CafeMom

Www.cafemom.com is supposed to be a safe haven for moms... not a place to get bullied and bashed and trolled. I was a member of cafemom for 4 years and everything was fine. Then i got divorced and recently got married again but couldn't change my user name so I made a new account. I posted 1 damn post venting about my husbands ex wife and how she does the kids and asking for opinions as to what I should do. In the first line I even put "PLEASE NO BASHING". I had 82 replies to the post and 78 of them were $#*!es bashing, bullying, and trolling. It was awful. I informed the admin for that group and got no reply. I cancelled my account and told them I would never be back to their site unless the bullies were banned...

If I could give this site "0" stars, I would - without a single ounce of doubt or hesitation.

Tonight, I Googled something that brought me to this site (first time there). I want to tell you that within the first 10 seconds of being on the site, I was SO bombarded with ads & pop-ups that I nearly exited immediately.

However, I decided to search for the "contact us" link first in order to email them about this.

From the time I went from the article I first landed on to the bottom of the page to find the "contact us" button, which could not have been more than 5 seconds, I was once again bombarded by ads & pop-ups (2 ads and 2 pop ups to be exact).

I don't know if they realize this, but keeping up with this type of practice with ads & pop-ups is going to make them lose THOUSANDS of potential customers. THOUSANDS.

No one in their right mind wants to be completely smacked in the face by FOUR ads/pop-ups within a 5 second time frame on ANY website out there - ANY!

They have completely and 100% lost the chance to keep me as a reader/customer. 100%.

I only filled out their contact form tonight because I wanted to let them know what my experience on their site was like so that they could *hopefully* do some thinking & change their strategy for ads & pop-ups for their poor readers & customers.

I seriously feel bad for them (their readers) that THIS is the experience they have every time they visit the site.

100% do not recommend this website.

I've been involved with the site from beta testing days (2006 when I was asked to join and help launch it) and I can honestly say it's disappointing. I have watched it evolve and turn into such a nasty place. Groups run by the CM team (mega groups) are the most awful place to be. Those are uncontrolled chaos with inconsistency of administration. If it wasn't for a small group of women that have been a great support system throughout the years, I'd have left the site and never looked back. CM has made some horrible steps, but they don't care, it's all $$$ for page views and that seems to be working for them. I'd never recommend it to any of my friends or family.

Obviously the people posting reviews believe the world is filled with rainbows and unicorns that cater just to them, so of course they are shocked to find a site that allows women and moms in particular to voice their true opinions on topics ranging from superficial to intensely controversial.
I have met some truly wonderful women on this site and read some discussions that have opened my eyes to differing view points. I guess I like cafemom because I realize that the world isn't censored so how can we have honest discussion about real life things if we are constantly being censored?

I've been on CafeMom for 9 years now, it has its good groups and it has its not so good groups.
I have found a couple of very good supportive groups, and then there's Mom Confessions. Yes it's not all unicorns and rainbows, it's more of a gloves off no holds barred type of group. But, I've also seen this group come together and support a member that is going through a time of crisis. Such as the member who lost her soldier husband in a motorcycle accident a few years back, another member that lost a child at birth, this group rallied around those members and offered support and compassion.
I've also seen members help each other with information and links to resources, I've seen members help other members in need.

Take it as it is, there is good and bad in all social media.

It is what it is. A social networking site. You get what you give. You put out negative and you will get negative back. You put out sarcasm and some will get it while others will be offended. Positive isn't always recognized. It is what it is.

I will say that the admin over there seem very bias. Certain individuals get away with behavior that others would get the ban for.

I would not recommend the site to anyone before. Back when it first started I would have suggested it to anyone.

Cafemom. What can you say about CM? I've participated on CM off and on for 6 years now. Sure it can get crazy and there are some outrageous trolls, but for the most part, it's fun. It is a great way to get advice and opinions from all sorts of ladies. You just have to know how to weed out the bad with the good. You have to ignore the trolls and the "do-gooders". Most of the moms are there to help and get to know others. You just have to know that certain groups are not there to do that. The private, member owned groups are the best for advice compared to the CM admin owned groups.

I actually believe the website and the whole concept is cool. Where my problem comes in is their discriminatory practices. I joined as I am trying to meet other moms and moms-to-be since I plan to be a mom myself in the very near future. I tried to log in today and found my account information not working. I contacted their staff via email and received a very insensitive response telling me my account was canceled because I am not a mother and not "actively trying to conceive." First I consider it rude that they did not notify me before (1)accepting my membership or (2)canceling my account. Then for them to tell me that I am not "actively trying to conceive" is beyond me. I almost feel like my rights have been violated. Eck!

I have been a member for nearly 7 years. Within the first month I had a cyber stalker and noticed the site is very cliquish. Even though it is against terms of use to create many accounts, many of their most verbally abusive people create multiple accounts. These cyber bullies found out about this site and started placing great reviews for the site. These individuals spend all day ignoring their homes and family to insult anyone they disagree with. There has been cases of some of them harassing family members offline for obituaries of deceased members, and if you try to ignore them they will say the member was faking death. Don't be fooled, these individuals that are given free rein to insult know a lot about tracking people down and computer hacking. Make a complaint to Cafemom, nothing will happen. You will be called whinny and weak. Some members keep notebooks full of members post and some have bragged about calling CPS on moms. The mommy wars are huge on this site, they love to fight all day. This is also a very liberal biased site, so I have seen conservatives called names, and insulted daily. This is a miserable site and should be treated like tabloid news. Something to read while on the John, and don't reply to anything unless you want a hundred insults.

This site is nothing but a bunch of bullies. If someone doesn't like what you say you get called names and made fun of. Report the wrong person, or disagree with the wrong person and yo7 get a warnning from the admmins. Thery don't enforce the terms of service. If you're popular you get away with murder. There's some crazies on here. People $#*!ing about how someone in the grocery store had Too much junkfood in their cart one member said she would have called Cps, yes calling cps because of junkfood. Run far far away from this site. They suck.

It starts out very pleasant but the more you get involved on the site you get BULLIED and attacked. I made one comment on an older women's comment who was a bronze member n said she was being very mean and hateful n rude to this younger mom n she attacked and STALKED ME! She found any and every comment I had made to other ppls posts and attacked me n would make comments on how dumb, uneducated n lots of other nasty things and The ppl who manage the site did nothing. It's like a adult women Facebook. They worry bout the bullying of kids on FB committing suicide I'd be more worried bout the bulling on cafemom. Stay away no one needs the hatefulness