Whenever a lady looks at my profile on Oasis, and I follow up by looking at hers, I get the message "this member does not want to be contacted": I was a bit upset at first, as I was only following up on the nice ladies, but soon realized that even if I did the same with the most unattractive/uninteresting/incomptatible ladies, it still came up, when some of them looked like they would have any man, so clearly this is some sort of standard mesage if she hasn't pressed like?!