Cathy A.

After 3 years on OKC, all I can say to any self-respecting woman is, "Run the other way!" The best thing to come from OKC in my experience is, I have met one man three years ago, who I still see occasionally. He moved 150 miles away.

The other encounters I've had are scammers, married men actively looking for mistresses (no, thanks) and verbally abusive misogynists.

My most recent incident was the last straw that led me to delete my profile permanently. This man and I messaged a couple of days on the site. We then texted a couple days. I invited him to phone me. That's when he explained that he had adopted two children. This came as a shock to me, since he is my age (late 50's). While I respect his willingness to take in these kids whose mother was a drug addict, I didn't wish to share his journey. He asked if I wanted to meet him in person. I said no and he hung up on me. I texted him and thanked him for calling and hanging up on me. He launched into the most hateful insults I've ever gotten, all because is wasn't interested in dating a man with children. I called him a bully. He replied with more profanity and insults. I reported him to OKC for harassment. He replied that he did the same to me. I deleted his number from my phone and the texts he had sent. I did not deserve this outpouring of misogyny from this caveman in any way.

Any woman with any self-respect would not put her profile on OKC. Spare yourself the heartache.