Julia O.

I'm a latina in her mid-20's. I am fit, pretty, smart, and most of all, real. And in real need for money (aren't we all?). So I saw a chance to make an extra buck on this site since most guys I meet (eg on tinder) only ever treat me nicely (I mean, taking me to an actual date), and just want to use me for one reason (given that I'm pretty, friendly and fit, they get quick ideas) after a few beers (that sometimes I pay for myself).

You see, women in general expect an encounter to grow into something meaninful. We do.
Guys don't. Most expect an encounter to grow into physical relations and nothing else.
Given this environment, it's only logical for attractive women to start dating smart.

I've been on the site for many, many months before my first date.
98% of the guys there make an offer, you accept, and they never ever reply, or reply a few times and forget about it, or on WhatsApp/Kik you talk a bit and then they back off. Just like in real life. Paying or not, men always have this disappearing attitude.

So anyway, I had my first date. Finally. I actually liked to talk to him before the date, he seemed nice and lonely so I kinda felt for him and wanted to make him happier on our date, which was pretty simple one: dinner at a medium-cost japanese (didn't want him to think I was using him to go to an expensive place) and later a drink at an Irish bar. I enjoyed talking to him, truly, even though I have to admit he was a bit weird (he said to be a little autistic and apologized) and was always defensive and paranoid about women using him. I thought "well, you didn't contact me because I'm ugly, and if you're paranoic about being used, why do you even sign up?".
But I was all the friendly I could to him, and even rejected his comments of "oh, I could pay this for you, I could give you money", blabla. I don't want to be seen as that kind of woman, although I could -really, really- use the help.

So in the end he walked me home (not without first saying "Oh you don't want me to see where you live, right?" when I suggested a shortcut for his way back... and I was only thinking of his safe return home, silly girl).

So, I would like to see him again mostly so that he's not so lonely in my city, but he's so defensive that it scares me a little.

I am totally real, I use the website (or try to) and I think for most guys I'd be a dream girl, I just don't seem to find that one guy that has an open, kind heart and also understands my situation as a struggling student.

So there you go. Go for real girls who are willing to meet and don't play games. The ones who will gladly accept that first date money (because I'm sure they need it and you can give it to her so why not? It'll make her life just a little bit easier) and behave like an open lady.

Stop whinning so much about scammers, just don't let anyone do that to you. Meet as soon as you can, see that she's good and interested, and move on with it.