I shut this site down (I thought) last year. I am now in a 9 month relationship... well, guess what? A friend of his saw my profile on this site, and not only that, apparently I RESPONDED to his profile with a "Thanks for the Wink" comment! I haven't been on the site since last May, but apparently automated messages from me are being sent! I think I finally shut it down by going through a two step process. We shall see. DO NOT USE THIS SITE!