I have been on POF for two years and 90 to 95% of men that will either contact you or reply to your message are looking for nothing! Many of them easily give their phone number, then they will only text you or talk to you once and never call you back. Often, they will plan a date with you, and then they will disappear. They won't even reply messages, and you will never meet them. Ladies, be aware! A LOT OF bul##it on this dating online website. Do not lose your time... after a little talk, ask them to meet with you. If they don't do it asap, move on, otherwise you are going for a lot of disappointments! I tried to figure out why it is this way, but unfortunately I do not have a crystal ball to answer this question and know who is the right fish. You need a lot of perseverance to meet a good guy (among the 5% left) and you are not sure that they will be some kind of chemistry between the two of you. I have been often frustrated to spend so much time and energy in searching for the right person, to just ending up to talk to a lot of losers, than I recommend that you try another online dating website.or don't be picky and may be you will get lucky!