The site, and all adult "sex' websites, are owned by a few huge corporations such as Adult Friend Finder. For instance:

AdultFriendFinder.com
Alt.com
BDSM Date.com
Meet BDSM.com
BDSM.com. And countless others. You might wonder why they have so many sites. They want you to think that you need to belong to more than one site to get the best results. Then you notice that your mail on Alt.com is always the same as the mail on Meet BDSM.com. The sites are linked.

These sites specialize at milking you for your cash in return for cheap illusions and zero outcome.

In my 6 months on sites like these, I have been contacted by hundreds of hyper-hot females. Virtually none of them were "verified", a quick-and-easy process to confirm that they are not fakes. I always ask for this; they rarely agree. Notably, they *never* follow through.

These sites actively encourage attractive females to contact you. There is always cash changing hands in the form of gifts, points to receive messages, points to send messages, etc. And the membership cost, of course. The sites benefit by having scammers there; without them, the site would be full of boring, ugly females you wouldn't touch with three paper bags.

The goal of the fakers is either to innocently ask you to send them money so they can travel to see you. Or they might just be trying to seek personal approval, even if they are lying. The huge number of male homosexuals on these sites are obviously titillated by having you fawn over them, even though they are not females.

The sites all have a "report" or "block" feature, but this makes you their policeman. Besides, the websites really don't want to get rid of the scammers because, frankly, they benefit from the sexy images being posted, and the lies. Without the fakes, these sites would feel like trying to get a date at Walmart.

All of the photos are stolen from the internet. The profiles are chock-full of AI-robotic nonsense. The come-ons are idiotic. They promise to do anything for you. Does anyone really imagine that they are so attractive as to bring about a valid response from a playboy model? They call us "marks" for a reason -- we're fools with money and no common sense.

How bad is it? This is what I now know that you cannot possibly expect when you arrive through the sexy click-bait ads online:

- A large portion of the beautiful "girls" are male homosexuals, some of them writing from prison cells. Don't ask me how.

- Most others are from foreign countries, posing as US citizens. They have even discovered a way to buy or lease US phone numbers. So if you ask for them to get into an external call, they will provide you what appears to be absolute proof that they are American females. But they will never actually talk on the phone. Their texts will only be occasional. They will also never attend a video call, even secure one Google Meet. Etc)

- The sites often include lurid "live sex" so you can masturbate to a hot female. This is as close as you'll ever get to a relationship. Well at least you know you're "special".

These sites could eliminate most fakes by using their own protective 'bots. Instead, it looks that the sites are themselves generating many of the fake profiles, or coaching hustlers on how to make a living by lying to the public.

I hope my experience can fore-arm you against the "sex" site hustle online. Cancel your memberships to all of these sites. Complain to congress and to the police. Participate in class-action lawsuits to shut these criminals down. Don't let them treat you like a dummy.

Was trying to get a gold membership, which is $24, but they try to charge me $64, DO NOT PAY! SCAM

I had had a free ("Standard") account on AFF for years, just as a kind of timewaster. December of2023 I bit the bullet and paid for a "Gold" membership". I used a $30 store gift card to buy a month's worth of Gold membership which was supposed to cost $27.99 and AFF took the whole $30. I also think they shorted me a day on the month's worth. A Gold membership is supposed to let send and receive messages to/from other Gold members, but when I started keeping track I found that less than a third of women on the site were Gold members, maybe only a quarter. Gold membership also lets you send messages to Standard (free) members, but it was never clear to me whether they could reply. AFF sells a "Standard Contacts" package (for $35 per month) which is supposed to allow Standard members to send unsolicited messages to you, essentially doubling the cost of a paid membership.
Of the two dozen or so women Gold members to whom I sent messages, only 2 or 3 bothered to reply, and then only to tell me (politely) that they weren't interested. I received "auto-reply" messages from a couple of them telling me that they would get back to me when they got a chance. I did have one nice conversation with a woman outside my search radius, but that's all it was. Several women did contact me who clearly were scammers of some sort, one who really wanted me to send her my cell number.
AFF profiles indicate when a member joined and his/her last login. I noticed a substantial number of women's profiles which had not been logged into since the day they were put up months or years earlier. They had either found someone that quick, or had soured on the AFF experience that quick.
I also noticed that anomalous clusters of women listed certain small towns as their location. It does not surprise me that there are female AFF members in small towns, maybe even two in a town of less than 1000 population, but when there is 3 or 4, I'm betting that at least one is a fake of some sort.
I decided not to renew my Gold membership, and, sure enough, the day it expired, I got a bunch of messages, including one from one of the auto-reply ladies.
It may be possible, were I patient enough, that I could meet an interesting woman through AFF, but I am no longer willing to pay for the privilege. AFF may not be a scam, but it's probably a waste of your time and money.

I have been on AdultFriendFinder(AFF) for over 6 months now, and I haven't met one single person in real life. Why?

Because profiles on AFF are (For the most part) one of the following:

1. Bots (50%) - These are the profiles with only one picture. These profiles are artificially generated by AFF in order to claim they have so many subscribers. The people on those profiles don't exist.

2. Scammers (20%) - These are the profiles with 2 or 3 low quality pics or pictures with model-looking women.

*They will try to get you to chat with them via Google Chat or Telegram. Why? Because they want to get your email.
*When you ask them for their Kik name, they will always say they don't use Kik and refer you back to using Google Chat or Telegram.
*If they give you their actual phone number, you will notice that the area code is from another state. When you try calling them, they will never pickup and make all sorts of excuses. You will never hear their voice, nor will they ever face-time with you.
*If you give them your phone number, they will start texting you to get other personal information such as your address, age, full-name, the type car you drive, etc.
*Once they have your full name, email and phone number, they will break into your email account, try to find your credentials to get to your bank accounts, and commit identity theft. Thus, never give your real name, phone number or email to anyone on this site, or any other confidential information.

3. Streamers (10%) - These are the girls with lots of professionally made pics and videos. They will never meet you in real life. They just want you to subscribe to their only-fans website for a monthly fee.

4. Exhibitionists (10%) - They are real women who just want their naughty videos and pics to be shown publicly. They use AFF as an alternative to my-only-fans channel to feed their ego. They don't want to meet anyone in real life.

Now comes the real danger to this site:

5. Psychopaths (5%) - These are mentally-ill, mean-spirited individuals, who actually want to meet up with you in real life to do some type of physical harm to you.

Scenario 1: They will use the actual girl in the pics as bait. She will try to get you to meet her (Typically on the second or third date) in a far-off location outside the city limits where your phone won't have signal. Yes, she and her partners are serial killers. Don't fall for it. Why is AdultFriendFinder a platform that supports criminal activity?

Scenario 2: The girl in the pic, will ask you to meet in complete darkness at a random house (no talking allowed, no cellphone allowed). As you enter the house, she will blindfold you so you won't see her face. She will then take you to her bedroom, get you naked, and tie you up to the bed. Once you are completely defenseless and vulnerable, she will leave. 20 or 30 minutes later, the cops will show up and you will be charged with property trespass, burglary, or homicide. Yes, it's a total set-up and you are their stupid pray. Don't fall for it. Why is AdultFriendFinder a platform that supports criminal activity?

Scenario 3: The girl in the pic is not really who she says she is. Again, she will ask you to meet in complete darkness at a random house (no talking allowed, no cellphone allowed). As you enter the house, she will blindfold or just take you to the bedroom in complete darkness, so you won't see what she actually looks like. In the bedroom, she will get you naked and do oral to you. She won't allow you to talk or touch her for good 45 minutes. At some point, sadly you will learn that she is not a girl, it's a transexual or just a guy cross-dressed that has been sucking your balls. This is called "sexual assault". When you confront him, the guy can turn really violent. Don't fall for it. Why is AdultFriendFinder a platform that supports criminal activity?

These are just 3 scenarios of many possibilities.

6. Grannies (5%) - These are real women (Between 58 and 85) who actually want to meet up with you in real life to have sex.

In Summary: If what you want is to talk to Bots (50%), have Scammers (20%) break into you bank account or steal your identity, subscribe to a Streamer's (10%) only-fans website, watch the videos or pics of Exhibitionist (10%), be a victim (be murdered, be sexually assaulted or be charged with someone else's crime) of a sick Psychopath (5%), or you just want to have sex with old Grannies (5%); then, Adult Friend Finder is definitely for you.

You are probably wondering, well, why does Adult Friend have so many positive reviews? Because many of those "positive" reviews are artificially generated by AdultFriendFinder, otherwise they would be out of business.

Disclaimer: This is an honest review from a real live breathing person. Nobody (institution or private individual) is paying me to write this review. Nor am I getting any benefits (such as products or services) from anyone to write this review. This review is based on what I have learned from my interactions with the people behind the profiles at AdultFriendFinder over the course of the past 6 months.

I spent a month on AFF and spent alot of time on the site. The following is my experience. I was searching and texting with female profiles. 30% are hard core swingers looking for the same with who I had no lnteraction with. I texted and chatted with approximate 25 other female profiles. 2 were hookers, 1 ran her own escort service. The remainder were scammers and swindlers for money. I texted and then communicated with all of them off the site and the common theme in all was hooking me for money.
I also noticed about week three that it appeared that the same person was behind 4 or 5 profiles. They were written exactly the same with a different photo on each. Also of note, the conversation pattern was the same but wasnt a bot. With two of the scammers I was able to turn it around and broke through the BS narrative with a two scammers and actually convinced them to chat on snap. No surprise they weren't the women in the photo. One was a Vietnamese woman, the other Russian. Both could hardly speak english. I also spoke off site with another woman who I would award an oscar to for best con artist performance. In most cases they were relentless in begging me for money. It was worse than some eastern european gypsies Ive encountered. I chatted with another beautiful picture and we agreed to speak on the phone. Turned out to be a Filipino tranny (omg). I also tried out the live model video/chat. The models were for the most part incredibly beautiful. However, the cost of the shows are truly a rip-off. If your not very very careful, you can run up $600 in 20 minutes watching a girl put on a live show. I would call it malicious extortion. My card was double charged. Ok, there you have it, my experience on AFF. In retrospect, a complete an utter waste of time and money. Can I get a refund? I gave the site 2 stars because the of the swinger side of the site. If your a swinger, give it a try, you might hook up with someone, idk. Otherwise, dont waste your time on AFF. Gents, your better off spending a couple hours and a couple hundred dollars at your local strip club. You will at least get something in return for your money. BTW, sitejabber weighs the credibility of my comments with attached evidence or proof of purchase. Well, unless you want an official police report, you have to take my word for it. Guys, just go to the titty bar.

Lots of fake accounts! And the accounts which are verified tend to be women who don't really want to hookup. A lot of them act like they're interested, may chat for a day or two, then disappear. That's because they either want information from you, especially the ones that seem to want a steady monogamous relationship. Some just want to make money from streaming, some are only there for attention, or some are dudes pretending to be women. That leads into the other problem; this site doesn't filter straight men out from gay men, so if you are straight, you will receive non-stop notifications from gay men liking your content and messaging you. And then you will receive messages from "ambassadors" trying to keep you on the site, since they are generally women who have the pick of the liter, who don't want to hookup with you. Or you'll receive messages from someone complimenting you, acting like they want to be your friend, and after a month or so, you'll find out they are an ambassador, and they weren't genuinely interested in a "friendship", they work for the site (Even though they say they don't work for the site. It's the same thing.). These above people are disgusting, because they are preying on some people who may already be down on their luck, relationship-wise and sexually.

How do I know it's this site and not me? Because I have the same pics and videos of me banging other women on a different site which has less users, and I get a lot more responses from women wanting to meet, and have met 14 women since March of 2021 (it's now November 2021). And this site doesn't make my profile visible to men, so I don't have to deal with the annoying onslaught of PMs from gays who then get mad when I call them out for not reading my profile to see that I'm straight. I've been pro-gay rights since the 2000s, well before it became the issue to virtue-signal about on social media, but AFF makes me strongly dislike gays. I don't bother women who say they're not interested in men. I usually just leave their profile or block them to prevent myself from accidentally annoying them in the future.

The trouble with this other site is that most of the women live over 3 hours away, and the ones within this range are only here to make money off of their private media, only here to play games, prostitutes, or men pretending to be women so they can chat with other men who otherwise wouldn't talk to them. I decided to use AFF to find something close to home, but that was a failure.

AdultFriendFinder (AFF) is a failing site and it's very frustrating. It's also very clunky, very cryptic to use for new people. The only thing they might have going for them is the structure of their live streams, but most are Columbian cam girls who have their location set to somewhere in the US, typically NYC, and have no intentions of meeting anyone. They just want tips. Don't waste your time or money.

My wife and I have been on AFF for about 12 years. In that time it's changed hands a few times and there has been little to no improvement on the site. Depending on what you're looking for, the site used to be either a boom or a bust. My wife is not into real life action, so we weren't looking to hook up. She prefers to appear on cam and watch guys enjoy her show. When we first started on the site, our pix and videos would get thousands of views in a few weeks and at least 1/8th of those views would like our posts as well. But these days, the views take a few weeks to just get to a few hundred. Camming seems to be a lot less popular, and that makes sense given things like chaturbate and the like. Most of the guys we encounter now ONLY want to hook up which is why we're probably leaving the site when our year long subscription ends in October.

There's also a LOT of stuff that is broken on the site. As far as I can tell, they have a stop/start approach to site development. You'll see an old feature disappear, or a new one appear, and then things switch back, or possibly go back and forth between old and new. One example I can think of is the list of member videos. Most of the time, it's the same old tired interface, but it works... Every once in a while a newer version of the interface appears that feels more modern (collapsing search), but it's anyone's guess when and why it ever shows up.

Another example of broken is the notifications. In the past if you had a notification in the bottom left on a PC web browser that said, "User X commented on your video 'Wife Plays'" you could click on it and your video would play in an overlay with the latest comment showing. Now, if you click that, it just takes you back to the AFF home page.

Camming is broken. You used to be able to turn on your came and go into private mode so you could select who you wanted to cam with. Now, you're either on display for all members, or your off and can't interact with anyone or try to get a one-on-one cam session going.

IM is broken. This was probably a design decision on their part, but it sucks. I used to use chat to trade pix with friends from my local PC. Now, you can only trade pix from your galleries on AFF and if you have a LOT of galleries, you can't scroll through them, so you're stuck only seeing a few of your galleries to choose photos to share. Why share from your galleries when users can already see them?

It looks like they also are trying to develop the mobile version of their site more and maybe that's causing some of the breakage. However, today (3/31/2021) is definitely a bad day for them. I can't log in, and as far as I can tell, no one else can either. I think they must have screwed up their authentication mechanism.

AS much as I'll miss the old community that used to exist on AFF, I am looking to other sites. The most promising is essentially free and provides a lot of the same things we liked on AFF. It's called zoig.com and a friend from another site turned me on to it. Might be worth checking out as AFF seems to be imploding. It's possible AFF might come out of the other side of this as a better site, but I'm not betting on it.

I joined AFF 4 months ago as a standard member. Within that time, I gained 25 Top Fans and became top 50 in my Province (in Canada) > This is a significant feat to accomplish in such a short time and for someone who never cammed. Unfortunately also throughout this time, I was harassed by 2 trolls primarily: One in the Regular 'Outer' Chat Rooms, and another in my Province Chat room. I avoided the harassment from the Outer Rooms Troll by creating my own Group Room. However, in my Province Chat room-- one troll is essentially a very experienced and successful Cyber Terrorist. According to the regular long-timers in that Room, this troll has been plaguing the Chat Room there under HUNDREDS of aliases of every gender, age, orientation, race, and even as a couple over the LAST 15 YEARS. I didn't believe it at first. I befriended the Troll because I thought she was being kind and welcoming to me all the time. I even put some members in that Chat Room under "Ignore" because I believed the Troll over them. But then i started noticing how it would lie to people about it's own Original identity, and disclose private information about people to attack them. Once I realized her true malicious nature, I apologized to those I had put on Ignore and became vigilant about her catphishing methods: Welcoming unsuspecting males with means into the room, asking them to buy her things. But it got worse. This cyber terrorist would incite people to react, then report them for defending themselves. Somehow managing to get at least 4 people banned in the last few weeks. I have reported this Cyber Terrorist for divulging private information (on New Years day, i took screen shots of it divulging peoples Real First/Last Names, as well as talk about their children, insult people based on her prior knowledge of their medical conditions, divulge details about ppl's place of work, etc.), but AFF let this cyber terrorist remain under that handle for a full month before banning that profile. This Cyber Terrorist was copy/pasting parts of my Profile and fabricating lies for the purpose of defamation and causing drama/animosities between myself and others. It started imitating my signature words and phrases, then started pretending to be me! - Mimicking the stories I had shared while having genuine conversations with friends in the Chat Rooms. It gaslights people, accuses them of what SHE had in fact done to them, and even tried to accuse me of being its own original handle! Dozens of us are able to recognize this troll under her multiple handles, and I/we have identified over 11 alt profiles of this Cyber Terrorist Troll just in the last 4 months that I have been on the site. Over 40 people have been attacked by this troll that i have seen in just the last 4 months! I reported all this to AFF, but they did nothing. Over 20 reports I sent in about this direct harassment, inciting drama, creating animosities, trolling, stalking and bullying me. Even though AFF has multiple reports with evidence of Terms of Use violations by this Cyber Terrorist, they allow it to continue to harass and abuse and catphish and manipulate people in the Chat Rooms. No one can say anything when that Troll/Cyber Terrorist is in the room, because it is very successful at getting people banned, AND because if we say anything interesting about our own lives, IT ends up copycatting what we say in its next fake identity! Adult Friend Finder allows this Identity Thief to flourish on their site. Adult Friend Finder says they can't stop the Cyber Terrorist from just making another profile. Apparently, they aren't equipped to track this Cyber Terrorist's IP address. In the meantime, they enable the Cyber Terrorist to continue terrorizing people on that site under multiple handles. Adult Friend Finder permits this Cyber Terrorist to disclose Personally Identifiable Information of other Members, and aids and abets this Cyber Terrorist's abuse by heeding its demands to ban those who have the courage and integrity to stand up to it.

Today I was wrongfully banned for 365 days due to standing up for myself against this Cyber Terrorist. Despite being governed by FOIPP in Canada, Adult Friend Finder refused to tell me what I had done wrong, stating that I needed to provide them with a subpoena to learn that! How ridiculous!

Not only is Adult Friend Finder incompetent at protecting the privacy and inalienable rights to liberty and pursuit of happiness for reputable and productive members on their site, but they are aiding and abetting this Cyber Terrorist to continue victimizing people, by allowing it to get people banned through using countless false profiles.

I have informed my Top Fans in my personal contacts to demand refunds of any points they gave me. I am also demanding refund of payment for the Gold Account that I have until April 5,2021. I will also be suing due to loss of access to my Intellectual Property through my blogs and Group Room design.

The Adult Friend Finder website is extremely outdated and glitchy - every component freezes and makes formatting errors, etc. Despite these site obstacles, I was able to make many wonderful connections, which I have now lost contact with due to this wrongful 'set up' ban. Adult Friend Finder's complicity with aiding a Cyber Terrorist on their site is absolutely the last straw. Not only do they fail to protect and safeguard bona fide attractive and popular women from trolls on their site, but they have essentially enabled this Cyber Terrorist to hold an entire Chat Room hostage under threat of ban, so that it can continue to catphish members. Adult Friend Finder further victimizes the Victims by penalizing/banning them for defending themselves, while siding with and further empowering the Cyber Terrorist Perpetrator. This is criminally incompetent of Adult Friend Finder in every regard!

Based on my experience with Adult Friend Finder, here is my advice:
Do not give Adult Friend Finder any money.
If you have already, then demand a full refund.
For those who told me they only bought a Gold account in order to be able to talk with me, I am so sorry this happened. Please demand a refund from this incompetent and Troll enabled site.

Hopefully we will find another site to reconnect that is actually moderated safely!

Products purchased: 1 month + 3 month Gold Membership gifted to me as a Gift Certificate from a friend.

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Probably 10 years ago this site was worth while. Back then you could contact and talk to people in instant message without paying, but bit by bit the site became greedier and greedier and they eventually made it so you could only im 10 people a day and later it became 3. They now made it so only paying members can im. Even when you buy points to im women or anyone they never receive your messages. Yet it still costs points.

As for the people most of them are fake not bots or scammers but not serious about meeting anyone. This has to do with location of course, but even when you read profiles couples will say they are tired of fakes.

The only good thing about the site is the live member cams. You can watch any cam that is not buzz for free. Just will have a click to pay broadcast button on the middle. But most times its not in the way. Sadly even cams are becoming scams, where women and couples want tips to do anything on cam, or buzzed for money tips to see their camera. Its pathetic how many people rely on aff to pay their bills. I should mention that even webcams crash allot or people are disconnected, or they lose their sound. Another normal occurrence is some troll spams someones webcam until it crashes!

Oh and anyone who gives this site a positive review is totally full of $#*!. This site is terrible. For the amount of money it makes weekly they should have the best technology on a website, instead im never works yet still costs, emails half the time are not sent or received. And if you some miracle have im work the other person your chatting to keeps losing connection and disconnecting, or when you try to send a picture that doesnt work either. If someone thinks this site is good then they are paid reviewer or some stupid guy who doesnt use any of the features on the website, because even pay members complain about the same issues i have mentioned.

The site worked great 10 years ago, as well so.did.other sites, but since then everything is greed and no longer works even when you pay. Plenty of fish is just as bad, as well as fling and other hookup sites. They all have fake profiles where women contact you, but you can't view the message till you pay, and half the time it's the same message from two different profiles, not to mention really late at night, and if you reply right back no reply back at all.