Janet R.

I realize that foster parents and rescue places want to find the best homes for their animals, but I totally lost all faith in humanity today when we were turned down for kittens (and advised that we need an older animal by someone who has no clue what theyre talking about). During the phone conversation with the foster parent of two kittens, I shared that our cat who passed a month ago was a calming force for my 12 year old son whos on the autism spectrum. We loved Tux like there was no tomorrow and were heartbroken when we had to say goodbye due to a urinary blockage that couldnt be repaired (his second in a few months even with special food and meds). My response to her email informing me that wed be better suited with an older cat is below. I wont name the place as I dont want to hinder pets having a safe place to be until they find their forever home. But, if youre making decisions, please dont be a jerk. You dont know my family and our needs. I do.

As the mom of a twelve year old child with special needs, I am the best judge of what my son needs and doesnt need. If I didnt feel like he (and our family) could handle a kitten (or two), I wouldnt even remotely entertain the idea. Weve spent the last three days looking which should tell you its not a rash decision.

Were experienced pet owners and former owners of a farm in Union County with horses rescued off the racetrack, unwanted goats, etc.

Im actually incredibly offended that you came to the conclusion that my son needs a calm animal that will sit with him thinking you know best. You dont and I feel youre being discriminatory with your decision. What you dont know about my son (but were quick to judge based on a very limited conversation) is that hes incredibly active and would not be interested in an older cat thats already set in its ways who would be less likely to bond with him. He wants a cat that can grow up with him (like our other pets). But, taking into account the fact that you never even considered allowing us to meet the kittens, you wouldnt know that.

You should probably rethink your communication to families with special needs. We face plenty of discrimination, unfair judgement, snide comments and looks daily and have to fight for things others take for granted like education, inclusion, healthcare... even something as simple as getting a kitten. Its exhausting, disheartening and infuriating at times.

We will continue looking and visiting shelters and will find the right pet for our family. I can promise you this, though... you wont find a better family for your animals than ours.

Best of luck to you.