Can anyone tell me what rm_ means at the beginning of a users screen name on AFF? (in 32 reviews)
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I've used AFF off and on for over ten years with some success. For men it is a big money pit, but there were ways to work around that. Until now. Logging in and doing things like adding photos gave you points you could spend on sending a message to a member. That doesn't work now. Unless you are a $30 a month Gold member, you can't read replies to your messages. Now you also can't spend points on a month's worth of Gold membership without sending copies of documents to verify your identification. After the Ashley Madison privacy breach, nobody should send copies of personal information to these kinds of adult websites. I can't believe AFF has the gall to force such a policy after the Ashley Madison breach.
Besides all that, like I say AFF is a money pit for men, and it takes advantage of them. Women get to apply for free Gold memberships. Membership revenue is a burden that men carry through inflated fees. Not worth it because most of the profiles are spammers or fake profiles set up by women who sort of want to live out just a cyber fantasy or just be the center of attention from large numbers of grovelling males ages 18-99. If you don't live in a big city your chances of actual contact are few and far between. AFF is a waste of time and money. I think these kinds of sites have had there day. Less people are willing to play such high costs for something of very little value -- which is why AFF has made things more expensive. A new wave of apps and adult dating sites are poised to take their place, and now they don't have the money to buy them out like they used to. Good riddance to AFF.
We joined this site out of curiosity. We were not happy with it and cancelled our subscription before the first month was over. However, they charged our credit card anyway. I have had nothing but the run around through emails and phone calls. First, they agreed to refund money, then when I called they said they couldn't refund it. I turned it over to BBB and once again they agreed to pay and wanted to verify my address before sending a check. When the check never came, I sent another email only to receive the same blanket response that a refund could not be issued. They are frauds and liars. PLEASE DO NOT GIVE THEM YOUR CREDIT CARD!!!!
After creating a profile and realizing that it's sole purpose was to be a marketing target, I also noticed you cannot communicate with anyone's direct profile. When I explored the local search tool, I noticed that a realistic 50% of these girls were cuter than average, 27 yrs old and were bisexual. Intriguing, right? Enough to make you consider signing up because I have to at least throw these girls a line.
Then when I came to read these reviews to confirm my suspicions, I read that a man in his forties, who had not even posted a pic, was getting friend requests from girls 5 years younger than him. I'm 32, so the abundant amount of 27 yr old profiles immediately allowed me to realize the sites recruiting strategy.
“17.2 With respect to Content you submit or make available for inclusion on publicly accessible areas of the adulthookup.com Site the license to use, distribute, reproduce, modify, adapt, publicly perform and publicly display such Content on the adulthookup.com"
And this one is proof that there are indeed, many fake profiles, used mainly for marketing...
“14. ONLINE REGENTS: adulthookup.com UTILIZES VIRTUAL PROFILES THAT DO NOT CORRESPOND TO ACTUAL MEMBERS:
14.1 adulthookup.com encourages You to use the ONLINE REGENT service to enhance communications, entertainment and Your total site experience and enjoyment.
14.2 An ONLINE REGENT may be a digital actor, an avatar or a synthespian (e.g. a computer generated "person" or "character"). ONLINE REGENTS may be employed by adulthookup.com or a third party to enhance Your online experience. For example, an ONLINE REGENT may provide an electronic introduction to new or existing adulthookup.com features or functionality, or discourage inappropriate behavior.
14.3 By consenting to and accepting these Terms, You acknowledge You fully understand, accept and agree to the ONLINE REGENTS service. You acknowledge that You understand that some of the profiles and Members displayed on them are not actual members of the site. ONLINE REGENTS are not associated with any other user of the site, but are sent to You in an effort to promote broader enjoyment, additional activity and fuller participation in all our Services."
I joined AFF some months ago. What can I say. Ofcourse here and there some fakes but it works sometimes.
But what i must say is, that datingme.org works better for me. I got more emails and I find a nice girlfriend there. Just check it out :-)
If you think that this site is legit, ask yourself how many girls could you walk up to on the street and ask to see their ass? The punches in the face you would get would far outweigh anything that you would see. Why would anyone expect to see hundreds and hundreds of them showing it here? These are the same ripoff artists that will tell you that Ashley Madison isn't a scam! How's that working out? Not too good. The hackers didn't take them down for no reason. They need to get working and clean the rest of these pigpens out! Most people won't admit to being robbed by one of these sites. I was one of them that was. Had to close my checking account, and cancel my credit card. By the time that I realized that all these profiles and pictures can't be real, it was too late. It isn't too late for you, if you pay attention. These are thieves. All these sites are linked. Check out the overseas addresses of them. Why are so many from Cypress? Malta? Nigeria? That's where your credit card information is going. Good luck with that. They sign you up with other scam sites and dip into your account to pay for them. Then it's up to you to get rid of them all. They were charging me for 3 sites before I could stop them. They use outside billing agencies as stooges to do their dirty work for them. If hacks take the site down, your name, checking, and credit information goes up for all to see. If you like being spoofed with fake profiles, stolen pictures, and endless email addresses that end with xyz, or fooled with bogus phone numbers and 3 word messages, these sites are for you. If not, take the advice and stay away.
Pretty much the same business model as match.com
Essentially the only difference is the inclusion of racy and nude pics on this site
Please reference my review on match.com to get a better idea of how both companies operate.
WHAT??? 2,0 Average Rating for the most likely second best hook up site after CasualDating4u??? You guys must be kidding me! AFF is not only the BIGGEST HookUp Site you will find, it is also one of the best. As mentioned, beside CasualDating4u I have never seen ANY better site than AFF. Creating a profile and sending small text messages "Hey Hun, Wanna Get Laid?!" won't help you on ANY site at all.
One of the better hook up sites. Detailed questionnaire and preferences and testimonials of members. Friendly and undemanding men who are more gentlemanly than you would expect from a site like this and actually willing to meet and treat. I found it safe and fun and not a waste of time like other dating sites. Get exactly what you want.
Aff is the worst scamming, rip off, fake site out there. Beware – Stay away!
Popular scamming methods:
- within minutes of registering with AFF you get FAKE messages in your inbox from people supposedly looking to hook up with you ; when you reply – you get response that they did not send any message
- you get “flirts” but nobody viewed you ?
- you get flirts from members with no paid subscription (NOT possible)
- customer service is horrible, lying scamming enterprise
- you get special promotion & discount 20% off to upgrade, but “special” price for 30 days is greater then regular price for 30 days
- they send you email messages that someone wants to “meet you” but nobody even have seen your profile
- most of the time you see exactly the same profiles presented to you when log in, it is like these profiles are online for days and weeks
- FAKE, fake, fake site full of scammers, rip off artists and fake profiles
- There is absolutely NOTHING you can do there, without having to pay first; can not really see anyone, can not send or read messages, flirts,…nothing for free
It is too bad that there are no mark zero stars, so 1 star will have to do it, but even that is too much.
Tip for consumers: FAKE site , Beware – Stay awayAsk Chris about AdultFriendFinder
This website is $#*!ing disgusting. It destroyed my marriage. I won't listen to the haters who say my sex life blew, well bc it didn't. Sometimes in life people have filthy habits. Absolute disgust. For all you single people out there get a real $#*!ing person stop playing on internet freaks. For all of you nasty ass trifling internet troll whores, go $#*! yourself.. Oh wait that's all your doing, and that's all you will ever do!!!
We have been members for over a year now and long ago did we realize that the majority of profiles are indeed fake. When you are not sifting through fake profiles you can enjoy the member cams with nine or ten creepy old $#*!s in dirty dark rooms and maybe a couple from guatemala $#*!ing in a tent. The only good thing about this site is the live cam girls which unfortunately is Cams.com and these companies are one and the same. AFF is hard to use,not easy to navigate, has an impressive number of nobody near you at all, really and is mostly for age groups 40-65. As far as a membership is concerned I regret paying for it.
Large number of fake couples,almost always a man whose wife/partner has no idea what he's up to,even using a photo of a woman to attract men.In some cases doesnt exist
Very few women and of those ,most looking for other women
And a lot of men looking for other men. Im not anti gay I just dont like being deceived.
If you are a single male looking for a woman the ratio is at least 10:1 not just in England but looking on this site its world wide.No quibbles realy about the site itself,you get a lot for free,not the ripoff all the other sites are,just the people on it.
Be very suspicious and >>> Dont build your hopes up
This site is the worse. There are so many bulldaggers and fakes here. If you're not ripped and fake then you wont find anyone good here. All the women's are old as $#*! and stupid as hell. No collage education? No income? Old enough to be my mother or grandma? Fag ass couples looking to do gangbang on single ppl? Hell naw! Don't fall for those given this site a 3 and up. They're just employees on the site trying to tell you its ligit. $#*! it just look I'm not alone.
I am a male Frenchman living in Texas and surveyed the cities of Houston, Austin, San Antonio and Dallas for women. I had a 2-weeks gold membership for free b/c I had my ID verified. I didn't even use my 2-weeks gold access and had enough of AFF after 10 days.
I was very surprised to find the following kinds of members on that site: Most women are 45 or older. Few are still hot but most are of average looks and body types and have little education. I didn't survey the men but according to the male pictures female had on their profile as 'friends', there are a lot of big, muscular, ripped guys apparently younger than the women and showing off their huge c**k. Sure enough, these older women close to the end of their sexual life go crazy and do not respond to you if you don't have these incredible assets. Many average or lower older women require that men be a certain height, at the very least 5ft10 but 6ft is better. And they expect you to look like Brad Pitt.
I'm 45 but look younger, I'm fit and educated. I'm not a Don Juan but I usually date women ~10 years younger with above average looks and who are also fit. On aff, I had written what I thought was a fairly nice profile and posted 1 pic of my upper body (no face) to show off my fitness. 1) Few women ever checked my profile. Some started talking to me but never checked my profile. 2) Some checked my profile but never replied. 3) For those who replied, after a couple of e-mails, they would ask me for some face pics ... and never talked to me again! So here I was, thinking I was lowering my standards a bit with some of these women ... but it was they, 5-10 years older w/ average body type and little education, who rejected me! It was laughable!
So gentlemen, if you're tall and really good looking, you may be very busy on this site. If you're above average but below a 8/10, you will remain lonely.
Adult Friend Finder is it!! I rated it a '1', because like I had said "NOT MY CUP OF TEA". This Site has EVERYTHING U can think of, including being invited to some ORGIES by some married people in a few States. Just thought I'd tell U people that are interested in that sort of play. I do realize that this world will keep turning wheather I like the way it's going or not. I have been here thinking about all of the SITES I've been associated with. I will say this about '2' of those 14 kept customer care first. Searching overseas got to be alittle tough, as I had gotten to the point of just who was telling the truth and scaming. I had even tried to visit the Lady there in Her own Country. But can U believe after corresponding for a couple of months, She didn't have time to see me?? But She had time to ask me to pay for her Visa and Airline ticket!! Also in addition I had to search in getting a bigger place with the buying of furnishings. What happened to Loved Ones helping each other in doing their share and most importantly, realizing what I hsd to do here in preparing for her arrival?? Let's also not forget She doesn't have WORK!! It takes '2' now-a-days to make it here!! I am staying STATESIDE now. I love driving and listening to my CD's anyway. The other sites, I had quit early. I am feeling those very same words that some Women say like; "WHERE ARE ALL THE GOOD ONES AT"??(meaning a Good Man for them and a Good Woman for me) Listen everyone. Before U subscribe to a relationship site, it does help to read what was said in the "reviews" about the site U are interested in, as the saying goes; "ONE BAD APPLE SPOILS THE LOT"...
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This is another scam to get your hopes up and steal your money! Remember that there are only a handful of these sites that are truly real 99% of them are fooling you. Read the fine print very well and realize that they will use words that you are not used to so that you can't fully understand. It will sound like something a shady lawyer wrote with Satan coaching him..
Since 2008 I only paid for a 3 month membership one time. I have had the "gold" for about the last 3 years and have not paid anything more ever. I guess it's due to the popularity of my profile and my being active in the online community of AFF. Even if you don't want to pay, you can still access a certain amount of stuff as a standard member. You can view 1 webcam at a time of live actual members(free), You can chat all day long in any public rooms, blog, join groups, send like 10 emails a day that you initiate. There are for sure limitations, but it really is legitimate.
There is going to be BS anywhere you go in real life or virtual. The experience you have with the BS is going to be based on your reactions to what you come across. Just ignore anybody asking for personal info from the start, and don't give out your credit card for any reason! It may take you a little time to feel out what is fake and what is not, but I say worth it! I have met many people from AFF and most I still keep in contact with even from 7 years ago. I even just blogged about this being a real site. It really is a fun community to be a part of.
I played a little game with about 30 female profiles. It turned out they were all FAKE. They would always ask for my email address, or couldnt post another pic, or account would be deactivated soon after. TOTAL WASTE OF MONEY AND TIME. You will also notice that all members repeatedly come up on a rotation basis as if to say they login daily and the glamour girls in the photos have username like cumfukme, bighardcok etc R U Serious ? This site is a total scam. Spend your membership fee on a 30minute massage, You might get a hand job. If 10 people join a day thats $400. Not bad for doing nothing. And they guarantee you sex within 3 months. Try getting your money back. Good Luck, its just like sending an email to NO ONE.
Would not waste your time or money with this site. More than half of the female profiles are fake scams. They are not even smart enough to make sure the fake profiles created match the fake pictures posted with respect to size, race, age etc. When I first joined my mailbox was flush with emails from fake profiles. When my membership was about to end I was deluged with more emails from fake profiles. The site does nothing to remove these profiles that are reported by many probably because if they did their membership would be one tenth of what is actually reported.
I'm not sure if many of the reviewers on here have reasonable expectations about the swinging lifestyle. But AFF has some real weak points alright.
First the strong points:
It has a lot of members.
It has some very hot member videos, most of which are real (so what, right?)
It has enough members that there are some regional chat rooms.
The weak points (you'll notice this list is much longer):
It was bought by penthouse a couple of years ago and really went downhill.
The silver membership is no longer available. Just gold (expensive) and free (useless). Most of the members are now free which seems to be the company's business plan (advertising). I suspect that many of the bad reviews came from free members. It's a fact of life that people looking for serious meets are not going to be interested in people who won't pay for a membership (ie, They expect you to buy some nice clothes and wear them. Buy a razor and use it. Buy some gas to come and meet them. Maybe buy a round of drinks and at least go Dutch on a decent hotel room. If you won't pony up for a website membership you're probably not a good bet. Notice that I'm not suggesting this site is necessarily worth the price but this applies to any dating site)
The forums on AFF are useless and full of trolls bordering on sociopaths.
There are less and less members who are real enough to even respond to emails with a "no thanks". In fact I haven't had a single email returned in over four months.
All this said I have never gotten a bot email on AFF as someone here complained. There are some obvious commercially minded "sweet young things" but they get weeded out quickly by management. Compare this to Craigslist where I am one for two on bots responding to emails. There are fakes and flakes a plenty to be sure (welcome to "the lifestyle"). If your serious about sex dating you will get a sixth sense about this or give up.
I have met a few real and nice people on AFF but none in over a year. I won't be renewing my membership in August and frankly I can't recommend it. It's too bad really.
I would suggest Swinglifestyle as an alternate and am open for suggestions as to better sites. Any meaningfully better site would have to have enough members in mu local area code that there are a few good possible matches. That's a tall order and something that takes time to build, as AFF has managed to do.
It has 40,000,000 members, but most of the profiles are fake! I reported all of the underage minors using the website and adult friend finder won't kick them off the website! This website is a total scam! Don't waist your money, and don't get into trouble with the law!
Some women show their assets only and all the ugly and disgusting women. But, these scammed are aware and pretty much don't care what anyone puts out there. I was a fool and bought a 30 day trial because you don't get to connect with women so i paid the $19.95. It turns out the charge me 3 month subscription. I complained to the that i only ordered 1 mo. And they did refund my overcharges and took 2 weeks to get the refund. Good luck finding any honest sites out there.
Read some complaints by other users but let's face the facts: If you can't make it here or on casualdating4u.com you are not gonna make it anywhere. Those sites are the most reliable casual dating sites that I've been on for sure! Maybe CasualDating4u.com is even better. But in genereal AFF is NOT bad at all!
I was a member of one of AFF affiliate sites for almost a year. I had pretty good success with the site. I had met several women who matched what I was looking for. Yes, I got results!
Most people signing up are looking for the perfect person whom they dream about. STOP RIGHT THERE. First of all many of the women and men on the site are REAL but they are not perfect. They are who they are. Those of you who do get responses fail to understand that the woman there receive a hell of a lot of email. They will respond to the ones that appeal and weed out the ones that are jerks, crude, vulgar. Most of the woman do not want to discuss sex the first time you email them, They want to get to know you as a person first and if they like you they will let you know. Don't be an asshat right off the bat. Show you have respect. Make it clear on your profile you know what you want and what your looking for and again be very respectful. Know how to take NO for an answer. Do not be superficial. Yes there are some not so good looking women on the site but if you come on there with an attitude basing your expectations on looks you will not get anywhere on there. Do not join with preconceived notions. Go with the flow and take your time. its worth the wait.
I am not a paid review. I just had a good experience using the site. Just passing along how I did it. I left the site because I could no longer afford to stay on as a member. Would I rejoin, HELL YES!
AFF is pretty good site, however there are not that many active members. Would also recommend XratedSingles.com as another great choice with a pretty broad member base.
I believe that AFF is - together with CasualDating4u.com -one of the best adult dating sites out there, but just as all the other sites, there are tons of fake profiles...I guess that is what we need to accept by joining "those" sites. Just use your common sense and you will be fine....
Ehh its ok, personally I prefer XratedSingles.com better.
AFF is one of the best established adult dating sites and I believe it is not bad at all. I still believe there are better sites out there, like CasualDating4u.com and maybe VM.
My tip: Be suspicious of profiles which are simply to good to be true!
Tip for consumers: There is never a "best" adult dating site. It all depends on where you feel the most comfortable with. So create a profile on the leading sites (AFF, CasualDating4u.com, Vm) and see which site suits you best.Ask Sandra about AdultFriendFinder
I think people's success with this site depends on a lot of things - your personal status, attributes, geography, etc. If you're a woman, obviously you'll get a lot of attention, not all of it positive; couples seem to be hit or miss, (many complain of fakes) and for most guys, probably pretty much a losing proposition, unless you have some stunning attributes that are much in demand (like endowed like John Holmes.)
As a more-or-less average guy, it's pretty miserable - there are lots of fake profiles, (pretty sure many of them are manned by employees of the site), and the few conversations I've had with people have been mostly rude or scary. Almost every conversation began with a Gestapo-like interrogation, and immediate demands for personal information I'm not going to share with a stranger.
There are a lot of scary dudes there, and I imagine women become rather suspicious and hostile due to bad experiences with them. But you know what? I may be "average", but that doesn't mean some fat, and/or grotesque woman gets to talk to me like I'm a homeless serial killer who'll steal her credit cards the instant I get a chance.
I went into it thinking "This is a good way to meet new people, people who are probably open-minded, non-judgmental, friendly people you'd like to have a beer with."
Instead, it's a mental ward - try it if you like, it might work for you, but don't ever pay for it.
Tip for consumers: Don't pay for the service - the free account will give you enough probably the only thing paying does is gets you lots of attention from shills who get very friendly when it's time to renew. Save your money, and go "out" - your chances of meeting someone are much better pretty much anywhere else in real-life than here.Ask r about AdultFriendFinder
I have tried this in the past with limited success. Recently, I received an email from the founder ( a PhD type) who had repurchased the company, was coming back into management and promised improvements. I will wait a bit and try them again.
A very mixed bag. We have been in the lifestyle for 10 years and have rotated our paid memberships between AFF, Lifestylelounge and SLS so we have a pretty good basis for comparison.
AFF is by far the biggest and it's where a lot of people start. If you can't find someone on AFF, then you're doing something wrong. You do need to be very careful though as there are SOOOOO many fake profiles or people that are just playing around on the site with no intention of meeting.
- lots of members
- limits what unpaid members can see and do
- service is pretty responsive when you need them
- good member privacy controls
- very few hot couples or girls
- ridiculous amount of fake profiles and the fact that the site admin creates them!
- 99% of single girls that are at all attractive are fake
- no monitoring of people stealing pics\videos from websites and posting them on their profile
- no "booty call" or "Hot Date" type feature
- some features are buggy unless you are on a real PC
- search features are wildly inconsistent and inaccurate. We sometimes get emails from very good matches nearby and we have never seen their profiles before
Tip for consumers: 1) let your membership expire before you renew and then keep checking the rate. You will get a much better discount on a long term membership (we just paid $45 for 18 months).
2) Use google image search on pictures that you think may not be really them. It's amazing how many people use porn site pics on their profiles
I started receiving multiple e-mails every day from scam porn/virus sites including fake 'replies' within weeks of joining this site with a unique, unguessable e-mail address, then closing the account. So it's clear that the lowlifes at adultfriendfinder.com sells your personal details to every shady website they can manage to. Give them a miss.
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AFF may be a freaskshow but it's not a scam. I'm a handsome, cut, well endowed male in my mid 30s. I can pick up women on any bar in america. I tried AFF. Banged lots of girls, most of the 6s and 7s. The competition for male attention is incredibly hard. I realized after a couple of months that it was way easier to pickup slutty receptionists at happy hour than to spend hours writing witty emails trying to get the attention of women I wouldn't even pursue in person. So what does this all mean:
if you're a dude. you must be cut, endowed and willing to write a lot of freaking emails.
If you're a girl: you probably don't need much. maybe a picture. getting laid is a guarantee. quality will surely vary.
so basically AFF is a hyperbole of life. good looking guys get laid. women just have to say "who wants some sex?"
My husband joined this site and paid the most expensive rate. He hooked up with very few fat ugly women for web sex. In desperation he paid for the 'models'. Anyone know if these models webcam? If not surely he coulda got this for free on other sites is porn hub??
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This site is a terrible and I have never seen so many dirty birdy on here! If you visit this site please ensure you have sunglasses.
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I just feel that there are SO many insincere men on the site... and while I have never seen the female side of the site, I bet the girls are just posers. Also... site so buggy it's crazy....
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they are ok if you read the terms and conditions
I am a married guy so I should've know that it wouldn't really work anyway. But, I was on the site like 2 maybe three months and I got two hits! I had sex with both but they were both fat ( obese ) chicks. Both were married like me and were doing $#*! on the low like me. The first one was a female player. She was just $#*!ing guys like two maybe three times and she was out! The other one was kind of crazy. She actually wanted to go out in public even though she was married and she had family all ove the city! I $#*!ed but they both were obese! Not really a win! The rest on the site were looking for 10s even though they were 5 or lower themselves. Just a lot of stuck up chicks who were getting egos were big as hell cause guys email the $#*! out of them even the fat ones! Smh
Tip for consumers: If you're single and about $#*!ing, then it might be a good site if you can wait at least 2wks to a month for a response from female. Tagged.com or Tinder is a way better site for single or married but looking guys. Maybe cause it is free and you have more interaction between men and women without have to spend a lot for bs!Ask Derek about AdultFriendFinder
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