I joined in 2003, a married man looking for adventure outside my usual circle. Over the years I've had mixed experiences. I think in those early days, in Europe anyway, the women on the site were often escorts, and it took a while to find genuine people. I chatted with dozens, met and slept with a few in the first six months, as a result had one very active six month relationship and one still going strong with regular sex after 14 years. Definitely over the time I've been on the site the number of scams seems to have increased, although I have managed to enjoy myself with a number of like-minded women in different countries. I just do a bit of research before I travel. So you can have some fun if you take care. I have never advertised my 'equipment' on the site nor responded to women showing off their tops. Sex has to have some mystery, undressing is part of the fun. I also tried other sites with some success but the same issues. Buyer beware but it is possible to achieve what you want.