Sandra w.

I've had a very similar story as Melonie, been in a marriage for 31 years with what I just discovered was with a Narcissist. It was a real moment of revelation but most of all relief. I'd investied all these years with someone whom I truly loved but the hardest thing was realising with him it wasn't real love. The mind games, lies, betrayal was sending me crazy and I was the one labelled with a Mental Health diagnosis BPD. So when you come to that point of pure relief that your nit actually losing your mind it's all part of their games. The two most wonderful achievements where my two adult children whom amazingly have turned out astonishally perfect. I've now been separated three months which I know is the best decision I could of ever made but I won't deny that after 31 years with one person there is still things and memories you miss. It is a grieving process and taking this daily journey with Melonie helps with every step you take. But it's a "must" journey it has to happen before it destroys what time you have left, so all I can suggest if any of this resignates with you take that step, take back your control because it's not you and you deserve a life that your worthy of. Sandy W