Here is our SLS story. We paid lifetime membership and were fairly happy with the site. We had a house party and a few days before we sent out a reminder with the address, event and details to friends and friends of friends. It was the same info over and over so I copied and pasted it. Bam! SLS banned and deleted my account for "spamming"! They are a ghost so you cannot contact them. If they had read my email and all the emails coming back thanking us for the party invite they would have realized that we were doing what good swingers do which is get others together. Our advice to anyone is use the site but NEVER pay for it. Use it to make the connection and communicate and share elsewhere. That is what we will be doing.