I started getting suspicious when I saw the exact same message from 2 different guys, then a different, but matching message from 2 different guys the next day. Now I have a message from someone who has never viewed my profile, so this site just confirmed - these aren't really messages. What a shame - it's a cool concept
UPDATE: response from customer service says that it you enable Mega-Wink, it can email people on your behalf... not getting a refund and not going to stop talking about it yet!