First of all, the place is a mess interface-wise. Cluttered ugly pages that take forever to load. Crashes often. Just unpleasant to navigate.
As for the content - it's essentially a 'personal ads' site that facilitates conmen and women in the fleecing of decent citizens. Make no mistake - these people are usually locked up for a reason. Don't fall for their sob stories. Many (not ALL of course) of these inmates prey on well-meaning, vulnerable individuals to get whatever they can out of them. Money, a connection on the outside, a future place to crash - or in my case - someone to talk dirty to. I was NOT seeking a love interest or even a penpal on here. I was just looking for a random inmate (before i got wise to it all) to give my extra jpay stamps to after ending communication with an incarcerated loved one (who I KNEW on the ‘outside' first). Long story short, I ended up getting sucked into a very bad situation. After talking for a few weeks, I realized the man I was corresponding with was a violent sociopath and white nationalist who had no remorse for his crimes. He became obsessed with me and started sending a dozen messages a day. Thankfully I was able to cut all ties before giving him any identifying info.
But other women (and men who fall for women on here) probably aren't so lucky. I have a few tips to share from my experience -
- Be wary if they start with the ‘I love yous' right away. A huge red flag. They either want money or they have some type of mental issue.
- This one is for the ladies - Don't EVER send suggestive photos. These men use pictures of wives, gfs, and even penpals as currency. Your image WILL be passed around sooner or later. And even if you trust your man, the pic could be stolen. If you *must* do it - crop your face or any identifying features out. Unless you don't mind. I'm not judging lol.
- This is an obvious one, but of course it raises suspicions if they start asking for money and gifts. Now it IS rough in there and I've given money to my family member quite a few times - but I knew him BEFORE he got locked up. These WAP people are strangers.
The forum is hit or miss, but too often a miss. TBF there are a few resident posters here who give amazing advice in a really chill non-judgmental way, but THEN there are posters like TAURUS who are arrogant and condescending. This rude ass apparently has no life, because they remembered details about something I posted and deleted MONTHS ago only to use it against me recently in the public forum. Just really nasty and uncalled for. This moron also tried making me feel bad for seeking advice on the site, like I had no right to do so. Well why does ANYONE post here then? I felt so creeped out by this person.
The forum is also clogged with delusional post-menopausal women who believe their MWI relationships are anything other than dudes using them for money or easy sex talk. I've spied in on their little echo chamber and it's almost fascinating. Of course it's quite sad, but at the same time you marvel at how these women could be so gullible. One attention wh*re poster hijacks threads on a daily basis with her pitiful humblebragging about any 'attention' she gets from her inmate 'bf'. You can almost smell the desperation through the screen. You huff convict farts. We get it.
This site is basically a front for criminal activity, exploiting vulnerable men and women, and should be shut down. The forum sucks hairy *******@ss and the people are - for the most part - cranky and unsupportive.
I DO appreciate that the site removes all of your content when you delete your account, but this was still a 1 star experience.