We’re in this together! Stay safe with our COVID-19 guide

View
×

Frank M.

1 Level 1 Contributor
  • 3 Reviews
  • 9 Helpful Votes
  • 0 Thank Yous

Experience: Relationships

Member since July 2020

  • Reviews

    3

  • First Reviews

    0

  • Thank Yous

    0

  • Fans

    0

  • Profile Views

    104

Review Distribution

3 Reviews by Frank

4/7/21

I have written both Secret Benefits and Seeking reviews which you should be able to view. My initial attraction to Sugar Daddy Meet (SDM) was the price $US50 for a one month premium membership which is half the price of Seeking. SDM works differently to Seeking in that conversations can be started by anybody who has a premium account (male or female) which then allows a two way conversation. You can send a wink to somebody and indicate that you like them or leave a comment on their profile or pictures in the hope that that if they are a premium member they will talk to you. It's a bit funny when you see supposed Sugar Daddies indicating that they would like a SB to contact them because they a too tight to pay $US50 for a membership.
SDM doesn't seem to enforce the filling out of certain profile criteria so it is difficult to have a meaningful search of much more than age, location and ethnicity. Like most of these types of sites there appear to be a very high ratio of Ladies to Men. I'm not sure why but the majority of my time on the site was spent sifting through "likes" and "winks" from ladies who did not live in my city and probably lived on the other side of the planet. There didn't seem to be any way to hide your profile to all but those in your region.
A lot of non-premium member accounts seemed to suddenly be suspended. A lady told me that she had her membership cancelled because somebody said she was fake without proof.
The mobile interface is quite good but the browser version is clunky. The messaging system is Ok. They actually allow you to send pictures free within a message.
I got into a lot of quality conversations with ladies. SDM works and is definitely a value for money option compared to Seeking but as an SD if that $USD50 difference between the two (Seeking and SDM) is an issue then we are not really SD's.

Service
Value
Quality
Secret Benefits
1/4/21
• Updated review

Yes Secrets Benefits did try to contact me but as I only check that email account occasionally I read and replied to about a month later which they did not respond. But really they would have to change their business plan to resolve my issues.
After an arrangement with a lady that I met on Seeking ended suddenly I decided to give Secret Benefits another go so I purchased 200 credits (if you read my previous article that's effectively 20 actions) for $US89. I intially contacted 2 ladies who didn't respond so a day later I purchased a months membership with Seeking $US89. I used the same photo's and profile on both sites. On SB I received just over 50 messages replying to 16 of them. Which means I have 40 credits left or 4 actions) as I have not opened any hidden photo's. Six ladies responded but I only got into one conversation. I actually don't know if the others even read my messages because SB now charge you 10 credits (1 action) to allow you to see if the person you have opened a conversation with has read you messages. Along with the fact that any messages that are older than 28 days old are removed for "security purposes" I now have to reduce SB to 2 star.
I realise that a reader may be thinking its my approach. But.
After 10 days of my $US89 on month renewed membership on Seeking. Exact same Profile, Exact same initial message and language. I initiated 60 conversations to ladies whose tags matched what I was looking for. I probably got into conversations with 20 of them. Some didn't read my message, which is ok (thats their choice) but at least I knew. And I received access to 20 hidden photo's at no extra cost.
Yes some promising discussions stalled and there were ladies wanting to rip me off but I have started an arrangement with a lady who is "way out of my league" and will be seeing seeing her for the third time in a few days. The real telling thing is that I have told since told 3 interested "way out of my league" ladies that I am taken. I am still receiving (another 3) very positive enquiries 8 days after I stopped initiating conversations.
Yes I can see the issues that others raise about being kicked off the site but for the life of me I can't understand why SB is rated in the mid 4's while Seeking is in the mid 2's.

Secret Benefits works but its a lot of work
8/19/20
• Previous review

I was an active member of Secret Benefits for 20 months. I am 61 and was pursuing mainly ladies under 30. My aim was to always seek a lady for an ongoing arrangement (both company and intimacy). Over the 20 month period I met 26 ladies an average of 2 and a half times (Estimate) - Mostly in the 18-27 age group but there were a couple in their 30's and one 43 year old. I'm told that the compensation I offer was probably the median maybe a touch lower.
So I was successful but its a lot of work.
Yes joining is free but you can't actually chat to anybody unless buy credits. I tended to buy 500 credits which cost $169 USD or about $250 Australian dollars. Everything you need to do (start a conversation or view somebodies secret photo's) cost 10 credits so every action cost $5.00. When you get down to 10 or 20 credits the site offers a bonus (twice as many) if you repurchase in 10min.
I have no doubt that the majority of Ladies were real and secret Benefits did their best to ensure this but whenever a lady viewed my profile they were encouraged to message me (and others) by a prompt. Its free for ladies to message which I totally understand but most of them had no idea that cost me money to initiate a conversation even if I was replying. So a significant number (probably about 80%) of my replies received a no reply. About 30% of them weren't even read.
It doesn't take long to churn through 500 credits - $250 for nothing. Checking through a profile can help but a lot of them are vague. Its a lot of work.
I tried also Ashley Madison - 0 out of 5.
A few ladies suggested I try Seeking.Com. This is not a review on Seeking so all I will say is that I had more conversations in 4 days than than 4 months on Secret Benefits.
A week ago I would have rated this a 4 out of 5 but after seeing the alternative its a 3.

* Secret Benefits attempted to help this customer through the Sitejabber Resolution Center, but the customer did not respond

Seeking Arrangements
12/6/20
• Updated review

I wrote a followup to my Secrets Benefits review which so I will concentrate on Seeking here.
After an arrangement with a lady that I met on Seeking ended suddenly I decided to give Secret Benefits I intially contacted 2 ladies who didn't respond so a day later I renewed my membership for a month with Seeking $US89.
After 10 days I had initiated 60 conversations to ladies whose tags matched what I was looking for. I probably got into conversations with 20 of them. Some didn't read my message, which is ok (thats their choice) but at least I knew. I received access to 20 hidden photo's at no extra cost.
Yes some promising discussions stalled and there were ladies wanting to rip me off but I have started an arrangement with a lady who is "way out of my league" and will be seeing seeing her for the third time in a few days. The real telling thing is that I have told since told 3 interested, "way out of my league" ladies that I am taken. I am still receiving (another 3) very positive enquiries 8 days after I stopped initiating conversations.
Yes I can see the issues that others raise about being kicked off the site but for the life of me I can't understand why SB is rated in the mid 4's while Seeking under 2.

Seeking can be everything you want it to be.
11/11/20
• Previous review

I was on Secret Benefits for 18 months. You should be able to find my a review I wrote in late July 2020. A lady I met on SB suggested I should try Seeking.Com. I had actually signed up a while ago but when I realised that I needed to list my net worth and income I thought that it was only for rich guys. At 62 I realised that ladies hate phonies and can spot one before they draw breath so I listed my inadequate finances.
I signed up for a month ($US89 - you just have remember to turn-off the autorenewal). This allowed me to initiate many conversations (a lot). Not all replied, maybe less than a quarter but you will learn that is a good return. Ladies get inundated with messages.
Each member can setup a series of tags which allows you to refine your search. My search was ladies between the ages of 18 and 32, within a 50km radius, all but a large body shape, looking for 'friends with benefits', no smokers and not after something Platonic.
The site discourages Escorts and sexual explicit language and it is very easy to be removed for what appears to be minor breaches.
Not all ladies are looking for the same thing.
Some want a little romance with a little pocket money.
Offer sale of Erotic Photo's and Videos.
After very Rich boyfriends.
Hoping to meet a man for $ but no sex.
Escorts.
And yes there are scammers.
As long as you are upfront with what you are looking for and treat everybody with respect while not leaving yourself opened to be scammed you should do well.
It is important to be upfront with what you are looking for and what your are offering early in the conversation. Its highly likely that they are not sure what they want and your conversation may shape their expectations. Use soft language and maintain respect for the other person even if it is obvious that you can't agree to terms.
If you'd like the Sugar Daddy experience. I would totally recommend Seeking.com

Frank Has Earned 9 Votes

Frank M.'s review of Secret Benefits earned 2 Very Helpful votes

Frank hasn’t received any thanks yous.

Frank doesn’t have any fans yet.

Frank isn’t following anybody yet.

Similar Reviewers on Sitejabber

melodyy18
3/16/21

I've been on 3 dating sites for the past couple years and this one is my favorite. I really like...

cornaj
1/12/21

Sugar Daddy Meet A site devoted to helping sugar daddies and sugar babies find each other for...