, a lot also expressed no fat girls or women of color. Same with the men of color. So, I looked out of town and landed in Texas. So I told my mom ( mind you I'm thick, didn't lie and I am pretty. And I have a good career, never divulge that) I was going to Texas to meet him. Family was great we are still cool. But he looked disappointed when he met me...he was way bigger than portrayed. So he drops me. Then we get back together.....the fifth time I go to TX all the truth comes out. And he doesn't want to care for himself....no way. One good thing, But I'm moving there because I love the city!!! 2.5 million people, I better find a date!! Six month rule always applies! Good luck people.
It is a joke. Too many men are looking for sex. Ged rid of meet me option. Meet me is popularity on looks. Half users admit they don't read my profile. Too many men send rude messages. If pof became a paid site years ago, then it would of got rid of all the jerks.Some pictures are outdated. Please stop using "average" as fat. Average is in-between.
Few pounds = fat
Man that wrote to me wanted to meet for movies. He had a picture that stops near the waist. He listed average on profile. He was really fat, and sloppy with stubby fingers. At least put big & tall, or few pounds. Average is not considered fat. Few pounds, Big & tall, full figured are considered fat. Too many men list their kik and instagram names.
Use Skype or Facetime to see the real person.
This site is very inconsiderate to there customers. The site itself is cognitively overwhelming and they will do nothing about it,and you are flashed the same pics of the same people for years in front of your face you dont have any interest in and never will and if you see someone that you do like through there matches they send you 70% of the time they are some that lives in another state or to far away nt to mention that they expect money and if you dont pay them you cant use the site effectively and keep in mind that 90% of the men and women are on a site Called ASHLEY MADISON and this site POF is turning out to be like Ashley Madison dating site which is for affairs only and this site has many men with no respect for women they are rude and post right in there profiles there sexual wants and then blatantly ask you for sex. and these men have no heart or soul So if your looking for a good man you wont find one your chances ae better finding a sexual devient or sociopath Well pof is taking on the same characteristics because most of the men on the meet me feature are without clear pics of there faces and you will be charged a fee to be treated like a whore from the meet me feature which they shouldnt charge for considering more than 90% of the men that use the feature are on the ASHLEY MADISON site and will treat you badly plus i was on this site for more than a year and never seen someone i was slightly interested in through that MEET ME feature so i wont ever pay for it and you shouldnt either this feature is not worth a dime. The men and women on the ASHLEY Madison site dont show there faces and ask for personal information like your email and contact phone number so you are giving your number to someone that you havent seen there face which is a security risk so it is making online dating more dangerous than it was from the beginning, and it is obvious that a person is on ashley madison because they will not present a clear pic of there face without sun glasses so beware of men that do this or use pics from a distance because there is a reason for them being so elusive and is that someone that you can really trust if they hide even there faces from you right from the start and only post 1 pic of themselves
POF keeps people on their site who have not been online for a year or more. I think they keep everyone on their site who has ever registered, even if that person has not purchased a membership. They did that with me. Unless you are very lucky, you will likely be wasting your money to join and pay POF.
If you're male, they will block you without notice, citing offensive behavior, I've always been polite. Have noticed after seeking who is in my area, all females who have said pretty offensive things, offering sex for money (even written in their profiles), insults about your looks (wtf? i'm not judgmental but you should see some of these women), are allowed to continue membership whereas men are blocked without reason. If you have met someone nice, they will block you before you can exchange numbers. Due to their policy, if you ask for contact info, they will block you, too. So what's the point? They keep your photos after they ban you, too. Most depressing and loathsome dating site I've ever seen.
Seemed like a fake site. The site would try to convince me that certain women were a match. When I'd message them, I wouldn't even get responses back. And if I did, it was it they were high on something. I couldn't even understand the response. And despite telling the site I wasn't interested in some women, they would keep putting them back into my yes/no folder. I wrote POF about this and got nothing but a staged answer back. Not will administered at all.
Tip for consumers: Save your money, and go to a bar. You'll have better luck there.Ask Freddy about POF
POF has finally hit rock bottom, After implementing age restrictions, photo restrictions and losing functionality in general, they have recently removed the interest search, and changed emails to block the user name of people who would like to meet you. The site has lost pretty much all of it's functionality, and it would be great for its next replacement to come along to put POF out of business, with all the great features POF had in the beginning.
I'm a decent guy. I'm kind. I'm not unattractive, but don't consider myself to be superior.
But, the women on here are, for the most part, scary!
Enough with the tattoos, Harleys, no teeth and no education.
I signed up for fun yesterday. The damn site won't let me delete my profile yet because it hasn't been 24 hours since I signed up.
The women who contacted me were angry at life, about men and frankly, in my part of the states, disgusting! Maybe it's different in other places geographically... but from the majority of reviews here, many are experiencing the same thing.
I don't go out to bars. So, it's time to join some local activities and meet some real people!! This site is just ...FRIGHTENING!!! I'm going to try to delete my account again. I can't get out quickly enough!
The guys are looking for an easy hookup. As a female on the site on and off for 3 years. Guys are pigs and liars and pof has features that, if you want, you have to pay extra money for. If you're female looking for a good time, this site is for you. If you're female looking for someone special, look elsewhere. I'm a female, 48, self sufficient, 5'4" 138 Lbs with a great personality. I'm outta here!
I would have to say the site itself is not so bad, it is easy to use and stuff, but the real problem is in with the people that have joined the site..... I know with what I am about to say you will probably roll your eyes and say who doesn't do that but everyone on there just lies about them self an example is they will say they are super friendly and down to earth..... I know I have messaged quite a few people and I have the upgraded membership so I can see this, people just delete your messages without even reading them.... whats the point in that? how do you get to know someone if they or you never bother to read it?! I would have to say this site is totally toxic and if you want to feel bad for yourself feel free to join up and be disappointed like I am. I know I wont renew my membership when it expires.
This website is nothing more than a tool for CRIMINALS to scam victims $. I have filed an FBI complaint against this site.
Been on and off this site for a few years. I've concluded that the majority of the men I met and dated had mental problems. They aren't who they said they were. Seems like these days ppl are looking for hookups and want to play head games. Im an adult. I have no time for men children.
I'm not sure why are you all so disappointed and toxic. You get what you seek. When making your profile, you need to define your core values. You need to be able to express yourself. Also, when it comes to choosing a life partner you can't be clueless about what you really want and need. You shouldn't post explicit photos of yourself and expect to be treated respectfully (unfortunately, that's how life is), or try to get match with the people who are not compatible to you or your lifestyle.
The best thing you can do is to be yourself. Only then you have a chance to find a true mach... and love...
Just my two cents... :)
I realize it is not ALL men...but what DECENT guy would want to sleep with a female without really knowing anything about her...especially her health history? If a man (or woman) has no concern about their own health, what makes you think they would care about yours? I don't "hookup", and don't want to be involved with anyone who does....and you find those types of men (and the ones with criminal records), aplenty on this site.
Why are there so many low life females, particularly Black Women that live in slums pretending to be someone they are not? These mentally challenged, child-like 'females' are looking for movie star salaries from gentlemen in real life that they'd never even have the 'bra' to speak to.
Well here goes. I held a conversation with one female in my same age group. After some really good chat conversation online for about 2 weeks, we decided to exchange numbers and talk. After the 3rd conversation, she told me about having a rough day and it was all due to some white guy she chatted with online who wanted sex. The man and her actually had exchanged numbers, but now she was threatening to get her brothers and her son to kill the man! I had to excuse myself from the conversation, because I was driving and had my cousin with me and he heard it all. He was genuinely concerned about my safety. I excused it down the road as her having a bad day after being disrespected.
Well, we finally hooked up for a movie and a dinner. My treat. Now I will be honest and admit, I lied to her about my vehicle. I did this because I did not want to reveal my high end vehicle and go through the common chatter I have experienced in the past with other POF Black Females, calling themselves "sizing me up." I reside in Arlington, VA and she resides in Baltimore and I had do issue driving up. I honestly thought that going outside of the Washington DC Air Heads would be a far cry better. Plus, the female and I both originated from Queens NY. We had some really good conversations about growing up in NYC. I AM ONLY only interested in ALL Natural women, period. All the fake-up, tattoo's, weaves, wigs, and rainbow hair colors are just not for me. I also have a preference against scantily clad women in public. I was raised up with specific morals and expectations of what a good woman is, and I do not stray from my preferences. I do not club, drug, or drink. All these things we shared in common right down to diet and smoothies each morning.
So, I am on my way to the residence and I had used Google Earth to visualize where I was going. Coming from NYC, she could have at least warned me about the neighborhood I was driving into. Upon exiting the highway ramp to the main avenue, there are police lights and ambulance lights because 2 people have been shot. It's not a police crime scene so I had to detour back to the highway, go up one exit and let my navigation direct me to the residence. I could still see the lights as I turned into her housing complex. I pulled into a visitor parking space instead of where she suggested and removed my side arm from my waist holster. Now I am thinking about my cousin and his advice to leave that chick alone. I called her and let her know I was out front. When I saw what resembled her photo, I waved her to my vehicle. She wanted to know why I didn't tell her the type of vehicle I owned, as if I was trying to be sneaky. I honestly told her, I was looking out for my own; but why didn't you let me know about the type neighborhood I'd be driving into? She said, it's not that bad on her block even though she just heard about the shooting on the avenue. Yeah, I saw it too and had to detour up an exit because I didn't want to be lost on the side streets.
Of course, she had posted old pictures of a younger self, but kept touching my face saying how I looked totally different in person and how handsome I am. She was all natural, but definitely not dressed in any civil manner for a first date/meet & greet. The restaurant we'd decided was a little drive, so we got to talk and enjoy my music selections and the FEMALE got hot!! She exclaimed how my 'music' is making her want to give me some. Whoa! She said her son had some really good Kush and she had a little before I came. I'm not an advocate against marijuana, based on my personal views, but some things are best kept to yourself! So we ate, and i will admit, I was totally into the conversation. Aside her little mini-skirt dress she claimed she wore for me so i can see 'dah' legs, I did find her attractive and at the least genuine in her views. However, at the theater, once seated and the lights went down, she wanted to cuddle up because her legs were now cold. I was fine with that and she was a small petite woman as well. So I have her all wrapped up and warm. I'll admit, it definitely felt good, but I'll never understand how she knew I was aroused. Her hand went right down there and she looked at me and smiled. I was so busted and embarrassed at the same time. She said, I knew you was feeling me when your body got me so warm. All I could say was, true.
Now it's time to drive her home, so I'm cool now. I had to change up my oldies but goodies movie selection to try and stop her from messing in my private part while I'm driving on the highway. Once we arrived at her residence, we sat and chatted for a few and she let me know how she totally enjoyed the first date, THE last is all I'm saying in my head. Then she reminded me about her headboard on her bed and how I (Mr Big Mouth Gentleman) had said, if I make her way, I'd fix it for her. So I had to go into her residence, although I was making excuses NOT to go in before she mentioned the headboard and my promise. So in the idiot (me) goes. Well........ her Brother and her Son both live in the living room of her 2 bedrm apt. and these losers are laid out sleeping, snoring, and stinking up the place. Her 12yr old daughter is sleep in her bedroom. I asked to use the restroom, and let me say, that sealed the deal! Lights on and roaches scattered! I took some toilet paper to lift the seat so I could relieve myself, because the men there obviously urinate on the seat. NASTY!! You have never seen a man fix a head board faster than me. I did not want tea, coffee, gold, diamonds, or to sit on her bed, I just wanted to get in my car and go!
I hugged her goodbye and she planted a kiss on my lips!???? WTH!! At least she didn't try to stick her tongue anywhere! I got in my car and I never answered another call from that woman. Eventually the voice messages became hostile and I became all types of Uncle Toms, Sellout Black Man, and Homosexual that thinks I'm better than most blacks. I closed my POF page along with my telephone number. So thank you POF. I will not even begin to mention my crazy stories with the DC Metro 'females.'
Signed, A Black man
Tip for consumers: Honestly, it is not the site, it's the people on the site and what is turning their brains to mush these days. Both male and female. I feel that POF does have a wonderful platform, but again, it's the people. What I would do on the free to use side of the website, is remove all free profiles after 90 days due to inactivity or for not upgrading since you're still looking and need my site as a catalyst.Ask Romero about POF
I have had one response &it seems nobody has read my profile on both sides. They don't pay attention to my preferences and get bad mix of age,localeðnicity. Also unauthorised credit card withdrawals with no notifications.Are these women real then why the "canned" responses.I am totally disgusted and buyer beware!
Tell the truth, post a recent flattering picture and women who have things in common with you will respond. The negativity on many of these posts is from men (and women) who simply are not ready to meet their counterparts on POF. Don't expect replies to inadequate profiles or expect others to buy a pig in a poke (no picture.) Human nature is what it is and society has trained us over the past 30 years that it is important to reel in someone who is attractive. If you don't write in an appealing way and post an appealing picture, guess what, you're not going to get replies from prince charming or princess Leah
I don't know why guys feel the need to do this, but pof don't allow it
However, women may share private images.
Tip for consumers: use tasteful photos. not of your body and smileAsk Marie about POF
There are two types of men here. Men who have personality disorders or guys who are waiting for Miss America to contact them. They dont have the courtesy to respond but just ignore messages. Oh wait there is a third category- men who pretend to want to meet but disappear as soon as you ask to get together. I did meet one guy who proceeded to tell me on the first date the rules of our new life together and what type of sex we would be having. I won't mention that he was going to instruct me on proper bowel movements during dinner. You can't make this stuff up!
Have met a few guys on here. Met three in public. One was a good woman user. Slept with anything that moved. Second one was a woman user also. Had an arrest record longer than the Mississippi River. Third one was married supposedly getting a divorce. Wanting to have sex. But, never had time to call or text me. Lies and more lies. Users and verbal abuser. I'm not sure how this dating site allows people like they have on that site. Meet your mate in church or mutual friends.
With POF, you really are scraping the bottom of the barrel. This site is, by a large margin, the absolute worst dating site. The girls on this site (yeah, I call them girls because to call them women is absolute ludicrous...they're simply immature little girls.) are very picky and judgmental, not to mention uneducated, yet they expect us as men to simply accept them for who they are. They all have these insane expectations and basically a grocery list of traits that they require in their ideal match. Like any other dating site though, they mainly are on there for egotistical purposes, especially the really "attractive" ones...I put attractive in quotes because they cake themselves in tons of makeup before proceeding to have a little selfie session. Anyway, most of 'em don't even take the time to read your "About Me" summary. They just skim through your photos & if they like what they see, they'll shoot you a "Hey" vibe, if not, it's simply an 'On to the Next One' thing for 'em. I've had plenty of women hit on me here in real life, but on POF, I must be Frankenstein's monster or something in the eyes of that lot. The real honest and genuine men (who they're all supposedly looking for) are the ones who are always given the cold shoulder. So coming straight from the heart, if you're a guy, don't sign up unless you have Channing Tatum looks along with a Warren Buffett bank account. As for me, I'm signing off of online dating permanently.
Tip for consumers: Stick to socializing and dating in the real world. If you're truly looking for real love, go to a library or a community center instead of the bars & clubs all the time...hell, go back to school and take some classes if you're not currently in school. But online dating overall is NOT the answer. Always remember, when you LEAST expect it, love will find you.Ask Chris about POF
This site is the worst there is, the worst there was and the worst there ever will be. The women on this site are double dippers have both FSF and FSM profiles. Their are women on this site who are Bisexual and are looking for someone to sleep with either them or their man regardess of gender. Sharing is not caring in my book!!! If you have to add a third party to your relationship to fix things hell just break up now. You got women on this site with kids who want a compnion because "Baby Daddy" ran off and doesn't pay the bills so they look for you to graciously pick up the tab. There are naked picture shares on this site that just randomly send you a picture of their naked anatomy. You have women on this site who are Bipolar, Borderline Personality Disorder, Anxiety Disorders and mental health issues that havent yet been named. The women are either married or seperated and lie about being single. Most of the women on this site want to push you into a relationship after talking just once on the phone. They "need" you ( finacially) they dont want you. So if your looking to be needed and not wanted this is the site for you.
I joined this site in late 2011. Met a guy online February of 2012. He didn't waste any time at all telling me that I was the woman of his dreams, that his felony conviction would be cleared someday... that he'd win a HUGE settlement from his 10-year law suit.. he told me that he loved me way before he ever met me! Now today I'm having to work to provide for us both because he can't get a decent job with his background. He owes me over $11k in bills I've paid for housing, a car, utilities, insurance, etc. He knows I'm not happy. I hate being his sugar mama! I will never try this site ever again! Men are on here looking for support!!! I wanted a good Christian guy, not a free loader!!! BEWARE THIS DATING SITE!!!
POF is a poorly designed website that is interested in having you pay more, but get less. The various upgrades don't give you anything that is useful. For example, I would like to eliminate the men I have reviewed and am not interested in. But even if you eliminate them in one area of the site, they still appear in other areas. So you are continually confronted with people you simply don't want to see--and are repeatedly asked, in the meetme section, "do you want to meet him"? And have to again eliminate that person. And next day, there he is again in the meetme section: "do you want to meet him"?
As well, POF does falsely bill. I have had that happen to me. When I told them to correct their error they said it would take up to 10 days to do so (it took 2 seconds to make the billing). To date, 14 days after the error was made, POF has yet to respond to repeated email demands to refund my money. Now I will have to call VISA and get the charge reversed.
I have 60 days of an upgraded membership, but I would not say that I have seen anyone new after the first several days. Upgrading did nothing for me.
This site is full of delusional women who think they're such a gift to men. Most of these women are damaged goods, and then they expect a man to really settle down with a borderline mental case. I've talked to several women with delusions of grandeur, and from my experiences where I always end contact it seems to be the best thing as I've probably avoided a world of trouble.
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