Like many of the negative reviews, I have also noticed Melanie has a very obnoxious, cruel side. I signed up for her services long before she blew up and had a few direct interactions with her (nowadays you can't even get her one-on-one unless you pay out your $#*!) so I know this of her directly. Cruel, petty comments. She's the most important person in the room, better not challenge her. If she's so "strong" from healing, she should put up with a little questioning. What she wants for herself, she doesn't even want for her clients. For example, if she's happy she's not afraid of speaking up anymore, shouldn't she want that for her clients? Except they ALL get gagged if she perceives them puttiing her down. It's too bad - Her ego seems to have gotten in her way. I even got an older negative review removed from here by them, God knows how. They're manipulative and don't like people speaking their truth about them if they aren't squeaky clean, which they aren't. I think she's gotten too big for her britches too. At the end of the day, I look at a person and how they treat me and others. And when I look at that, I don't see Melanie Tonia Evans as healed. I see that her unresolved trauma makes her think everyone who critisizes her (even constructively) is a narc and her unresolved trauma makes her mean. So I don't think she's worked it all out. At all. AAANd now her little mignions will be after me *sigh*
Hi Kate, I publically interact one on one on all my social platforms including in the NARP Forum and my blog, in detail for many hours a day, and love doing so for free.
It’s clear what my levels of exchange and compassion are for individuals who have experienced the awful trauma of narcissistic abuse, and where they are at at certain stages of their journey.
Like so many of us, I have deeply been there myself.
Having said that, as part of being a recovered victim and now a Thriver I uphold my boundaries and do not tolerate abuse, or pandering to people using the efforts of support staff and others, when not willing to do the inner work - and then blaming other people for their wounds.
As was your case it was defined after numerous attempts to guide you to do the inner reflection, ownership and work, that you were no longer a fit for our community or healing methods - which are all these things.
And that’s totally okay, and it’s your choice.
I wish you the passage of finding exactly what it is that will work for you and I hope with all my heart that it grants you the healing, peace and resolution that every human being deserves.
Much love to you
Melanie xx