This website is owned by people media. They have so many websites and all operate in the same manner. You can't send a free message, but you keep getting lots of spam as inbox, or flirts. Then they ask you to upgrade to see who sent a message and read the so called message. Do not waste your money upgrading, look for a better website. And even if u upgrade, they still tell you to add more features, to highlight profile, add more features to know when your messages have been read. All these features need more money. Its just stupid if you fall for this. Stay informed. Be wise.not foolish.