so much so, i can't believe OkCupid doesn't have a category for these people
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so much so, i can't believe OkCupid doesn't have a category for these people
Unfortunately, as others have noticed, the customer service is nonexistent. (in 10 reviews)
I tried a-list for 6 months, and I have to say it made the process a whole lot easier to be able to see who "likes" me. (in 7 reviews)
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I have been on OKC for about2 weeks.. I won't be on much longer. I have received sexual emails, guys in their 20s that are soooooo attracted to me..( I'm 54) and most men are widowers within the last year and lost their wives to breast cancer. Hmmmmm???? They want my e mail right away and phone number. I tried all other sites, free and paid and I have no luck with them. I'll just hope lady luck comes my way.
I've been on this site before but as of late it truly has gone down in the dumps.
The site is filled with a bunch of unattractive low lives.
Truthfully the messages I got a fifth grader would probably have more conversation than these men did.
I also have to mention the young early 20's looking to have fun with someone older..oh please go away.
My last straw was when a guy called me very demeaning racial name. I had to get off that site and I WILL NEVER RETURN!!!!!
I used two websites for my dating research. Okcupid is one of them. I spend a lot of time on the plattform and i also got some nice dates.
The other one is datingme.org where i got better results. But that is something that you have to check it out for yourself.
I met a girl from my city on this app. We talked for like 2-3 months before we actually start meeting. When I saw her for the first time I was simply stunned. She was pretty, funny and all around amazing person. We kept doing stuff together 3-4 times a week for the next 6 months. I even met her parents. Everything was going alright. And one day she just told me that her next relationship was going to be with the person she's going to get married and that I wasn't that person.(btw I'm 20 she is 22 lol).She then said we shouldn't talk anymore.. Yeah well I was shocked. I never gave a $#*! when I got dumped or dumped someone from my past relationships. But this girl was different. I thought she was the one. Basicly I spent next 3 months depressed. I failed like 4 classes in 1 semester. I did serious self harm. So yea this app seriously f***ed up my life. Don't use it.
I joined OKCUPID at the request of friends and OMG what a let down. I was so excited my very first day I met this great guy. He immediately asked me to leave the site and give him a chance because he was leaving on a business trip and did not want me meeting anyone else. This goes on for two months. Turns out he had stolen some guys pics off the Internet. Posted fake Linkden page, fake FB Page, did not live in Miami as he said he did. He asked for money because he got stuck in aghana on business trip. Come to find out he was a black man lived in Ghana was just trying to meet a white woman and come to the USA. Said he had taste for a white woman. He was nothing but a scammer. I was so stupid because I fell in love with the person he claimed to be plus I gave him $900.00 and ran up $500.00 phone bill to cals to Ghana. Such a fool. He thought it was funny caled me laughing about it when he finally revealed himself.
I lost my fiance 5 years ago to a traffic accident. After intense prodding from friends, coworkers, etc.., saying this was the main way people meet modern day, I reluctantly tried the sights Plenty of Fish, Match.com, and OkCupid. First, let's look at this logically. Out of the thousands of men & women who post profiles on these sites, let's be generous & say 10% end up in long term relationships. That means at least 90% of people (many who pay for upgrades, which really don't help), are wasting their time & money on these dating websites. Now, the positive about OkCupid is that the women for the most part are prettier than than sites like Match.com & Plenty of Fish. However, if you are a man, please adhere to these red flags of women on these sites. First, "any" single woman that posts more than 5 selfie photos, is more interested in herself & her ego, than finding a guy to have a relationship with on OkCupid. Second, any woman that posts photos of herself vacationing in many countries throughout the world, is a "high money maintenance" chick, & she is practically telling you that with the photos. Third, 100% avoid any Asian, Ukranian, or Russian woman that posts a profile on OkCupid, showing she lives in America, and then after you start up a conversation, she tells you she lives outside of America. Dudes, these women are 100% money SCAMMERS, & make a living scamming western men out of money. Really, the only women that have sincere intentions on most of these dating websites, are divorced women with children, who are lonely, and want a man in their life. Most good looking single women under age 30, & especially under age 25, have no intention of getting into a relationship, or even dating guys off these websites. They are either on there for fun, or get off on humiliating guys, or it boosts their fragile female egos to have guys tell them how gorgeous they are. I have dated 2 women off OkCupid in the course of 9 months, but it took a long process to make sure they were indeed sincere, and even worth my time. Overall guys, even though internet dating is the "easy" way to troll for possible female companions, you will have much greater success joining a social organization devoted to some hobby or activity you love, where like minded women will be there. Or, there are non internet dating services that cost a lot more money, but will tailor your female prospects 100% to your every want and need. The only people loving these internet dating websites, are the people that own them, and are making millions of dollars off all of us suckers.
I had trouble paying for anonymous looking, and Ian of Customer Service was able to untwist the information. Because PayPal and OK had problems and my payment wasn't able to go through. Ian expressed his concern about how many times I wasn't able to pay, that he checked with the higher-ups and gave me -- no charge 6 mos. of anonymous! He also instructed me how to use other benefits. Thank you!
I have been an active member of this site for a few years now, off and on. The types of guys I get most of my messages from are either husbands trying to cheat on their wives, couples in poly-friendly relationships, nerds who are very socially awk, and guys looking to apply for a green card. So, yes, I do get a lot of messages but it is not at all an ego boost! Quite the opposite actually, when I'm no longer laughing. Once in awhile, I find someone really cool that makes all the trudging through the sewage worth it. I tried a-list for 6 months, and I have to say it made the process a whole lot easier to be able to see who "likes" me. All the guys who liked me did not show up on my list of visitors, so I wouldn't have come across them otherwise. I have friends who joined and met their now-husbands within their first week on the site; however, the majority of women I know who've tried it have nothing but bad things to say about it and I can see why. lol. There is no quality control on this site whatsoever, and as a woman you should expect to receive an overwhelming number of sexually explicit and outright creepy messages weekly if not daily. I sometimes wonder if I'm too harsh and give some guys the benefit of the doubt as a result. In rare cases I have been surprised, but for the most part not. Overall, I've had a lot of fun and got a lot of good stories out of it. If you're thinking of giving it a go, be prepared to put some time into it!
Tip for consumers: Ladies-- don't be afraid to go after what you want and write the first message. If you only have a few minutes a day to use this site, it helps to join A-list and be able to view who liked your profile and start messaging matches you like from that list.Ask CJ about OkCupid
I went on this site after my son found a nice woman who he's now been with for three years.
In the year I've been on the site I've had several coffee dates but only got past a one or two date situation once and we saw each other for three months before deciding it wasn't working for us.
Everyone I've met has been nice and looked like their pictures or better. A few encounters never got past the messaging stage but for the most part they were OK experiences. You will get messages from obvious scammers but all you have to do is block them.
After a year I see many of the same faces so after having decided they won't work for me it narrows the field down considerably and I lose interest for awhile.
I have a woman friend on OKCupid and as I had suspected it's a whole different type of experience for a woman. She showed me the types of messages she's received and it seems for every guy who seems sincere there are 10 smarmy or downright creepy guys. I can't believe how douchey some of those guys are.
My son is very happy though and I think he and his girlfriend will probably get married.
Wow! Joined 3 days ago...the WORST most low class group of men on any dating site that I have been on. Be careful half of them are escorts or hedonists who are looking to draw you in (think they are REALLY interested in you as a person)...and then use and abuse you. One guy introduced himself with "I want to lick your $#*!?' Really? Trash! Degrading to women. Oh and 20 year olds will hit you up all day long thinking you are a cougar if your on the site and over 35 years old. Lastly they approved my profile from some silly quesitons I answered (half the time) I could not submit them cause the system was down. Yet Iguess some of them went through as they sent me an email saying....
Your profile, as of 8 milliseconds ago Approved!
personality Really great
How bad people want you So bad
WTF? Bad people want me so bad?.....HUH! what do they have under my profile when men look me up...?????
Just Be careful! This is a hook-up site. If you're a nice person...forget it...you're not wanted on this dating site.
Really bad people on this site!!! Trust me please!!!
This is a great site.You can easily meet a lot of people. It's mostly free. The only thing is, I'm 80% certain that I canceled on the same day I upgraded and they still rebilled me. I canceled (again?), so hopefully I won't see any more charges on my statement. Anyone else experience this?
OKPeople, OKCupid is, based on my experience, essentially an online brothel and its offering should be changed to the international escort service it more closely resembles. However, if you want to be contacted by hookers or scammers using fake profiles, then fill your boots and sign up!
Now, if you have a few moments, here's a heads-up on how it worked - or, rather, didn't - for me.
The fake profiles are generally, but not exclusively, those with a too good to be true head shot or saucy 'come hither' poses (You don't REALLY expect to find catwalk-ready supermodels or buffed Fabio types on a site like this - and don't flatter yourself into thinking that if they were really there they'd be making a beeline for you).
The fake profile will include an often occasionally grammatically incorrect and possibly generic-sounding 'About Me' type statement. However, be warned that the scammers' grammar has improved so that such statements no longer resemble those of Nigerian internet fraudsters (that's what a partial education does, I guess).
So, cut and paste these statements into Google, hit return and Bingo!: 'Katie' from Kent is also Larissa from Lithuania or Petra from Petrovsk on other dating sites. Surprised? Don't be as it's depressing but true that fraudsters - along with the rest of society's flotsam and jetsam - are floating around ready to attach themselves to the unwary on this site.
Avoid it like syphilis - unless you want to contract a dose and probably have your bank account drained at the same time (and that's the only thing that will get drained, guys!). To sum up, the only person likely to get screwed here is you - and not in a pleasurable way.
I tried E-harmony years ago looking for love and it was a complete waste of time and money. It flooded me with 'matches' that not only didn't have similar interests, but had opposite interests! I recently joined POF and OKC at the same time. POF is decent, lots of people, but that tends to get in the way a bit, it got to the point where I couldn't keep up so I actually hid my profile and am only working off OKC.
OKC has the best layout as far as I'm concerned, it's easy to use and gives you plenty of options even as a free user. One of the main reasons I joined was that I am bi and POF doesn't have a bi option which annoys me, though I'll admit there are very few bi/gay women on OKC. I like that it guides you with interesting things to put on your profile and the questions are always interesting to read even if some of them are silly.
In terms of usage, I'm female, bi, in my late 30's. I'm decent looking but no one is mistaking me for a model. I am looking for casual relationships only so I can't comment on how it works for people looking for something more serious, but I've had about 20 dates with different people between the 2 sites over 5 months and had many repeat dates with people I liked. I had my profile accidentally deleted by them once but I contacted customer service and it was fixed within a day.
Here's my thoughts for getting better results guys: You will have to message women and you will only get one reply to every 10 you send if you look/act decent. Read the damn profile and put something in your message to indicate you read it. Don't message someone who lives more than 2 hours away. Put up a picture, yeah it's shallow, but also realistic, you aren't messaging women you think are ugly, why would we want to message someone who might be unattractive? If a woman doesn't answer right away, don't panic, she may just be really busy. I have kept messages up to a month to reply to latter when I've been swamped. Do not send more than 2 follow up messages, if she doesn't reply by then it's not going to happen and you'll just look crazy. If a woman never replies, deal with it, I get half a dozen messages a day on OKC, 20 on POF when I'm using it, I can't reply to everyone just to be nice, I have a job. As for women, I'm still a newbie on that and so far not tons of luck, hoping it will improve as I learn. Good luck to everyone out there.
I was a member of OKCupid and they cut me off for no reason! They never communicated with me as to why, my profile was simply deleted!! OKCupid needs to be sued (which I am looking into doing); they need to be shut down!!
Let's do a class action against the scammers!
A high-school alumni friend suggested OK Cupid because he used it when his long-term girlfriend died. I live on the opposite coast. Three Strikes and OK Cupid is Out ! First was a well-known respected married scientist. We sincerely liked each other. But he got cold feet after our coffee date and knew he would be caught-too many red flags that he would raised. Second was a widowed man who lost his wife last year. We exchanged pleasant OK Cupid chats of our major common interests. Then, he disappeared - never to be heard from again. The third was an oil driller who wrote that appeared to be sincere notes. I gave him the benefit of the doubt when he wrote idealized messages about me. His last words were that he has prayed looking for a woman like myself. And lo and behold, I came across the horizon. Then, he disappeared. How convenient for these men to play it safe for a week's time with a flirtation over the computer. There was not going to be coffee dates nor concerts nor restaurants - absolutely false information from these males. To me, these males are cowards who sit by the safety of their computers and imagine great worlds. There will be no more online dating for me. What a Joke !
I have used this site for years and it is my favorite free site. There are a lot of players and scammers on Okcupid, as well as many other sites. You have to sort through the people. They also have a bunch of personality tests and quizzes which I think is really cool. When they are trying to match you up with someone, you get matched by a certain percent according to the questions you both have answered.
Joined OK cupid and paid 6 month subscription for A-List about 10 days ago. Now I get "We’re having technical difficulties, try again later" every time I try to sign on - although the website itself says that it is up an running with no issues. Customer service simply will not reply to requests for help. Have gleaned from internet search that this error message probably means that my account was banned.
So I'm out the subscription fee ($47.70) and all the time and effort I put into making a profile and answering questions, as well as the contacts I had made on the site. Not sure if my account was really blocked. Only thing that I can think might have caused an issue it that I am now stationed in Afghanistan (I'm a US citizen). Otherwise I have no idea what I could possibly have done to get blocked. Looks like I'll never know.
I complained to the BBB. I also disputed the credit card charge with from my bank.
From the large numbers of posts from previous subscribers who get the same error it appears OK Cupid commonly bans accounts arbitrarily but never give any reason or even let you know that you've been banned. They also don't respond to customer service complaints.
I consider that a very poor, even fraudulent business practice. I doubt OK cupid cares that they took my money and did not provide the promised service. But I suspect they will care if enough people complain to their credit card providers, and then mastercard or visa blocks them as a merchant.
I just signed up with OKCupid.com.
Getting signed up was a major pain in the ass. I tried signing in with Facebook and the site rejected every postal code I entered. I had to start over and sign up the long-hand way. The site rejected my postal code and forced me to use one from a town 60 km away.
I went through the site's introduction questionnaire and that's as far as I got. My first search produced this result:
"This is embarrassing. We didn’t find anyone.
If you set a lot of filters, you might not get any results.
Try broadening your search settings."
I hadn't yet set any filters.
The site that recommended OKCupid ranked it second behind POF, which, based on my experience, and that of many others, is a scam site. That they recommended these two sites probably tells you everything you need to know.
OKCupid's claim is that they're "the best dating site on Earth".
Yeah . . . really?
The site that recommended OKCupid and POF is Heavy.com
I'll be reviewing them next.
It seems that that there may be some real people behind the mask but it's very difficult to find them and once you do they do not write back. The new policy seems to be to greatly limit search features which is the only good thing about this service. However if you can't search by a specific query then you have to spend hours and hours searching and searching and still not finding anyone. On the other hand scammers and abusers are quick to send messages and some of these appear to be dangerous. Don't bother with OKCupid. There must be a better way!
I have texted over 200 woman with hello's and hi's and with other normal introductions. I have not had one woman wanting further conversations.My profile is a very good genuine one of me. My woman friends say it is a very good profile. Advice, meet woman in person.
I've been trying out online dating on and off for a few years now and used several sites including Match, POF and Zoosk. I find OKC has the best matching system and overally design for ease-of-use. The site is free to join and send messages. But you can subscribe to additional services e.g. invisible browsing, for £20 a month free, which i thought was pretty reasonable.
OKCupid wasn't perfect in the short time that I used it. The questions are on the silly side, and there is a LOT of crap to sift through. But, I stuck it out, and one day I got a genuine message from a very attractive guy! We chatted for a few days before exchanging numbers, and we got to know each other via text and phone calls for a month before we met. We dated for exactly a year to the day of meeting before getting engaged, and we are getting married in April (10 months later). If you're willing and open, I hope you can find a love story like mine. I could not have asked for a more perfect man to spend the rest of my life with. Good luck to you!
This site has SOOO many posibilities but the issues keep getting in the way.
It has a great base of real people lurking.....
and that is the best & worst of everything. I am on my 3rd account go- round. HAd to close 2 previous ones due to issues and aggresive behaviors.
This site has the most STUPID site ban process ever. Its beyond stupid.
1) women complain about getting all these in their inboxes = :)
And yet they are the worst offender to do that, hmm
2) many hookers there and DONT DARE SAY ANYTHING ABOUT THAT> because I guess they are payin the okc light bill.
3) WOMEN DO NOT UNDERSTAND THAT SITE AT ALL.
I was censored by admin because a woman complained that I WAS USING SITE FOR OTHER THAN SERIOUS RELATIONSHIPS>>>yes I was and am> SEARCHING FOR= FRIENDS, EVERYBODY, EVERYWHERE
So whats her issue?
There is an entire under the table social thing going on there too. Lots of ADULT things if you know how to get there, but DONT TRY THAT< because the whole system is arranged for THEM TO FIND & APPROACH YOU.
You do it the other way around and you will be flagged and banned.
I do find merit in the site and if you enjoy reading good writing, the profiles there will keep you busy and be rewarding. JUST DONT START MESSAGING PEOPLE.
The bottom line for pkcupid for all the new comers is this: ITS A SITE FOR BEING SEEN. There is an elite grouping of people who were selected and allowed IN to that grouping. If you are there, well okc becomes an entirely different website than the one seen by the UNDESIRABLES.
This goes for males & females.
If this site were to make just a few changes, it could be the best social site going. I SAID "IF".
I tried POF and that didn't take so I decided to try OkCupid since I heard it was a lot different. You fill out a personality assessment and answer questions for it to help find you people that match up. I was feeling hopeful about that feature until I saw the messages I was getting. Every guy that messaged me was very unattractive and to be blunt I'm an 8 so I was baffled guys like that even had the nerve to message me. I wait two weeks to see if it changed. Not one message. Not one person stood out to me or was even average looking. I'm not sure if it's better when you pay for a membership but the free features are definitely a no-go. If you're someone who isn't unfortunate looking I don't recommend this site. These are the types of people that live in their mom's basement. Put off free online dating completely.
Been there , done that , still there for the automatic laughs .
Here is a hint " you have such a smile sparkling " 1. Grammar ! 2 in my pics o do NOT smile
Extremely long introduction ending with could you be the one for me . NO
Also the widowed father and child that just moved here and want You in their lives . Plus don't forget the ones that were in Florida last month , Indiana last week , South Dakota this week with exact same pictures and profile . Bots never answer more than 5 of OKC questions . Take it all in stride . Play safe and with a grain of salt .
It's a great site with a very clean and easy layout. I've met a number of partners over the years on OKCupid, both for casual hookups and longer-term relationships. It can feel a little small after a while, but if you are willing to put in some work there are enough interesting people to make it very worthwhile.
I've been on OKC for several years, on and off. I have met several ladies through the site who I had a lot of fun with. I like the fact that is essentially free. Most sites don't let you message people unless you pay. OKC is not like that you can message people right away. I suppose the downside is that many women especially the more attractive ones get a TON of messages. As a guy I find that many women don't respond to my messages often, my best results is where the girl has contacted me first.
I like the Q&A format. While some people who have answered 1000 questions just have too much time on their hands, I find it enables me to get a good feel if we are compatible. e.g. people who answer the question "Which is bigger the sun or the earth" and get it wrong blow me away! It makes me wonder if they rest of their answers are random.
I pay for A-list so that I can browse profiles without being seen and I can tell if a girl opened my email and just did not respond.
The biggest thing about OKC I like is the clean layout. Compared to the mess that is PlentyofFish OKC is super organized. They changed navigation slightly recently and I don't like it as much but it's still very clean.
And once again it's free.
the questions to answer is a stupid waste of time. I'm pretty sure my potential match doesn't care if I like crunchy or creamy peanut butter. none of my ex's cared about that. I've been off and on the site for many many years. I always started with POF, and when that site turned up silent and cold, I would switch to OKC. I've been single about 3 months now, and decided to get "back out there" I joined pof 3 months ago and I haven't gotten 1 email, message or wink. talk about a shot to my confidence. After deleting my pof profile, I opened one up on okc. I re-activated my old account where I've answered well over 300 questions. after updating all my pictures and calling it a night I logged on about 3 days later. with 67 views to my profile 44 people liking me and 1 message in my inbox. and it was some guy from turkey who said I had pretty eyes. I logged off again for a few more days, came back and had 22 views, 7 people that liked me and 0 messages. I've gone ahead and messaged a bunch of guys, saying their profiles and personalities are hilarious, and they're interesting, funny, talented ect. not a single reply. all the guys in my area are looking for an adventurous skinny free spirit, and they're the complete opposite! I know I live in ca but that superficial-ness is really unrealistic. I just deleted my profile, maybe online dating just isn't for me. I don't know why I keep going back, but there has to be a better site out there with people actually willing to talk to you.
I have got to say, reading all of the reviews on this site, that I have to wonder whether we are using the same thing?
Every one of my last 4 relationships, over the past 10 years, has been either with women whom I have met on OKC, or whom I have met through friends that I have made through women I have met on OKC... And I have never encountered a scammer there!
Maybe it's because I only spend time on women with a >= 90% match and a <= 10% enemy with me...!
I find their matching algorithm to be excellent... And it doesn't matter how silly the questions are, it will match you with people who answered similarly as you did!
I like that this site asks you questions and while it suggests who is a close match you can see the answer the other person gave and come to your own conclusion.
I didnt want a site that allowed a computer to solely pick my match. As with any dating site you will have "a few" issues but This was by the far the best site for value and accuracy that I have found.
Most of the men on this site are the type that lack the confidence to approach women in public or have serious commitment issues and use this site as another way to pick up women. Most of messages are either hey beautiful or some other generic garbage they would never say in real life. It was quite depressing to consistently receive the same message. Not quality men for the most part, beware.
I've found that out of all of the online dating sites, this is the only one that gets it right. They provide free members with all of the necessary functionality to meet an individual. You see someone interesting, you send them a message. After using the site for awhile, I started meeting people quite frequently. I don't expect to immediately be paired with someone (as no one should) but I have to say OKC gave me the quantity necessary to find the quality I desired. I've made a lot of good friends and have even had a few relationships from the site. Since I have gotten so much out of it, I have paid into it mainly to support them. The paid features are nice as well ^_^
Yes I fell for the his bull$#*! and got scammed for over $3000. He travels between North Carolina Los Angeles and Istanbul. Reels you in and will meet you if you live in any of these locations. Comes up with sad stories to borrow money as he waits for the Big payment. Each time I never got paid back and eventually had to walk away. Real name is Gregory Scott Pettis. He is a black man age 32 and 6"8. Ladies beware on POF and Ok Cupid.
Well... it's free, so I had to try it.
I answered a LOT of their silly questions and they have this rating system that says either "The Two of Us" or "Y'all Got Issues" depending upon how each person answered each question.
Some of them are truly bizarre: "In a certain light, would a nuclear war be interesting?" That, for me is a NO! And some completely inane: "Peanut Butter: Creamy or Crunch" Like, honestly? That matters? And I prefer almond butter, anyway.
I have met a couple of men who seemed truly sincere, and then *poof* they lose interest. I guess that can happen either way, but I answer every single correspondence even if they live 3,000 miles away (it says right on my profile that I won't date anyone who lives further away than 25 miles away from me).
I will also say that the site is just insanely buggy and very hard to use sometimes, but it's free, so how can you complain?
Tip for consumers: answer as many of the crazy questions as you can... it yields better responses.Ask Melinda about OkCupid
Generally speaking all dating sites suck for guys. That being said, OkCupid seems to suck somewhat less than the others, and if you are only using the free version of the site then it's worth putting up a profile, as long as you don't let yourself get hooked on it and start checking your profile for more than a few minutes every other day.
I've had far better luck with the site meetup.com, where you actually get out of the house and meet people who have similar interests. The "sit-at-home" dating sites are just not an effective means of finding a date.
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