Ifat G.

I've decided to modify my review. Overall I have had a terrible experience on the forum, however, I think the course has something unique to offer, that I have not found anywhere else, and I would not want to sway someone from trying something that could help them.

I can't tell if this is effective in the long run. I've been using the healing sessions on and off for a few years. Sometimes I feel a lot better after a session, and it lasts, but on the whole, I have not achieved a massive breakthrough. Before doing this course I would not deal with problems, but focus on the doings. Sometimes I wonder if staying in that mindset would have brought me better results than diving into my past. Because it opened the door for negativity to come out.

I can tell you that sometimes it seems absolutely worth it, because I feel more connected to myself than before. But on the whole, it's hard to use digital recording for the healing of all of my problems. The same 1 hour recording over and over again cannot really substitute a human. But therapists would generally not use this technique, so this may be your only way to access it. So here we go, this is my balanced and updated review, and you can see the original one bellow. I wish you well and overall I would recommend you give this course a try.

For my review I would simply re-post what another user wrote very eloquently, which matches my own experience. Object to anything that the mods do, and you get blamed using the "healing process". You figure out for yourself whether or not the use of a person's trust in a healing process to shame them into not voicing their objections is healthy for the person or not.

I have not been able to use the course since my interaction with the forum 3 years ago, and what's worse is that the whole event damaged my ability to trust anyone who claims to offer healing.

For me personally, the whole thing started when I discussed the ideas of one of my favorite authors. One of the mods hated her and wrote a long post explaining why she is terrible and essentially diagnosed her as a narcissist. When I objected to the way they replied and said that it was closing the door on the discussion of the ideas I brought up, my post was removed and I was put on probation. An email was sent to me informing me that I need to do healing to solve the issue of why I manifested the whole interaction.

I have been using the modules really well up until that point, but I also have my BS radar. And when someone just turns all the blame on my in the disguise of a healing guru, I can't proceed with it.
2 years later I wrote her staff again, asking for help and explaining that since the event I have not been able to use the modules. No one bothered to address what I brought up. And even writing this now I already know that any reply I might get from Melanie or her staff would be more of the same - blame.

So, even though I believe in her methods, overall I am giving this one star because I think that this message needs to be heard. Here is a re-post of one of the other reviews here which I think explain the issue very well.

"Sadly, some of the moderators (especially the more active ones), while well meaning I'm sure, are no where qualified to be on the forum and interact with distraught, frightened people struggling with real trauma and upheaval. An emotionally abused person may sometimes say things in a way that a therapist will understand is not a personal attack but just a deeply confused person trying to ask for help; but put an unqualified person who does not know how to give others the benefit of the doubt and you have some real ego-driven people who lash out at the slightest question of their "moderation authority". Some moderators are downright dangerous if they feel you cross them (say by questioning a decision) and then you are on their "radar" which I found very traumatising. They will then start to nitpick on your posts (which may have been fine for weeks or months before) and will make you rewrite them again and again for "violating the CoC", until you start to lose faith in yourself and blame yourself - as most Narc abused people are already used to thinking abuse is their fault, this a very real possibility that healthier people would not be subject to. I figured later this behaviour on the part of moderators exists because there must have been some really difficult/abusive people on the forum who the moderators may have had previous experience with, but it has caused a few of them to get a hair trigger mentality on even a simply worded question.

Also, Being blind to their own prejudices (there are people from all over the world on this forum, and even a basic knowledge of different cultures will tell you that what is normal for someone may be rude for another), I essentially felt traumatised by a few of the forum moderators, who for some reason decided to pick on me after my one mistake (which I admit was a poorly worded post written while I was sobbing and terrified of how raw I was feeling). After I was pulled up, I ended up feeling frightened to even post, second and third guessing myself until I was weeping with the fear of my own writing being the problem. Why? Because with my history of Narc abuse, I blamed myself even when I shouldn't have. With Non qualified people having been elevated to positions of importance in the forum by Melanie herself, I truly got to experience what the saying "power corrupts" means. Scary.

Melanie does not pay or objectively judge the people selected to be moderators, which is of course a business decision, but a potentially harmful one to her forum users, and was personally devastating to me after months of interacting with no problems on the forum. From what I can now tell, people are selected to be moderators based on their ability to guide others on using the NARP program, but primarily on how much success they achieve with the program and how well they "heal" using NARP. In other words, if you are a Success Story on NARP and don't question Melanie's philosophy that it must be used the same way every day for every single person, then you get to be moderator. On the surface this may seem perfectly logical and harmless, but as I discovered, this is deadly! To select people without proper qualification and to not offer any pay (which means Melanie is dependant on THEIR volunteering, and will therefore not rock the boat because that saves her the extra time to have to moderate the forum herself), is a very dangerous precedent."