I first reviewed AM in 2018, after meeting my GF that I've been with 2-1/2 years now. We're madly in love, but maintain boundaries around our long-standing marital relationships (almost 30-years for her and over 50-years for me). We both still love our spouses and want to stay with them. We both support each other's marriage and talk about what's going on regularly. We work hard to protect each other and each other's marriage.
She asked me last summer if she could seek a BF #2, to give her the variety she experienced in her early sexual life. (That's quite a titillating story, but not for here). I said, "Yes" and we both went back on AM. In less than two-weeks she hooked up with smart, attractive, professional man that has a wife and a younger GF. He does not have sex with his wife, due to vaginal issues. His GF can seldom meet for family scheduling reasons, so he was looking for an eager woman with flexibility (my GF definitely fits the "eager" part). Anyway, they've been seeing each other for around five-months now and it looks like that's going to fit very well around my relationship with my GF.
This is during COVID-19. There seems to be a serious reduction in the number of women on the site, but there still seems to be around 40-men for each woman. I'm 73 and search for women from 50-years on up, that are attached and live within 40-miles of me AND they've signed on in the last 48-hours. My hope is that they're like-minded, close enough geographically for regular dates and I'm not wasting time with dormant accounts. This morning, that only produced 11-women and the oldest was 60-YO. When I was first on AM, there were two to three times as many women active. I focus on "New" members. Back when I got my GF, I looked almost exclusively at "New" members and I contacted her within 30-minutes of her activating. We had our first lunch date three-days later. Today, there was only one "new" woman and she only want cyber, for now.
This time the pickings are much slimmer, probably due to COVID. Still, I met a nice eager woman, born the same year as me and we've hit it off. We had our first meet and great date about 60-days after I signed on AM. (She had already been talking to others, but I was able to artfully interject myself and percolate to the top of her choices). We were wetting some sheets the next week. We've only met twice, mainly due to COVID issues and her husband's fragile health. We've actually set a target COVID new case level when we'll have our next fun. Hopefully, that'll be later this month.
Anyway, AM still very much has real women. COVID has greatly reduced the numbers, but I think that'll go back up in 2021; however, the men to women ratio will still be that 40-to-1, I'd bet.
You MUST serve up an A-game. DON't start with a $#*! pic. There's plenty of time for that later. You know that you're a contender when she asks for it! DO show a recent full bodied picture. Show yourself in a hobby, if possible. DO NOT lie about your age or weight. You'll never get past the first meet and greet and she'll not overlook it. (I had woman show up 10-years older and 100-lbs heavier. That made me feel horrible, so we communicated in meaningless platitudes until I got away and to my computer and said something like, "We just didn't click.)
Do talk about Trust, Respect, Protection of them and Protection of their existing relationship and Discretion. You have to read between the lines to judge if a woman might prefer you to come on strong, or keep it calm for the first message or two. Try to walk the line between being persistent and not being a stalker. These women are seriously seeking sex partners, BUT many want you to start respectfully, but then they'll love it when you move to graphic sexting, after she's signaled she wants to hear about your game. Be thoughtful and artful. No one size fits all.
It's real, it's real, it's real, but it's not easy. I'm pretty certain about the male/female ratio. My GF got over 100 horny propositions in just two-days. Only one in five or six even bother to look at my Profile. Part of that is due to my age, but part of it is due to that ratio of men to women.
Good luck. Hope you get you some.