Donn H.

I didn't do it on purpose but with returning a rental car, getting to a bank, taking a test ride, waiting on the lone sales person as he answered phones and dealt with other customers, I spent nearly 6-7 hours with Ashkon Bahal of Bahal Motors before buying a 2011 BMW Z-4 for $19,995. The car Blue Booked at over $22K, it was spotless, Ashkon knew all about the car, tires were brand new, and when I needed to put it on a credit card and the charge was 3.5% from the bank, he said, 'Ok, cool, let's, split it,' and we did. All day I watched him deal fairly with everyone, and at down times he would let me in on his philosophy of sales. Ashkon is about 30, maybe 32, the son of the original owner, I think, his Dad was around a bit but Ashkon handled the bulk of the work. A hell of a nice guy and ethical and skilled at his work. I have had the car for 10 months now and it has been flawless, a dream to drive, and I want to give credit where it's due - I saw the man in action with dozens of people and felt confident I was buying from a man who cared and it all played out as I expected.

SA can be the real thing; I would say after a few years on the site and numerous meet-ups, a few relationships and numerous contacts with SA "support" that they try really hard, too hard maybe and they're over-controlling with men and letting a large number of pay-per-meet females dominate the roster. The girls ask for $300-$500 just for a dinner date if they'll do it at all, most are not interested in anything other than a big ticket hotel room meet-up, usually offering themselves at $800-$1000 before they even know what you want, and they have it timed to the minute at one or two hours, which amounts to illegal pay-for-sex and I took a stand and wouldn't do that, and eventually left the site as that conflict dominated the interactions and they were not shy about it. Expensive, inconsistent, management is arrogant - with all of that there are real Sugar Babies on there, some are exquisite, and some keep up the communication and actually meet, and they're eager to have sex so the money starts to flow and maybe they're juggling 2-3 guys and you get some cancellations which are obviously for more lucrative clients. Those are from the girls who are trying to do it right.Here are signs of a true scammer: maybe 10-15% of the girls: only one photo with face not clear; wants age range of men from 30-60+ or 50-60+ even though they're 28 or 30; they want to get off the site and into personal texting right away so that there's no "official" record; they often need to pay a baby sitter, get gas for their car, get their hair done for you, refill their asthma medicine... quite a few play at being deaf so no phone calls are possible. So in conclusion - complicated like the world. Don't want to put down the really cool women who know what a SD/SB gig should be and really care and do it right, but it's nearly impossible to control the abuses and management is rightfully concerned with predatory men so the rest of the problems get worse.

These search sites get low ratings because people using them are usually upset and often trying to get info on scammers. I have used most of them and they can be pushy, misleading and have worthless info. I can tell when I search for myself how accurate they are and they are often way off, specifically on people associated with me. Spokeo is more user-friendly, gives you a one-report low price so you're not stuck in an endless renewal. How many of us need months of access to billion-people data bases? I have done reverse number searches where the site "fakes" going through all these data bases with the graphics very impressive and then you get the report and it's empty. Spokeo keeps the BS to a minimum and delivers a fairly thorough (if sometimes outdated) report to get me started.

I didn't contact that many people but chose carefully and ended up with someone great. We knew a lot of the same people but had never met. Now it feels natural and we're having a great time.