John B.

I was a 35 year old virgin, and not the stereotype. Won "best looking" in HS, captain of the college swim team, working at NASA (seriously)… but my childhood girlfriend (later fiancé) wanted to wait till marriage, and so i hadn't had much choice as i loved her. When she was pregnant 5 months before the wedding, i was stranded a virgin for YEARS. Absolutely no girl would date me after she found that out. Many got violent, even. But constant offers to hookup, which i declined. I wasn't a toy. And after all that i'd been through… it seemed a gift someone would value. My ace in the hole. Wrong.

Finally i met a girl on christian mingle. A church worship leader. Gorgeous, divorced, no kids, and didn't mind that i hadn't been with anyone. Perfect. 7 months we dated and i'd already called home for the box of jewelry that tradition held I should design her ring from. After 7 months we finally slept together. She'd convinced me she wasn't going to do what i feared most. A hit and run after years of turning down hookups.

Sure enough, the next morning as I drove home, she texted me and dumped me. She was at her fiancé‘s apartment already. Turned out she was engaged, but had"f*** a virgin" on her bucket list, and I was just the cutest one she'd ever met. She threaten the police if I ever returned. I wentto the police myself and reported "rape by coercion", a thing in texas where typically a boy promises a girl marriage and rainbows, has sex with her, then dumps her in the side of the road. No different here. But…they laughed at me and kicked me out the pricinct. I went home and hung myself. Unsuccessfully, obviously. But, there's always next time.

*photos show the profile, and the church program i found online later with her real last name, showing her and her dude at a whole other church