Don't want someone who is white, female (I'm a woman looking for a man), out of state or the country, or who refuses to meet me if I don't post a picture. I don't know if their picture is real so I want to meet with someone who lives nearby. Messages have been sent from me to members that I did not send. Many profiles appear to be inactive, yet you have no way of knowing who has "upgraded" and therefore gets messages you have sent them.