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Large number of fake couples,almost always a man whose wife/partner has no idea what he's up to,even using a photo of a woman to attract men.In some cases doesnt exist
Very few women and of those ,most looking for other women
And a lot of men looking for other men. Im not anti gay I just dont like being deceived.
If you are a single male looking for a woman the ratio is at least 10:1 not just in England but looking on this site its world wide.No quibbles realy about the site itself,you get a lot for free,not the ripoff all the other sites are,just the people on it.
Be very suspicious and >>> Dont build your hopes up
This site is the worse. There are so many bulldaggers and fakes here. If you're not ripped and fake then you wont find anyone good here. All the women's are old as $#*! and stupid as hell. No collage education? No income? Old enough to be my mother or grandma? Fag ass couples looking to do gangbang on single ppl? Hell naw! Don't fall for those given this site a 3 and up. They're just employees on the site trying to tell you its ligit. $#*! it just look I'm not alone.
I am a male Frenchman living in Texas and surveyed the cities of Houston, Austin, San Antonio and Dallas for women. I had a 2-weeks gold membership for free b/c I had my ID verified. I didn't even use my 2-weeks gold access and had enough of AFF after 10 days.
I was very surprised to find the following kinds of members on that site: Most women are 45 or older. Few are still hot but most are of average looks and body types and have little education. I didn't survey the men but according to the male pictures female had on their profile as 'friends', there are a lot of big, muscular, ripped guys apparently younger than the women and showing off their huge c**k. Sure enough, these older women close to the end of their sexual life go crazy and do not respond to you if you don't have these incredible assets. Many average or lower older women require that men be a certain height, at the very least 5ft10 but 6ft is better. And they expect you to look like Brad Pitt.
I'm 45 but look younger, I'm fit and educated. I'm not a Don Juan but I usually date women ~10 years younger with above average looks and who are also fit. On aff, I had written what I thought was a fairly nice profile and posted 1 pic of my upper body (no face) to show off my fitness. 1) Few women ever checked my profile. Some started talking to me but never checked my profile. 2) Some checked my profile but never replied. 3) For those who replied, after a couple of e-mails, they would ask me for some face pics ... and never talked to me again! So here I was, thinking I was lowering my standards a bit with some of these women ... but it was they, 5-10 years older w/ average body type and little education, who rejected me! It was laughable!
So gentlemen, if you're tall and really good looking, you may be very busy on this site. If you're above average but below a 8/10, you will remain lonely.
Adult Friend Finder is it!! I rated it a '1', because like I had said "NOT MY CUP OF TEA". This Site has EVERYTHING U can think of, including being invited to some ORGIES by some married people in a few States. Just thought I'd tell U people that are interested in that sort of play. I do realize that this world will keep turning wheather I like the way it's going or not. I have been here thinking about all of the SITES I've been associated with. I will say this about '2' of those 14 kept customer care first. Searching overseas got to be alittle tough, as I had gotten to the point of just who was telling the truth and scaming. I had even tried to visit the Lady there in Her own Country. But can U believe after corresponding for a couple of months, She didn't have time to see me?? But She had time to ask me to pay for her Visa and Airline ticket!! Also in addition I had to search in getting a bigger place with the buying of furnishings. What happened to Loved Ones helping each other in doing their share and most importantly, realizing what I hsd to do here in preparing for her arrival?? Let's also not forget She doesn't have WORK!! It takes '2' now-a-days to make it here!! I am staying STATESIDE now. I love driving and listening to my CD's anyway. The other sites, I had quit early. I am feeling those very same words that some Women say like; "WHERE ARE ALL THE GOOD ONES AT"??(meaning a Good Man for them and a Good Woman for me) Listen everyone. Before U subscribe to a relationship site, it does help to read what was said in the "reviews" about the site U are interested in, as the saying goes; "ONE BAD APPLE SPOILS THE LOT"...
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This is another scam to get your hopes up and steal your money! Remember that there are only a handful of these sites that are truly real 99% of them are fooling you. Read the fine print very well and realize that they will use words that you are not used to so that you can't fully understand. It will sound like something a shady lawyer wrote with Satan coaching him..
Since 2008 I only paid for a 3 month membership one time. I have had the "gold" for about the last 3 years and have not paid anything more ever. I guess it's due to the popularity of my profile and my being active in the online community of AFF. Even if you don't want to pay, you can still access a certain amount of stuff as a standard member. You can view 1 webcam at a time of live actual members(free), You can chat all day long in any public rooms, blog, join groups, send like 10 emails a day that you initiate. There are for sure limitations, but it really is legitimate.
There is going to be BS anywhere you go in real life or virtual. The experience you have with the BS is going to be based on your reactions to what you come across. Just ignore anybody asking for personal info from the start, and don't give out your credit card for any reason! It may take you a little time to feel out what is fake and what is not, but I say worth it! I have met many people from AFF and most I still keep in contact with even from 7 years ago. I even just blogged about this being a real site. It really is a fun community to be a part of.
I played a little game with about 30 female profiles. It turned out they were all FAKE. They would always ask for my email address, or couldnt post another pic, or account would be deactivated soon after. TOTAL WASTE OF MONEY AND TIME. You will also notice that all members repeatedly come up on a rotation basis as if to say they login daily and the glamour girls in the photos have username like cumfukme, bighardcok etc R U Serious ? This site is a total scam. Spend your membership fee on a 30minute massage, You might get a hand job. If 10 people join a day thats $400. Not bad for doing nothing. And they guarantee you sex within 3 months. Try getting your money back. Good Luck, its just like sending an email to NO ONE.
Would not waste your time or money with this site. More than half of the female profiles are fake scams. They are not even smart enough to make sure the fake profiles created match the fake pictures posted with respect to size, race, age etc. When I first joined my mailbox was flush with emails from fake profiles. When my membership was about to end I was deluged with more emails from fake profiles. The site does nothing to remove these profiles that are reported by many probably because if they did their membership would be one tenth of what is actually reported.
I'm not sure if many of the reviewers on here have reasonable expectations about the swinging lifestyle. But AFF has some real weak points alright.
First the strong points:
It has a lot of members.
It has some very hot member videos, most of which are real (so what, right?)
It has enough members that there are some regional chat rooms.
The weak points (you'll notice this list is much longer):
It was bought by penthouse a couple of years ago and really went downhill.
The silver membership is no longer available. Just gold (expensive) and free (useless). Most of the members are now free which seems to be the company's business plan (advertising). I suspect that many of the bad reviews came from free members. It's a fact of life that people looking for serious meets are not going to be interested in people who won't pay for a membership (ie, They expect you to buy some nice clothes and wear them. Buy a razor and use it. Buy some gas to come and meet them. Maybe buy a round of drinks and at least go Dutch on a decent hotel room. If you won't pony up for a website membership you're probably not a good bet. Notice that I'm not suggesting this site is necessarily worth the price but this applies to any dating site)
The forums on AFF are useless and full of trolls bordering on sociopaths.
There are less and less members who are real enough to even respond to emails with a "no thanks". In fact I haven't had a single email returned in over four months.
All this said I have never gotten a bot email on AFF as someone here complained. There are some obvious commercially minded "sweet young things" but they get weeded out quickly by management. Compare this to Craigslist where I am one for two on bots responding to emails. There are fakes and flakes a plenty to be sure (welcome to "the lifestyle"). If your serious about sex dating you will get a sixth sense about this or give up.
I have met a few real and nice people on AFF but none in over a year. I won't be renewing my membership in August and frankly I can't recommend it. It's too bad really.
I would suggest Swinglifestyle as an alternate and am open for suggestions as to better sites. Any meaningfully better site would have to have enough members in mu local area code that there are a few good possible matches. That's a tall order and something that takes time to build, as AFF has managed to do.
It has 40,000,000 members, but most of the profiles are fake! I reported all of the underage minors using the website and adult friend finder won't kick them off the website! This website is a total scam! Don't waist your money, and don't get into trouble with the law!
Some women show their assets only and all the ugly and disgusting women. But, these scammed are aware and pretty much don't care what anyone puts out there. I was a fool and bought a 30 day trial because you don't get to connect with women so i paid the $19.95. It turns out the charge me 3 month subscription. I complained to the that i only ordered 1 mo. And they did refund my overcharges and took 2 weeks to get the refund. Good luck finding any honest sites out there.
Read some complaints by other users but let's face the facts: If you can't make it here or on casualdating4u.com you are not gonna make it anywhere. Those sites are the most reliable casual dating sites that I've been on for sure! Maybe CasualDating4u.com is even better. But in genereal AFF is NOT bad at all!
I was a member of one of AFF affiliate sites for almost a year. I had pretty good success with the site. I had met several women who matched what I was looking for. Yes, I got results!
Most people signing up are looking for the perfect person whom they dream about. STOP RIGHT THERE. First of all many of the women and men on the site are REAL but they are not perfect. They are who they are. Those of you who do get responses fail to understand that the woman there receive a hell of a lot of email. They will respond to the ones that appeal and weed out the ones that are jerks, crude, vulgar. Most of the woman do not want to discuss sex the first time you email them, They want to get to know you as a person first and if they like you they will let you know. Don't be an asshat right off the bat. Show you have respect. Make it clear on your profile you know what you want and what your looking for and again be very respectful. Know how to take NO for an answer. Do not be superficial. Yes there are some not so good looking women on the site but if you come on there with an attitude basing your expectations on looks you will not get anywhere on there. Do not join with preconceived notions. Go with the flow and take your time. its worth the wait.
I am not a paid review. I just had a good experience using the site. Just passing along how I did it. I left the site because I could no longer afford to stay on as a member. Would I rejoin, HELL YES!
AFF is pretty good site, however there are not that many active members. Would also recommend XratedSingles.com as another great choice with a pretty broad member base.
I believe that AFF is - together with CasualDating4u.com -one of the best adult dating sites out there, but just as all the other sites, there are tons of fake profiles...I guess that is what we need to accept by joining "those" sites. Just use your common sense and you will be fine....
Ehh its ok, personally I prefer XratedSingles.com better.
AFF is one of the best established adult dating sites and I believe it is not bad at all. I still believe there are better sites out there, like CasualDating4u.com and maybe VM.
My tip: Be suspicious of profiles which are simply to good to be true!
Tip for consumers: There is never a "best" adult dating site. It all depends on where you feel the most comfortable with. So create a profile on the leading sites (AFF, CasualDating4u.com, Vm) and see which site suits you best.Ask Sandra about AdultFriendFinder
I think people's success with this site depends on a lot of things - your personal status, attributes, geography, etc. If you're a woman, obviously you'll get a lot of attention, not all of it positive; couples seem to be hit or miss, (many complain of fakes) and for most guys, probably pretty much a losing proposition, unless you have some stunning attributes that are much in demand (like endowed like John Holmes.)
As a more-or-less average guy, it's pretty miserable - there are lots of fake profiles, (pretty sure many of them are manned by employees of the site), and the few conversations I've had with people have been mostly rude or scary. Almost every conversation began with a Gestapo-like interrogation, and immediate demands for personal information I'm not going to share with a stranger.
There are a lot of scary dudes there, and I imagine women become rather suspicious and hostile due to bad experiences with them. But you know what? I may be "average", but that doesn't mean some fat, and/or grotesque woman gets to talk to me like I'm a homeless serial killer who'll steal her credit cards the instant I get a chance.
I went into it thinking "This is a good way to meet new people, people who are probably open-minded, non-judgmental, friendly people you'd like to have a beer with."
Instead, it's a mental ward - try it if you like, it might work for you, but don't ever pay for it.
Tip for consumers: Don't pay for the service - the free account will give you enough probably the only thing paying does is gets you lots of attention from shills who get very friendly when it's time to renew. Save your money, and go "out" - your chances of meeting someone are much better pretty much anywhere else in real-life than here.Ask r about AdultFriendFinder
I have tried this in the past with limited success. Recently, I received an email from the founder ( a PhD type) who had repurchased the company, was coming back into management and promised improvements. I will wait a bit and try them again.
A very mixed bag. We have been in the lifestyle for 10 years and have rotated our paid memberships between AFF, Lifestylelounge and SLS so we have a pretty good basis for comparison.
AFF is by far the biggest and it's where a lot of people start. If you can't find someone on AFF, then you're doing something wrong. You do need to be very careful though as there are SOOOOO many fake profiles or people that are just playing around on the site with no intention of meeting.
- lots of members
- limits what unpaid members can see and do
- service is pretty responsive when you need them
- good member privacy controls
- very few hot couples or girls
- ridiculous amount of fake profiles and the fact that the site admin creates them!
- 99% of single girls that are at all attractive are fake
- no monitoring of people stealing pics\videos from websites and posting them on their profile
- no "booty call" or "Hot Date" type feature
- some features are buggy unless you are on a real PC
- search features are wildly inconsistent and inaccurate. We sometimes get emails from very good matches nearby and we have never seen their profiles before
Tip for consumers: 1) let your membership expire before you renew and then keep checking the rate. You will get a much better discount on a long term membership (we just paid $45 for 18 months).
2) Use google image search on pictures that you think may not be really them. It's amazing how many people use porn site pics on their profiles
I started receiving multiple e-mails every day from scam porn/virus sites including fake 'replies' within weeks of joining this site with a unique, unguessable e-mail address, then closing the account. So it's clear that the lowlifes at adultfriendfinder.com sells your personal details to every shady website they can manage to. Give them a miss.
Tip for consumers: Scammers. Steer clear.Ask Steven about AdultFriendFinder
AFF may be a freaskshow but it's not a scam. I'm a handsome, cut, well endowed male in my mid 30s. I can pick up women on any bar in america. I tried AFF. Banged lots of girls, most of the 6s and 7s. The competition for male attention is incredibly hard. I realized after a couple of months that it was way easier to pickup slutty receptionists at happy hour than to spend hours writing witty emails trying to get the attention of women I wouldn't even pursue in person. So what does this all mean:
if you're a dude. you must be cut, endowed and willing to write a lot of freaking emails.
If you're a girl: you probably don't need much. maybe a picture. getting laid is a guarantee. quality will surely vary.
so basically AFF is a hyperbole of life. good looking guys get laid. women just have to say "who wants some sex?"
My husband joined this site and paid the most expensive rate. He hooked up with very few fat ugly women for web sex. In desperation he paid for the 'models'. Anyone know if these models webcam? If not surely he coulda got this for free on other sites is porn hub??
Tip for consumers: Best not toAsk Shirley about AdultFriendFinder
This site is a terrible and I have never seen so many dirty birdy on here! If you visit this site please ensure you have sunglasses.
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I just feel that there are SO many insincere men on the site... and while I have never seen the female side of the site, I bet the girls are just posers. Also... site so buggy it's crazy....
Tip for consumers: Buyer beware.Ask Melinda about AdultFriendFinder
they are ok if you read the terms and conditions
I am a married guy so I should've know that it wouldn't really work anyway. But, I was on the site like 2 maybe three months and I got two hits! I had sex with both but they were both fat ( obese ) chicks. Both were married like me and were doing $#*! on the low like me. The first one was a female player. She was just $#*!ing guys like two maybe three times and she was out! The other one was kind of crazy. She actually wanted to go out in public even though she was married and she had family all ove the city! I $#*!ed but they both were obese! Not really a win! The rest on the site were looking for 10s even though they were 5 or lower themselves. Just a lot of stuck up chicks who were getting egos were big as hell cause guys email the $#*! out of them even the fat ones! Smh
Tip for consumers: If you're single and about $#*!ing, then it might be a good site if you can wait at least 2wks to a month for a response from female. Tagged.com or Tinder is a way better site for single or married but looking guys. Maybe cause it is free and you have more interaction between men and women without have to spend a lot for bs!Ask Derek about AdultFriendFinder
This site is great until you pay. Once you pay, they mess with you. At least that's true if you pay with a money order. They like credit cards, because they can keep charging you over, and over, and over.
I couldn't log on, and I wrote them an email. They responded, "Sorry about that. We've fixed it." Nice, right? But then I tried to log on again, and it wouldn't work. I wrote them back. "Thanks for the quick response, but I still can't log on."
They wrote back and said, "Could you give us the handle, the email, the password, and the details of your problem."
I wanted to write, "Sure. Kindly go $#*! yourselves," but I gave them all the info. I'm expecting the worst. I'm also expecting to write more reviews about these POS's.
Tip for consumers: Use it, but don't pay.Ask Early about AdultFriendFinder
As most have said, the site is filled with fake profiles, dudes pretending to be women and generally disgusting females.
Only the fake profile portion is the sites fault, but my gripe is, the site feels like it's managed and moderated by a single person who lives in his mother's basement and works only part time.
You pay and sign up only to have your pictures sit in purgatory, never being approved and the site is constantly glitching is various ways I have seen since the days of MySpace.
So far, it feels like a total waste of time and money. I wouldn't recommend.
This yet another scammy site that is completely fake. You much better off using a site like Hookups.ws.
don't call or email them they will not get back to you. Don't block the rude people on there b/c the block does not work. Don't think you always talking to a woman b/c its most men on there. you ask to talk to the woman half and all you get is good by or she is not here over and over. I just got one think left keep your money in your pocket b/c this site is not at all what they say it is. your better off looking on facebook or tagged or meetme. 99% fake and lies.......................
Horrible customer service. Joined the site today and even got a paid membership. Came home and the site was so slow it was unusable. Called up to say it was slow and they said they needed my password? To complain the site was slow? So then after they were unable to duplicate it while there sitting on the freaking servers they have me start to restart the browser and stuff. Really? I tried it on my phone on 4g and on my PC but you still want me to go through your hoops? And this is just on day 1 wonder how its going to go for the rest of the month.
There only bots and spammers on AFF, I would use Hookups.ws it is much better
Can anyone tell me what rm_ means at the beginning of a users screen name on AFF? I've looked everywhere with no answers, and there seems to be a lot of members that do it.
The website is full of losers, that's why they are there. It emits a very negative atmosphere in my opinion. Dated a man that I met on there, Timber19509814. He told me the whole nine yards. I was taking it slow and easy but it seemed to actually be something. Then one day out of the blue he texts me and breaks it off, which is very rude to do that on text. Come to find out he's lying about his age, he's actually 13 years older than he says on his profile. Paul Spillers thinks he can do whatever he wants to whomever he wants because he is an attorney with Theus, Grisham, Davis & Leigh . This site is definitely a meat market, like bar hopping only from your home on the pc. If you are not the one for bar hopping to meet someone, you definitely don't want to cruise around on AFF. Peace & Positive Vibes!
Do not upgrade you can do a lot being a standard member alone. I had upgraded to gold membership on 5th of April , 4 days later the account was deactivated. When customer care was contacted by email , they replied that I must call the billing department and get the credit card verified. Firstly , I would have loved to stay discreet about it , secondly the toll free number is that of US, how thoughtful of them. The money has not been refunded , the account has been deactivated and I am not even sure if they are going to keep debiting money from my card. This is day light robbery.
I would rather jump off a bridge than use this site. If you are looking for something that is the real deal than you could try SlutBang.net.
Years ago, this site was actually worthwhile, and I met a few really cool girls. Of course that was then. Now, the site is totally pointless, as there are more bots and fake profiles than anything else. Don't waste your money, your time, or even the keystrokes on your profile...you won't get anywhere. If you're a current member, cancel your membership and shut these fools down.
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