j g.

This site supposedly matches people based on personality and values, trying to downplay the bottom line fact that no matter how much people find themselves aligned personality wise, it still comes down to a gut feeling, a visceral and physical attraction when you meet them in person. The three people I met in three months, each became a friend or acquaintance, but I was the "great catch, but not for me." More disconcerting, I got the feeling that the women on eHarmony tend to be less considerate and courteous than other sites, like they're too good for anyone they aren't attracted to; numerous women didn't have the simple courtesy or politeness to even acknowledge a thoughtful, earnest message. It's like walking up to someone, smiling and saying hello and they glare you, turn and walk off with out even acknowledging you said something to them. I'd call that rude. Most people would appreciate a "Thanks for your message, good luck in your search." as opposed to being ignored.