California G.

I've been on Fubar just 2 months. In the short time I've been there, I have been hit up on by dozens of men, many of whom are not respectful. Many are overtly sexual despite my warning them to stop, and it clearly stated on my profile that I will not chat or friend men (or women) who are obnoxious, sexual or crass. Ultimately, I have had to block a few people.

I got into the game out of curiosity and quickly got interested in the various game options and ways to move up. With little investment --- $10 worth of bling-- I have managed to ascend to level 36 in two months, but with significant time spent there liking, rating photos, polishing other people's "bling", and enduring men who are overtly sexual and offering bling but expecting me to converse with them or send them private photos. Which I refuse to do.

Fubar is not for me a "dating" site, but sort of an interesting visit to another planet. I have watched some seemingly normal people on there, but plenty of sad and desperate men or outwardly attention seeking women spend hundreds, if not thousands of dollars, to achieve popularity and attention.

I will still continue to play but often find the environment depressing. Most of the men, with rare exception, look like losers or older guys seeking cheap thrills outside their marriages or steady relationships. While it is a technically "free" site, this IMO is a terrible way to meet anyone you might want to know in real life. I heard from one older gentleman (interested in me) that over the years, several women have duped him for "bling", some have visited him in real life and taken advantage of him. The man spends quite a lot of discretionary $$ on "credits" on Fubar, and in real life I believe has a very modest life. I don't think he is an isolated case, at all.

Rather than let Fubar become your costly addiction, why not engage with people in your community in REAL life. Volunteer at an animal shelter, a church, or get involved in other good deeds. Read books. Garden. Take a class. Improve your home. Find a better job. Seek a relationship (if that's what you are looking for) on more legitimate dating sites, or through clubs and other interests.

Fubar is a GAME, and a costly one if you get seriously addicted to achieving levels. The owners of Fubar are very clever, clever enough to see that people in this culture desire to be loved, admired, and have attention, and this is the platform upon which the game is run. Fubar creators are laughing all the way to the bank, at your expense.