I was a member about 7 years ago. I looked for women 40+. I think that most of the older women were real. Many lovely and friendly women. Maybe many of the young girls who contact older men, are not real (resp. Real women looking for some dollars in the service of the site), but there are some real too. But the site is simply a money - machine, all their rules are made to take the money of the "silly" men an to take into their account. You may easily pay 10 or 20 times more than in good sites like Rosebrides.com. So they are betraying in a double way: they "betray" the men, and they "betray" some of the women, who are seriously looking for men within this moneymachine. Some may also find. I was in contact with Cathy from Sumy. I was too anxious to make wrong, so I missed her. The 3 stars are for her, not for the site.