I like the format and many things about this site(WAY BETTER than Match.com), BUT to actually talk to anyone, or see the messages people have sent to you, you have to pay. So it is not really a free dating website(although it is A LOT cheaper than Match.com). There are extras they offer as well, that I didn't think were worth paying for, but if you want to find someone and go on dates, you uh, need to be able to message back and forth with them! (which you have to pay for).