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I get a message saying someone wants to chat to me but then nothing happens. Why is this?
asked by Andrew J. on 12/3/15
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I am a paid member and I keep getting the same thing. I don't get it either. It is usually after I message them and have have view my profile. I get a message at the lower left portion of my screen and click on it, and it takes to where you do the messaging, but there is NO WAY to accept the messaging. And I never get a message from that person! The Zoosk message that initially pops up saying that " " wants to chat with you just goes away and you are left wondering what the HELL just happened. I know your problem. It is infuriating!
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In the two months I have been on Zoosk. I have chatted with a number of woman, exchanged phone numbers and talked on the phone and I am just an average looking joe. I have also had times when I received a chat request and the person does not respond. You do have to pay to chat and the other person has to be a paid member. OK if your reading this there is one thing I found, if you search, only pay attention to the ones that say "recently online", the other ones may be fake or no longer active. It's a numbers game I have had many that did not respond to my messages also.
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If you don't subscribe then you do get false messages. However, you can read the real ones if you subscribe. I was on there a month and met my wonderful boyfriend. I then closed my account.
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Beats me i am off of there, it seems like it was total bull$#*!, I have decided that if i am meant to meet someone it won't be on a computer.
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Well, if your a paid member you can respond, if your not you can. I highly reccomend Zoosk--all other dating services I've tried---sSUCK!!!!!!!!!!
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There fake. I know this cause when I was paid member for 3 months I never got 1 single message from anyone. As soon as my subscription ended all sudden I get 1-2 messages to me everyday. course you can't see the messages you have to pay again to see them. this is how they get men to become paid members. But there are real women on there getting them to respond takes being different then all the other thousand of men messaging them.
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That company uses and auto response system. I was getting a lot of messages so I sign up only to find that no one replied because the system is so to make it appear that people replied. I will never use the site again it is a fraud to me. Most of the pictures I discovered are also on other sites.
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Let's analyse it and compare.

I am looking for a friend and hopefully partner in my area as the distant thing doesn't work if one won't relocate ( common at over 50).

Zoosk -
I paid membership as there appeared to be lots of "realistic age range ladies" as opposed to PoF .
56 viewed me - 2 supposed messages but no replies from them.
1 "wants to chat" but no responses..
Sent 16 messages to local ladies of eligible age. Zero replies.

Very disappointing.


PoF.
Free.
Small number of "realistic aged range ladies" in my area.
Lots of replies to messages, but mostly cardboard cutouts (eventually find them unsuitable).
Lots of "long time" users, been around for 4 years or so, still no matches. Indicates "hobby type users".
Serious, eligible ladies snapped up - poorly presented ladies (forget looks) left an could do with deportment, presentation training.

At least with PoF it's free.
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I found out a person can send an auto msg that goes to many members probably non subscribers it is a con to make you think it is a personal msg. to get you to sign up. The previous comment is correct it is fraud.
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In my experience when I was on the site, those chat requests are fake. Either they have a program that sends them out to get you to think that there is a real member still active interested in you. Then you pay for an upgraded membership and look that "screen-name" up only then to see they haven't been active on the site in over 3 months. When you realize you have been frauded and call their, "so called customer service", they say they don't give refunds.
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Hi Andrew, you have to accept the chat request and pay the subscription to reply to chats. But in my experience people just want to waste your time chats are not really the get-to-know-you kind, they're just bored and want to see if you're interested in them. If you show a bit of interest you'll be expected to purchase "cyber gifts" flowered, chocolates, teddy bears, diamond rings. A lot of girls aim for these so they look popular. But usually not actually interested in you. Just if you're interested in them. Just saying :)
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you have to be a paid member to chat with anyone .
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Met my future bride. I 'messaged' may ladies. Those that were active generally responded. Those that didn't had probably dropped their membership or didn't like my looks. Never had a "wants to chat" that wasn't there.
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So they can rip you off. Money, money, money that's all they want. Tease you with messages you can't read.
Not even a free trial. BIG RIPOFF
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