Our son's troubles were rooted in depression and anxiety. Although he is a very intelligent young man and a very gifted athlete, he had a tremendous lack of self-esteem. These troubles were furthered by how he chose to cope with these issues. He became a poor student and he was combative at home and amongst his peers. He was withdrawing more and more every day and both day programs and in-patient therapy were not effective. He had turned to substance abuse, wouldn't attend school, and was getting into fights when he did go to school. At home, we could no longer keep him safe. His behavior was so combative and self-destructive that we were asked to remove him from the program as the counselors there were not prepared to be able to help him.
My wife and I wrestled with the devastating truth that we could not keep him safe at home and we had little time to decide what to do. This was when my wife and I both realized that we had independently come across the Diamond Ranch Academy website in our searches many times over the years. We understood the Diamond Ranch approach to be a very structured approach that was a longer program than any of the others we had reviewed. We were intrigued by the fact that DRA was a fully accredited high school and offered full team athletic programs. We knew that our son still truly enjoyed sports like football and wrestling. We were concerned that he was falling so far behind in his studies that he may not ever care to even graduate high school, much less go on to college.
When I visited DRA for the first time, I knew we had found the right place for our son. I will never forget the young men attending DRA who freely spoke with me about their experiences at DRA. I remember being hopeful (for the first time in a long time) that my son could one day show the discipline, respect, poise and confidence that these young men were able to demonstrate. Although my son was only beginning his junior year in high school, I felt encouraged that he could achieve his diploma and graduate from high school at DRA. The self-paced study approach suited him very well and he soon began to have some successes in school and was finishing some coursework with very good grades.
His days at DRA were not without challenges and even some setbacks. We had wonderful family visits off campus. But, he struggled somewhat with the home visits. He had fulfilled all of the program requirements and was finishing his junior year academic credits when he made his graduate visit home. Somehow he knew he was not quite ready to come home for good. We were making plans for him to come home and re-join his high school back home for his senior year. He showed great maturity in discussing with us the option that we were offering him to stay at DRA to finish high school and did end up choosing to stay.
Today he is working hard at his full-time job and continues to receive counseling. He enjoys the time he is spending with family. He likes to work hard and never misses work except for family vacations or time taken to visit his top college choices. He knows that he will soon be away again at school. We all know that he is ready. We hope and pray that others continue to find DRA and the assistance of some of the most wonderful people we have ever known. We will never forget all of you.
To any of the parents visiting this site, if you are looking at these reviews, it probably means that you are having a very difficult situation with a loved one and are investigating what to do in order to help them. I am writing this review in support of Diamond Ranch Academy and their staff. I have a very busy life but I wanted to take the time to write this, as I wished that I had been able to read a review like this when I was searching for help for my daughter. From my perspective I understand what you may be going through. The last few years of my life have been some of the most stressful and difficult I have experienced in my entire life. My 17 year old daughter had become completely depressed, defiant, isolated, withdrawn and began to develop negative coping skills in order to deal with her mental health. Each day as I interacted with my daughter I never knew which daughter was going to be there, I felt like it was a Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde situation. My daughter's condition was also taking a toll on my marital relationship and also was affecting my other children. Her life seemed to be spinning out of control and I felt like she was becoming a vortex of destruction to all in her path, including most importantly herself. I felt like we really needed to do something to help my daughter before her behavior led to an implosion of everything around her. We had tried everything possible we knew to try to help her, including outpatient therapists and reading multiple self help books. However, despite our best efforts, we felt like things just kept getting worse and I was beginning to lose hope.
We started to look at multiple options including intensive inpatient therapy and intensive outpatient therapy. None of these seemed like viable options, until we discovered Diamond Ranch Academy (DRA) and we began to see some hope. One of the largest things about DRA that really stood out to me was the saying at DRA of Healing families one child at a time. This really stood out to me, as DRA was aware of not just helping the child but also helping to heal the family of that child. The fact that DRA understood that it was not just the child that needed help, but by helping that child to develop the skills to overcome their negative behaviors, it would also help to heal the family of that child that was also hurting.
As my wife and I were contemplating this decision, I have written below some of the personal issues and thoughts that I had to address to myself.
Issue #1: "If I send my child to DRA, it will be as if I admit that I had failed as a parent." This was one of the more difficult thoughts I had to work through for myself. As I watched my daughter, I felt powerless to help her. I felt like perhaps if I had done something differently, she would not be in this situation. I felt that perhaps I had failed her as a parent and that by sending her away it would be as if I were giving up. As my daughter has been at DRA, I now see that the opposite is true. I have learned that sometimes we need help from others that are experts in areas where we are not. By sending your child to DRA, you are not abandoning your child and you are not a failure as a parent. In actuality, you are still showing hope in your child that there is a chance and that you have the humility to ask for help from others. You are turning your child over to experts who have helped many many children to turn their lives around. I have come to realize that in sending a child to DRA, you are actually exhibiting great courage to make this decision and being a great parent. It is also demonstrating hope in your child that they still have the potential to change and that you are not giving up on them.
Issue #2: "Why did this happen to us and it will be a complete embarrassment once everyone finds out. As my daughter has been at DRA, I have discovered that many, many families are in similar situations and don't know where to go for help. One program at DRA that I found particularly helpful in this regard for me, were the parent 101 and parent 201 classes. These classes were excellent as we met with many other parents who were in similar situations and I realized we were not alone. I felt like my wife and I no longer were suffering in silence but were actually understood by many people with whom we shared a common bond. I remember in the parent 101 class, sitting in a circle with other parents who also had children there, sharing our feelings about our children and expressing our love for them. It was at this time that I felt like someone understood what I was going through as a parent and it allowed me to let go of the weight that I felt I had been carrying during all this time, due to my daughter's struggles. Furthermore, as friends and family found out about us sending our daughter to DRA, we have only felt supported by them. In fact, we are often now asked about the DRA program as many other families are still struggling with the same issues we faced. We shared some of the books DRA uses with our friends, including The People Code and found that many of our friends and family read these books and wanted to know more.
Issue #3: As I was researching DRA, I encountered some of the negative reviews that have been written about DRA. Before I sent my daughter there, I expressed some of these concerns with Andrew and some of the other staff at DRA. I was impressed by their straightforwardness and openness in addressing these concerns. They even went beyond that and offered to give me several referrals of parents that had children in the program. The parents I spoke with gave very positive reviews of DRA and the staff there. I decided to trust my feelings and send my daughter there. Since she has been there, I can't say enough in support of the professionalism of all of the staff that I have encountered at DRA. The DRA staff do an exceptional job of keeping parents in the loop and letting parents know how their child is doing. I have also visited the facility several times and have always been impressed by how open everyone is and how positive all the staff is toward my daughter. Most importantly, they truly seem to care for her as a person and want to help her to become her best self. During our weekly phone calls with my daughter, she had the opportunity to speak frankly about her feelings about the program and was not censored in any way. Beyond that, we received both verbal and written communication weekly from the girls program director who kept us appraised of how my daughter was doing. My experience with DRA has been completely positive. I feel like the negative websites and reviews out in cyberspace regarding diamond ranch, misrepresent the program and are not a valid review of what DRA is about.
DRA is a well rounded program. The last semester at home before my daughter went to DRA, she failed almost all of her classes in school. At DRA, she has excelled academically due to the low student teacher ratio and all the assistance she has in learning the material. In fact, she was able to make up for the semester she lost, and worked all summer to the point where she graduated high school earlier than any of her friends at home. She also did most of her college prep work at DRA including taking the SAT and ACT, with her scores improved compared to her scores at home. She was also accepted to college and will start college 2 weeks after her high school graduation from DRA and completing the program. This was an amazing result to me as prior to her attending DRA, I was concerned she would not even graduate high school and did not even see college on the horizon for her.
Furthermore, while she has been at DRA, she has had the opportunity to participate in a variety of activities that she otherwise would not have, including soccer, dance team, drama productions, and even participated in the Shakespeare festival at SUU. These opportunities have allowed her to have a much richer experience and have made DRA feel very similar to any other high school, so she did not feel like she was missing part of her youth.
The therapists at DRA have helped my daughter and myself tremendously. As my daughter has been learning a through therapy, I have also taken the time to learn what she is learning. I have read some of the books that she has read. This has really helped in our phone calls as we understand what she talks about and also have learned the best ways to interact with her. I have also discovered some of the weaknesses in my own life and how to begin to correct those. By doing this, I have found that it has significantly strengthened my relationship with my daughter and I understand her better now than I ever have understood her.
As we finish the program at DRA, I know the transition home and to college will have some ups and downs. However, I now feel that DRA has given my daughter and myself the skills needed to navigate the hills and valleys that will inevitably come. I truly cannot express enough thanks to all of the staff at DRA for loving and caring for my daughter and by so doing to help her heal. I feel I will always be indebted to DRA for everything they have done for my daughter and also for myself. For the first time in many years, I again feel hope and feel at peace for my daughter; something that I was not sure I would feel again. I fully express my support of the program and wish to thank them for everything. But in the end, I did not write this review for them, but for you, any parents that find themselves in a similar situation as I was.
To the parents, if you are reading this review, it means you likely have a very difficult situation with your teen and are trying to decide if DRA is right for you. PLEASE read this review. We understand your fears-my wife and I were in your same situation 8 months ago! Our goal with this review is to help you understand why making a decision to let go and temporarily turn your teen over to an organization like DRA is ABSOLUTELY the right thing to do. We will give you background so you have context about our situation, common fears and misconceptions we had and how they were handled, why DRA works in our opinion, and to let you know where we are now with our son.
Our son's troubles started when we transitioned from 8th grade to 9th grade. He was confident, engaging, and outgoing. He was a standout player in three different sports. Unfortunately, a combination of social networking sites, cell phone and text addiction, poor friend choices, and immaturity, gave way to D's and F's, failing relationships at home, marijuana use, and a rebellious attitude that became worse and worse. At the age of 17 and at the beginning of the second semester of his junior year, he found his way into the juvenile court system for a weekend gone wrong. We were at our wits end. We transferred our son to DRA to salvage his youth and get him back on track. We had tried everything, but everything wasn't working. Some say the definition of insanity is trying the same thing over and over again hoping for a different result. We were not getting different results.
Misconception #1 - "I can't let go-it will be like admitting we failed as parents." You are not abandoning your child. You are turning your child over to experts for an average 10 month stay. DRA has taken in thousands of children like your own and they know how to handle tough teen situations. It takes great courage to make this decision. Rationalization will lead to poor outcomes. We feel like the best parents in the world now having made this decision, but at the time we didn't understand that reality. Have the courage!
Misconception #2 - "You can't get your child to DRA-if they don't want to go they will run". Parents do not have to transport their child. There are professional youth transport services that will help you get your child from your home to DRA. We feared that our son would simply say NO and not go. He's a big kid, and he might just win that battle. Further, if he even suspected this was coming, we feared he would run. Although our son went willingly to DRA, I have learned that approximately 60% do not. So, how do unwilling teens get transported? Consider this: when two very large ex-college football players show up in the middle of the night and say we can do this the easy way or the hard way, your teen will choose the easy way. I am told nearly 99% agree, although there may be some initial "I can't believe you would do this to me" outbursts. And, if they choose the hard way, you will find your transporters to be gentle and caring, and skilled at quickly befriending your child. They know how to put your teen at ease and diffuse what might be a difficult situation. We have used the transport service more than once for home visits. Out transporters told me they very rarely have a difficult transfer... they could count them on one hand and they've done hundreds.
Misconception #3 - "I know what's best for my child and I can salvage this situation on my own". Our only regret is that we didn't take advantage of DRA sooner. Perhaps our son would not have gone willingly (the juvenile court stay made him a convert), but even so, we endured an extra year of misery hoping things would get better. Teens are very smart and very manipulative. They will tell you what you want to hear, and before long you think it's two steps forward and one step back. Unfortunately, this just isn't the case for the vast majority of situations that plumb new lows on a weekly and monthly basis.
Misconception #4 - "This is so embarrassing. Why us? How did we draw this straw?" You didn't draw the short straw! We were willing to talk openly with friends, family, co-workers, and others about our situation. Much to our surprise, we learned that nearly every family has a similar story. The reality is that tens of thousands of teens every year need a program like DRA. DRA receives hundreds and often thousands of inquiries every month. One of the top reasons given for not following through after making the initial inquiry is the proverbial cold feet, and hoping for a better day. Hope is not a strategy! Having the courage to take a different path is a strategy. Don't worry-you are not alone.
There are many dimensions to this program. Some are explained well on the DRA web site, but some dimensions less so (presumably because it's hard to understand unless you get an extensive explanation). We'll attempt that brief explanation here. But let me first say that our son has now been at DRA for 8 months. He has had his ups and downs, and not everything is perfect, but in general he is happy and engaged. He lost freedoms most teens enjoy (e.g. A car, dating, cell phone use, restaurants with friends, etc). This is not how most teens define happiness! However, he says once he got accustomed to a healthy lifestyle, he obtained new found joy in preparing for a future that wasn't otherwise going to happen. And, he has that potential DRA state football championship in the meantime that keeps him motivated, along with graduating from high school a full semester early with a significantly improved GPA.
Academics - students are not allowed to advance past any test, quiz, or assignment unless they score 80% or better. Students learn that they might as well put in the work up front and do it right. Before long, study skills are learned.
Merit system - Students accumulate points daily for excellence in academics and in being a good citizen at the Ranch. If they accumulate enough points, they get to buy fun activities on Saturday. If they receive too many point deductions, they don't participate. It's black and white, and without exception. Students learn early that if they want to participate in hiking, movies, water skiing, etc., they must put in the work during the week. Further, if they accumulate a negative point balance during the week, they must work on Saturday to clear that balance. This has the double benefit of giving students a fresh start each week, but also to avoid the negative outcome and instead enjoy the positive outcome that a purchased activity brings. This is an extremely positive and important system. Most parents instinctively know it's the right system, but few implement it well at home.
Athletics - this is such an important part of DRA. My son arrived at DRA 160 pounds. Six months later he was 210 pounds and chiseled! How does this happen with lazy teens? First, the staff and coaches encouraged and motivated him to work out with them in the mornings before class. He often worked out every day. Further, the meals are balanced, not filled with the empty calories and sugars your child will find at the local convenience store. This prepared him for baseball and football and restored his confidence. The virtuous circle of confidence and results created more incentive each week. Further, since DRA is part of the Utah State HSAA and they play other schools throughout the state, game day has the excitement and feel of any other high school in America.
Perhaps your son or daughter isn't interested in sports. That's ok. There is something for everyone to do, and participation is broad based, as a participant or spectator.
Activities, Arts, Theater - DRA is well rounded. Your students will have ample opportunities to try new things. Study this dimension of the web site. It's real and substantial.
Therapy - Teens need strong mentoring. Growing up is not easy, and teens are at that crossroads thinking they know everything, yet in reality they know only what they know. These cross roads can result in collisions, and tens of thousands of teens every year need help to keep appropriate perspective as they transition from youth to adulthood. DRA has over a dozen therapists that deal with the variety of issues your teen might have, from addiction to defiance, anger management, to self image or relationship skill building. We participate in family therapy too, and it's helped us to significantly improve our relationship with our son. We went from complete despair and hatred towards us, to the point now where we talk, laugh, and have significant mutual respect for each other. We have our moments, but they are just moments now.
One issue I didn't think about until after our son was in the program was if being surrounded with teens with different problems was a negative. Having discussed this with him, I would say it isn't a big negative. Sure, the new kids are often less desirable to be around because they need to work through the issues that put them there, but the tenured students know just to give them that space until they work it out. In a way, it's a positive, because our Son sees how destructive the path of resistance is, versus a path of earned success that leads to confidence and a rebuilding of his self esteem. He gets to make that compare and contrast weekly, and that isn't all bad.
Governance - DRA is about family, and I mean that literally. The Dias family is deeply involved at the Ranch, and this includes siblings, parents, cousins, and in-laws. This is a great thing. This family is filled with role models, and your teens will soon learn to view them as mentors that care. At DRA this is a business, but first and foremost it is a labor of love. You can count on them to take great care to give your child a firm but fair, but more importantly, a solid experience that will make a difference in your child's life.
Our son did not take off the Summer of 2014 to have fun or start a new job. Rather, he worked at DRA every day on his school work, his mind, his body, and his attitude. In four to six weeks, he will graduate from the program, and graduate from high school a full semester early. A year ago, we were losing confidence he would complete high school. In two weeks, we will be looking for college housing together.
We know the transition back home won't be perfect, and we know our son won't make perfect choices. But, he's now 18 years old, and we have the confidence that he will stop, think, and make a different and/or better choices than he did these last few years. We would not be here if it weren't for DRA. Our wish for you is that you give your child the same chance, and that you have the courage to let go. It's a financial obligation to be certain, and it isn't nirvana, but do you know any teen that finds their current circumstances to be perfect? We don't know any. If you are on the fence, please let go, you are making a courageous choice!
One last thing. I mentioned how much confidence we had in our youth transport service. One evening, after bringing our son home for a weekend visit, I asked how many residential youth boarding schools they support. I was surprised to learn there are literally dozens of possibilities and they have transported to most schools. So, I asked them which was the best, and without hesitation they said Diamond Ranch Academy. Why? The Dias family invests in the facilities, and invest in the kids. They constantly work to evolve their program to be the best it can be. I took great comfort in this answer. After all, they see it all, and they would know.
And, finally (really-this is it), I'll leave you one last thought. I wish I had access to reviews like this that would have helped me make my decision. Perhaps I didn't look hard enough. Notwithstanding, our only motivation in writing this is to help you. We are grateful to DRA, but this review is for you, not them. Good luck.
Diamond Ranch Academy (DRA) has been a life saver for our son and our family. Our son ended 8th grade on a sour note, and then the summer experimenting started. We as parents figured that he was going through a phase, and getting ready for high school. We as parents also thought that we had everything under control and could fix whatever trouble he throws at us. After all the groundings, taking away cell phone, taking away computer, and more chores, we still thought we had it ALL under control.
Then high school started, where we thought he was just getting adjusted to high school, and we kept on top of him to get through his first semester. After making a lot of new friends and getting through his first semester with OK grades, it started to turn after Christmas. Little did we know that behind the scenes, it was all falling apart. The new friends were perhaps not such good friends, and the new found freedom of high school was not such a good thing either.
The start of the second semester is where it all started. We as parents knew something had happened and that incident would be bad for him. But we did not know that it would be that bad. The lying started, the attitude started, the depression, the drug use, and ultimately the flunking out of school. This is when we as parents had to make the "hardest" decision of our parenting life … to send your kid off to boarding school.
Once our decision was final, DRA and their transition partners made the process as smooth as possible. From the pickup, to the delivery process, and the picture of our son arriving at DRA was handled with such care and professionalism. The DRA staff and therapist kept us informed as our son progressed through his first phase, which was the toughest. As parents, that first phone call was really nerve racking, but again the professional therapist and staff made us feel at ease and comfortable.
The DRA staff, therapist, and teachers worked their magic with our son to build up to our first visit, and we couldn't believe how our son had changed in such a short time. The facilities on the DRA campus are very impressive and far exceeded our expectations. Also impressive is the area around the DRA campus, with Zion National park close by for outdoor activities and the local St. George town for shopping and eating.
Our son is due home for his first home visit, and we are looking forward to the changes that he brings and the work in progress we have ahead of us. DRA has done a great job in setting goals for our son and challenging him in all areas.
Stay tuned for more …. (rate 4 stars, cause we're not finished yet!}
You may be reading this review because you are the parent going through a difficult time with your child. I am truly sorry. I know what you are experiencing right now. If you are looking for hope, read on...
Discovery and Recovery...
We were in a serious situation with our 14 year old son who was making very bad decisions that included drug abuse. After going through years of the same thing with his older brother, we decided to take a different approach than we did with him as we had determined that outpatient and short-term inpatient rehab programs are not always effective for teenagers. After researching different options and doing a lot of praying, we decided to send him to Diamond Ranch Academy. We thought their program would give him the best chance at recovery and healing. It turned out to be one of the best decisions we ever made.
More to the Story...
My son had always had an interest in drawing graffiti and would dabble in it here and there. Realizing that he better make the best of his time at DRA (and to make his time go faster), he joined the art club. This turned out to be a life changing decision for him. During art club, he worked closely with the art director who began teaching him the skills needed to draw portraits. On our regular phone calls and in his letters home, he would tell us about his art. Honestly, I didn't think much about it after thinking back to the graffiti he had drawn on his bedroom furniture. I was satisfied that he was making good use of his time and seemed happy to be involved in the art club. Soon thereafter, he delighted in telling us that his art teacher actually said he had talent.
First Visit…
Our first visit to DRA was upon us and we were so anxious to see him and the art work he had told about for the past several weeks. The art director met with us and showed us the art room and some of the amazing work his students were doing. He then guided us to the cafeteria where on the walls my son's work had been framed and was hanging. We could hardly believe our eyes! My son had produced work that a serious artist with many years of experience would be proud of. His journey didn't end there. The art director went out of his way to get my son's work entered into contests and festivals. On our next visit, my son participated in a chalk art festival for which his team took first place. The art director at DRA is a talented artist and an amazing inspiration to young artists!
Homeward Bound...
My son's sudden strong interest and talent in art helped us decide to enroll him in a local charter school for the arts after his return home. I am proud to say that he successfully finished grade 10 last year which I believe would not have happened had it not been for DRA. For those who don't know much about drug use and addiction, the terrifying part about the recovery process is relapse. The bottom line is, no matter how much I wish it wasn't true, relapse is part of recovery! However, the way in which the addict deals with a relapse is paramount.
It's a Process…
As expected, my son experienced two relapses during grade 10. Fortunately, he bounced back from those with the positive energy and hope that he learned at DRA. Over the summer, he relapsed a third time. Unfortunately, he took a far different turn. Same friends, same environment, same drugs, different conclusion. He was unreachable again. So, we packed him up and sent him back to DRA for a 30 day 'refresher'. Spending nearly all his time again with the art director, in NA meetings and with his counselor, he quickly turned the corner and was back on track. He has since returned home, far stronger and more committed to his recovery than before. We are at the beginning of grade 11 at the art school, with high hopes and expectations that grade 11 will be an even better year for him and for our family.
I highly recommend DRA to families in crisis! The program is strong and the staff truly cares about these kids! The program works. If your family is faced with similar a situation and you and your child are crying out for help, DRA could be the place where you, your child and your family find recovery, healing, and peace.
All the best to you!
Diamond Ranch is great