I had high hopes for eharmony. Two of my friends found their husbands through this site. But my experience was awful. The men just didn't respond. At all. I got many matches and many lookers, but no responses to messages, compliments, or smiles. The experience took its toll. I'm now experiencing a pretty good case of depression and low self esteem from feeling totally rejected. I'm glad this site works for some people, but I wasn't one of them.