BHM used to be a force to be reckoned with when it came to hair growth, and topics of discussion. The owner, Russ, left years ago, and sold it to gawd knows.
It used to have hundreds of members, online, but due to YouTube, spammers, and other educational websites it lost it's followers. But the main reason? The last 12 die-hards that are left.
I hate to say this about the members in the Talk forum, but what's happened to it is sad. If you are open minded to dating other races other than black? Watch out. The 12 members will flame you off that TTT (Talk Talk Talk) forum faster than a horse can trot. They've been known to call black women that date other races - other than black: "bed wenches".. seriously?
If you state that education, working out, dieting (1 thread on that with several food threads), healthy lifestyle having cultural impact on the community, thinking of what we do today will impact the culture in the future, interacting/dating other cultures, learning from other cultures/languages, socioeconomic strategies, having class, self respect, and giving back to the black community should be tantamount? Well, you've come to the wrong place. They especially feel the "N" word is okay to use quite openly on that forum. But let a non-black person say it? Then of course, it's racist.
I was flamed off because the 12 members tend to believe that "twerking" is okay to do in public, television, etc. I countered them by saying: "Hey, how about showing off, your linguistic skills, your intelligence, showing off your college degrees, getting an education - and showing that off instead your butts?"
It was disheartening to see that these 12 members began loosing their minds. Especially when someone started the "gang up" with: "I'm sick of black folks talking about "getting an education" or "higher learning", etc. We can't we be us?"
Well, to be honest, sticking your butt in the air, shaking your a** while wearing tight shorts, might not get you as far as owning your own business, a degree, showing other cultures that we are just as competitive not only in dance, and sports, but in intelligence, as well as respect for your culture.
Of course, people of the same mind as the 12 members, joined the forum just to "give their 2 cents" - in favor of twerking, using the "N" word, stick to your own race, holy rolling, being fat, pigging out at fast food restaurants and letting it be alright to be a single mother - which most of them are.
They take amazing pride in their ability to flame in a group. To the point, they sit around posting about "Back in the good ole' days" where they had far more members that would flame people off the forum. And making people cry, or leave BHM because their feelings were hurt. Really?
Well, it looks like it paid off. You had over several hundred members. And now, just twelve. Maybe 13 on a good day. Otherwise, vendors just visit the site, spam, and move on.
One in particular named "Afro-kock" yes ladies.. is a huge attacker on those who choose not only to date other races? But because they aren't interested in him. And he is the most spiteful and childish of those members (not surprising at all). He used to post pics of himself, and to be honest ladies? I wouldn't take this guy out on a leash. But he claims he's "gorge".. (short for gorgeous) at first i thought it was because he was overweight and had a tendency to "gorge" (food) a lot. At least that was my take on the pictures. The gym is not his place of residency. Not by a long shot, and he's just average - if that.
I love to see black people with a mind to move forward working together. Communicating in a positive way. Who believe their actions today will impact their culture tomorrow.
Sorry, but you certainly won't find it on that forum. They are stereotypical - and proud of it.