I was POF over a year ago. When I went back on, it was all the same guys. There were a few new guys.
I have never lied about my appearance. But it would seem that the men have no problem doing that.
I met up with a couple of the new guys, and made sure they were aware of my appearance. I am a bit overweight. My pictures were accurate, full body, full face, no shyness, I figured honesty was the best policy.
ALL of the men I met on this site were players. They claimed they wanted love, but almost the first word out of their mouths was do you give BJ's? When I said only in a committed relationship, they left, said they wanted to see me again, and I never heard from them again.
I'm done with POF, OK cupid is going to get the same response.
I don't think upgrading will help. Men who pay can be just as big of jerks as men who can't.
This site is the worse of all of the free sites.