As far as online dating goes this is the best site I have ever paid for. I am an older man at 61 yrs. If you want to meet a lady around 40 and over you might expect many have grown up children and are divorced. There is a smaller choice if like me you have never married and want the same in your partner. You might find it difficult to stick to that rule as there are some attractive ladies on this site who offer intelligent conversation and seem like good fun but have one or two children. What you have to think about is the time you have to keep a number of conversations running and whether that is really productive and not too emotionally draining. After all you want someone special not anyone. I decided to focus on one or two women at at time. I dont like this approach but some these women literally disappear without a word after a number of contacts. After repeated contacts do this it can be a heart breaker. However as Elena says you must give it time and persist. I found it hard to think I could pack up and leave my family, friends and country to go to Russia or the Ukraine. It is likely to be the same for them too, especially as the women often care for their parents or relatives. I think when things get a bit serious they might panic or see the reality of the situation. You need to think deeply before falling in love only to find your loved one cant leave and neither can you. Best of luck to you on this genuine website. If like me you are an average looking guy you will get some responses, and I imagine if you are young and good looking you will find plenty of interest on this website.